He was in the faces of their victims? He was there welcoming their souls into Heaven, for what sorrow can befall the heart of man which Heaven cannot heal?
God acts primarily through his creation (you and me). Millions are starving as we speak, what have you done about it lately?
We may not be able to stop the problem but we can contribute to its alleviation. God calls us all to feed the hungry, care for the sick, shelter the homeless and clothe the naked. Callings which the Catholic Church dutifully accepts.
If everyone were to follow the Churches example in this area do you think the world would be in the state its currently in?
My mom died two months ago. She was a very devout Catholic. She suffered for two years before she passed on. I don’t hate God.
Your attitude (inferred from the nature of the question) is similar to the Jews after the Exodus. God promised them a “land of milk and honey” but they had to suffer 40 years in the desert to get it. Many did not want to do this. They complained and fell into sin, some even wished to return to Egypt where they knew slavery and subjugation awaited.
They did this because they had a clear picture of what was behind them but could such a good one for what laid ahead.
The way I see it, the garden of Eden is like Egypt and are individual lives are like the desert. If we endure to the end then we will have our “land of milk and honey” for eyes have not seen and ears have not heard of what God has ready for those who love him.
God is only cruel if he does not compensate us for what evils he allows perpetrated against us.
You have to have faith in his promises. If you accept the premise that God is all-loving but not the premise that he is all-just and will give to each according to their due, then you are cherry-picking and only using suffering as an excuse for disbelief.
You can either have hope, courage, and faith in God or you can choose not to believe (or simply refuse to follow him) just because things didn’t turn out the way you would have liked them.
Any atheist who denies God must simply accept that the world just sucks and all suffering s ultimately meaningless.