But, what is love and acceptance? That is at the heart of the discussions/arguments about reception of the Eucharist. How do we, as a Church, provide love and acceptance while refusing the sacraments to people in irregular marriages?
I agree that love and acceptance is important. How do we do that without denying doctrine?
If it were up to me communion would be available for many who are in mortal sin-- I think that Catholic Church made a grave error in setting this doctrine and it cant ever be undone. I realize it is not up to me so I try to never argue about it on this site. I want to be very respectful of Catholic teaching while I am here.
On the other hand I was and am shocked at the lack of spiritual support and guidance offered in the Catholic Church. Ultimately this is what caused me to leave the Catholic faith. I have been involved in spiritual communities that do so much better that there really is not any comparison, it is night and day, and you cant not see the lack after seeing the abundance elsewhere. This critique is bigger than the synod in question however but it does involve it.
Part of the problem as I see it is from cradle Catholics. I mean the good ones that were raised catholic, never strayed all that far, went to school, married had children and really didn’t get involved in any real sin. This group seems to be very naive about the nature of deep sin, how it comes about, and how to heal it. I sometimes get the feeling that they think people that are out there sinning are just enjoying the world and don’t want to live a moral life. You cant win the trust and confidence of most people this way.
This is a very inadequate concept of sin and the causes of sin. Sin is deep seated and the seeds of it are often sown early in childhood, before conscious memory even, and then reinforced by powerful models of sinful behavior, abuse neglect etc. I don’t think many people who have not walked this path realize how deeply the kinds of things I’ve been talking about warp the mind and heart of people
before it becomes a matter of will for them. Again it can take a long time for someone with this kind of deep sin in their life to heal and come around
to be able to. There are more people like this than you think, raised by addicts or alcoholics, physical abusers, sexual abusers, by people with mental illness, by narcissists, or raised by people who were raised by people like this who don’t have addiction or mental illness but who were profoundly effected by those that were.
The only people equipped to help change the hearts and minds of people caught up in this sometimes tragic generational lifestyle are those who have walked and are walking a
deep path of transformation. I see in the saints, and in the contemplatives, the very best hope for these people, but often that help is frustrated by a church so rigid that the sinner never comes, or does not stay. If they do stay there are not enough people with the intensity of spirituality and transformation to be qualified and ***available ***to really take the person under their wing and show them the way of Gods healing.
Again I see this as a profound sin of omission on the part of Christians but somehow outsourced onto the sinner in need of help.