A man who thinks himself a woman and labels himself as such is simply identifying the psychological problem in his life and who he has become, the result of a journey of choices one takes in life and the effect and result of those choices; he is not identifying who he is intended to be.
Again, It’s not about following rules, it is about transformation of heart, mind and soul. That is what Jesus means when He spoke about carrying the cross and following Him; the point of carrying the cross is that it must lead to a complete crucifixion of our disordered passions, and the death to the old self.
The self-labeling of ”gay” or “trans” etc, only puts a person inside a psychological box. In reality, there are only two journeys a man can take in life; the first is the journey we personally take to become the person we become by following our own impulses and passions. The other journey is the way of the cross; a journey that scourges, crushes and crucifies the old self.
Instead of saying “I am a gay man”, the right label would simply be “I am a man”.
St John Bosco always spoke about having custody of the eyes and mind. This is because tiny seeds that we allow into our mind and heart can take root, grow and produce fruits. A bad thought can easily become a fantasy and grow into an act; the act becomes a habit; the habit becomes an addiction, and the addiction an obsession that ends up defining who we are, how we think about ourselves and how we relate to the world around us. A seed that takes root when we are very young has deep roots by the time one is an adult.
One problem we see is when people enter the Church and do not realize that it is a lifelong journey of transformation that we have undertaken, with the aid of God’s powerful life-transforming sanctifying grace. The problem we are seeing in the clergy today is of many men who refused to leave their old self behind, and thus has turned into a scandal for the Church.
