AWESOME response to "enjoy these days they go by so fast"

[sdeco]

I LOVED this blog post. It perfectly puts into words my feelings about people who admonish young mothers to “enjoy every minute.”

clan-donaldson.com/2015/06/dont-listen-to-the-signs-sometimes-it-sucks-and-thats-ok/

 

[slh3016]

I LOVED this blog post. It perfectly puts into words my feelings about people who admonish young mothers to “enjoy every minute.”

clan-donaldson.com/2015/06/dont-listen-to-the-signs-sometimes-it-sucks-and-thats-ok/

Just had a guy that worked at Lowe’s tell me this as I was trying to herd my “cats” yesterday

 

[wild_thing]

Lol, so TRUE!

 

[Kelfa28]

Blech…

Yes, because I’m supposed to cherish every time my 3 year old has a melt down, refuses to nap or won’t let me have even a 5 minute break because she is hanging off of me all day long.

Or, when my 18 month old flips out when I hand her over to my husband…because, God-forbid, I can’t hold her every second or wants to figure out what food on her dinner plate is most “absorbent” by jamming it all into her milk and making a milk/spaghetti/bread stew.

Or…last night at the grocery store…my 3 year old needs to use the potty NOW and can’t wait until we go home and the bathroom is at the back of the store and my 18 month old needs to be carried because she can’t walk that fast but she screams because she wants to walk and then looses one of her sandals and I bend down to get it and she looses the other sandal and my 3 year old is getting upset because she needs to go pee…and I’m 8 months pregnant.

If anyone said something like that to me while the above was happening…well, if looks could kill is all I can say.

Is it wrong to count down the days to when your oldest starts school?
I’m this close to having a count-down clock set up.

 

[EasterJoy]

That’s funny, because when I see parents with twins I tell them: It’s hard now, but it gets better. If things go well for you, they’ll be in the same sports and you’ll only have one practice and one game to go to, instead of two, and that’s a good thing. Hang in there, anyway. It’s worth it.

The stupid and really the insidious thing about the signs is the implication that people are less precious as they get older. That isn’t true. The chances are that your children will still be charming when they are old enough to toilet themselves. If you play your cards right, they may even be charming when the tables turn and they are the ones toileting you.

The other thing about parents: Just tell them they’re generous. They are. They deserve recognition. It is a life with many rewards, but it is hard, too. It doesn’t take away from the “charm” to recognize that on their behalf.

 

[pensmama87]

Blech…

Yes, because I’m supposed to cherish every time my 3 year old has a melt down, refuses to nap or won’t let me have even a 5 minute break because she is hanging off of me all day long.

Or, when my 18 month old flips out when I hand her over to my husband…because, God-forbid, I can’t hold her every second or wants to figure out what food on her dinner plate is most “absorbent” by jamming it all into her milk and making a milk/spaghetti/bread stew.

Or…last night at the grocery store…my 3 year old needs to use the potty NOW and can’t wait until we go home and the bathroom is at the back of the store and my 18 month old needs to be carried because she can’t walk that fast but she screams because she wants to walk and then looses one of her sandals and I bend down to get it and she looses the other sandal and my 3 year old is getting upset because she needs to go pee…and I’m 8 months pregnant.

If anyone said something like that to me while the above was happening…well, if looks could kill is all I can say.

Is it wrong to count down the days to when your oldest starts school?
I’m this close to having a count-down clock set up.

Haha, my oldest starts preschool in the fall and I cannot WAIT.

I do feel like I cherish a lot of times with my kids. They are funny, and I do take time during the day just to be silly with them or watch them play.

But I know I’m already super thankful that my oldest can fairly reliably run for a towel and help me clean up spilled milk, or that he sort-of makes his bed, and can dress himself and use the toilet completely independently. I think when this baby comes he might surprise me by how helpful he is. I loved him when he was littler, too, and when he was a baby, but oh man was it harder!

I loved this blog post though because frankly, it is hard to be the only adult around lots of little kids who have no idea how much work you put in just to make sure they don’t die everyday.

I did hear from my MIL once that “the years fly by,” but she also added, “but each day feels like it takes forever.” And I can deal with that one.

