It’s not a red herring if it pertains to the subject matter being discussed. I’m starting to think you just don’t know what it means. Sorta like the crowds that cry “strawman” without seeming to know what that means…
It’s a moral dilemma as I’ve identified and the only ethical course is to side with the woman. And hope she chooses life.
The reason for this is we default to Choice unless there’s a really good argument to be made.
You don’t have one. You just have a value preference, and that’s fine.
But it doesn’t give you the right to force anyone’s hand other than your own.