Don’t worry so much.
Do your picking well and don’t ever settle for Mr Almostright. That’s a difficult thing to do since we’re called to love people, not to judge them, but not everyone is someone with whom you can have the holy, good and peaceful marriage that you want. This doesn’t necessarily have much to do with being discerning and picky - this is not a beauty contest or wine tasting. Either it will work or it will not and once you know, you follow through on it. You may like someone, but he may not be the one for you. So you stick to your principles, your choices, your reasons, your faith, your hope, and you don’t start a half-hearted relationship leading to who knows what kind of marriage.Do you think all of this discounting the power of prayer is pleasing to God?
I’ll answer that when some evidence of this ‘power’ is shown.
I have been on a rollercoaster of depression and suicide attempts since I was a small child and now am alive today and finally free because of Gods boundless love.
I too have been on the “rollercoaster”, for the most part, I think that’s everyone on this earth. I know what depression is, it affects me, and I’m sure it has affected everyone at one point on another, some people go through much longer periods, suicidal thoughts, are also another common thing, I too have had it.
Many have tried all that, including me, nothing good happens to everyone that takes that path. One might say “it’s only when God sees fit”, well keep thinking that, because frankly that’s a self-sealing argument and considered a fallacy, because no one can argue something against it.
Golly gee, let’s hope you realize it sooner rather than later
If we are meant to be single, then people eventually must come to some kind of closure through providence, it’s like a priest, they do not come kicking and screaming, it’s something they choose, you can’t be single kicking and screaming, it’s a choice. Maybe you want to be married but God eventually changes your heart to accept it, some people DON’T want to be single, that’s not providence, that indicates either something yet is to happen or they wish to be married, then extrapolate that to the examples of 40 or 50 year olds, this isn’t the OT anymore, no one lives till they’re 900
First of all, Catholic theology never stated the sun revolved. It is impossible for Catholic theology to state such a thing.
“If you will not hear the truth than no one can tell it to you”Many have tried all that, including me, nothing good happens to everyone that takes that path. One might say “it’s only when God sees fit”, well keep thinking that, because frankly that’s a self-sealing argument and considered a fallacy, because no one can argue something against it.
Golly gee, let’s hope you realize it sooner rather than later
If we are meant to be single, then people eventually must come to some kind of closure through providence, it’s like a priest, they do not come kicking and screaming, it’s something they choose, you can’t be single kicking and screaming, it’s a choice. Maybe you want to be married but God eventually changes your heart to accept it, some people DON’T want to be single, that’s not providence, that indicates either something yet is to happen or they wish to be married, then extrapolate that to the examples of 40 or 50 year olds, this isn’t the OT anymore, no one lives till they’re 900
Women’s chances of having healthy children GREATLY reduce by the time they are 38, chances of miscarriages and complications greatly increase, one might say “Oh God will see what’s fit and he will help me to have a healthy baby” - keep dreaming, take a look at some hospital statistics.
It’s like walking out onto the highway at 9 am with a blindfold thinking “I’ll be safe, God’s with me”.
Errors galore.
And bad people?
Posted on this thread a long time ago and thought I’d check it out again. Loved this post, chevalier. Someone will love all the logic about you, don’t talk it down.
Exactly. I’ve read several studies that focused on the marriages of practicing Catholics and Christians who believed that marriage was a life long commitment and not a temporary thing. The success rate for a life long marriage was around 85%-90%.It’s very easy to become discouraged when reading such depressing statistics, or when we see examples of bad marriages among our own friends and family.
However …
Keep in mind that these statistics are drawn from the entire pool of marriages: marriages among atheists, agnostics, pagans, liberal protestants, and others who do not see marriage as a lifelong Sacrament, but merely as a means to “happiness” … and consequently these folks are quite likely to jump ship when the going gets rough, because their “happiness” has been disrupted.
Someone on CAF (I believe it may have been agapewolf) once posted divorce statistics from couples who were completely on-board with the teachings of the Church regarding marriage (i.e., no artificial contraception) … and the divorce rate among these couples was incredibly low.
I think the key is to find a man of character … one who truly takes to heart Ephesians 5:25 : “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Also, one who understands that love is a choice, not merely a “feeling” … a choice to persevere even through storms, even through the “dry spells” which come to every marriage, even when they’re (gasp!) feeling momentarily “unhappy.”
Will it be easy to find such a man? Probably not. Will it be worth the wait, worth the search? Oh, yeah.