 

[DaisymaeD]

These days DO go by so fast. True, the meltdowns and stuff are no fun, but the children really are little just for a short time. I didn’t wish the days away.

But I struggled with infertility and suffered many miscarriages, so I’m just so grateful for what I got.

 

[Convert_in_99]

These days DO go by so fast. True, the meltdowns and stuff are no fun, but the children really are little just for a short time. I didn’t wish the days away.

But I struggled with infertility and suffered many miscarriages, so I’m just so grateful for what I got.

This is me too. Moms and Dads I’m not underestimating your struggle at all, but those precious Angels of yours could not be here. And that is a far worse pain than anyone without severe infertility or reoccurant miscarriage could imagine.

 

[hesso12]

Good times goes past quickly.Bad times pass slowly.

 

[Convert_in_99]

Good times goes past quickly.Bad times pass slowly.

Very true!

 

[EasterJoy]

Haha, my oldest starts preschool in the fall and I cannot WAIT.

I do feel like I cherish a lot of times with my kids. They are funny, and I do take time during the day just to be silly with them or watch them play.

But I know I’m already super thankful that my oldest can fairly reliably run for a towel and help me clean up spilled milk, or that he sort-of makes his bed, and can dress himself and use the toilet completely independently. I think when this baby comes he might surprise me by how helpful he is. I loved him when he was littler, too, and when he was a baby, but oh man was it harder!

I loved this blog post though because frankly, it is hard to be the only adult around lots of little kids who have no idea how much work you put in just to make sure they don’t die everyday.

I did hear from my MIL once that “the years fly by,” but she also added, “but each day feels like it takes forever.” And I can deal with that one.

My parents and I enjoyed each other for a lifetime. I think we all preferred the years when everyone could manage their own toileting and hygiene. I like babies, don’t get me wrong, and toddlers are adorable. Independence feels pretty good, too, and I don’t find high school students hard to look at, either.

 

[Book_Worm]

These days DO go by so fast. True, the meltdowns and stuff are no fun, but the children really are little just for a short time. I didn’t wish the days away.

But I struggled with infertility and suffered many miscarriages, so I’m just so grateful for what I got.

This is me too. Moms and Dads I’m not underestimating your struggle at all, but those precious Angels of yours could not be here. And that is a far worse pain than anyone without severe infertility or reoccurant miscarriage could imagine.

We were married nine years before DD was born, and she is our only child.

Yeah, there were some tough days when she was little (and several more when she was an early teen). I remember crying because I couldn’t even go to the bathroom without holding her on my lap. But those tears were not nearly as bitter as the ones I cried each month when I learned, once again, that I was not pregnant.

I guess that’s the reason that I never found the reminders to enjoy each day to be annoying, let alone death-glare-worthy. They did make me take a few minutes to overlook the messiness and demands on my time and remember what a wonderful blessing she was.

Perhaps if I had several children I might have felt differently, but if that’s the case, I’m glad I never had more than one because I never felt “this sucks,” I never sat a friend’s table and bemoaned my fate, and never felt glad that the infant and toddler days were behind me so life could once again be “glorious.”

And I looked in on her sleeping face with joy every night until the day she got married.

I feel so sorry for that blogger.

 

[Xantippe]

We were married nine years before DD was born, and she is our only child.

Yeah, there were some tough days when she was little (and several more when she was an early teen). I remember crying because I couldn’t even go to the bathroom without holding her on my lap. But those tears were not nearly as bitter as the ones I cried each month when I learned, once again, that I was not pregnant.

I guess that’s the reason that I never found the reminders to enjoy each day to be annoying, let alone death-glare-worthy. They did make me take a few minutes to overlook the messiness and demands on my time and remember what a wonderful blessing she was.

Perhaps if I had several children I might have felt differently, but if that’s the case, I’m glad I never had more than one because I never felt “this sucks,” I never sat a friend’s table and bemoaned my fate, and never felt glad that the infant and toddler days were behind me so life could once again be “glorious.”

And I looked in on her sleeping face with joy every night until the day she got married.

I feel so sorry for that blogger.

Well, it may be especially annoying coming from people that are doing nothing to help.

 

[February]

I haven’t posted in quite some time, but still often lurk. However, I felt compelled to post on this topic.

My husband and I lost our first child, our daughter, in February. She was full term stillborn. I am 35 and don’t know if we will be able to have more children.

So yes, PLEASE cherish the time you have with your children. It is excruciatingly hard when your little saint is in heaven. None of us know the day or hour that we too will leave this earth.

 

[jlc2k2]

You know - different people deal with things differently. That’s not a reason to feel sorry for me or anyone else who doesn’t love every second of life with little kids. Sometimes a good vent session is the best way to recharge to get ready to do it all again. And listening to others say that your feelings are invalid does NOT help with recharging.

 

[Kelfa28]

sigh

This shouldn’t be a competition over who has it rougher.

I feel like I shouldn’t be saying anything because I just can’t against someone who has lost a child (or several) from miscarriage or still birth.

I’m sorry for those that have suffered such loss and I can’t imagine.

It is tough, in different ways, for all of us. Everyone has a cross to carry…and we can’t relate to each other all the time.

There is still truth…and for me that truth is struggling to get through another day…just like everyone else.
The truth is…yes, I want these days to speed up a little…basically so I can just sit down and relax.
The truth is I just can’t cherish or enjoy every single moment I have with my kids.
I’m only human and my patience can only go so far and frustration can only be buried for so long.

I don’t regret feeling the way I do…and I don’t feel guilty either. Nor should any of us.

This thread shouldn’t have turned into a competition on who has it worse.

 

[Xantippe]

sigh

This shouldn’t be a competition over who has it rougher.

I feel like I shouldn’t be saying anything because I just can’t against someone who has lost a child (or several) from miscarriage or still birth.

I’m sorry for those that have suffered such loss and I can’t imagine.

It is tough, in different ways, for all of us. Everyone has a cross to carry…and we can’t relate to each other all the time.

There is still truth…and for me that truth is struggling to get through another day…just like everyone else.
The truth is…yes, I want these days to speed up a little…basically so I can just sit down and relax.
The truth is I just can’t cherish or enjoy every single moment I have with my kids.
I’m only human and my patience can only go so far and frustration can only be buried for so long.

I don’t regret feeling the way I do…and I don’t feel guilty either. Nor should any of us.

This thread shouldn’t have turned into a competition on who has it worse.

Right.

Even Jesus didn’t enjoy every single minute with his disciples. Sometimes (no, actually a lot of times) they were stupid and selfish.

So, expecting mothers to enjoy every single biting episode, diaper blowout, stomach flu and ER visit is not reasonable.

I’ve read a couple infertility blogs and those ladies wanted babies DESPERATELY. But once they got them, they whine just like the rest of us. It’s OK. I had a late miscarriage, suffered terribly, had a baby, loved her to distraction, and am now counting down to when she starts two days a week at parents’ day out. I expect I’ll love her to distraction again when she’s 3.5 or 4. Things change.

 

[Kelfa28]

Right.

Even Jesus didn’t enjoy every single minute with his disciples. Sometimes (no, actually a lot of times) they were stupid and selfish.

So, expecting mothers to enjoy every single biting episode, diaper blowout, stomach flu and ER visit is not reasonable.

I’ve read a couple infertility blogs and those ladies wanted babies DESPERATELY. But once they got them, they whine just like the rest of us. It’s OK. I had a late miscarriage, suffered terribly, had a baby, loved her to distraction, and am now counting down to when she starts two days a week at parents’ day out. I expect I’ll love her to distraction again when she’s 3.5 or 4. Things change.

The disciples were HUMAN!

How many times did Jesus have to ask them where their faith was? Where their loyalties were. And they still doubted!
My goodness…Peter denied he even knew Jesus.

We are human too.

I saw my parents the other day and was taking the kids home. My parents had 2 kids and couldn’t have any more.
They now are expecting grandkids 4 and 5 in the next couple of months.
My mom was chuckling a little…seeing my minivan overloaded with all of the stuffed animals my kids insisted on bringing with them
She was chuckling because she remembered what it was like to be in the same position I was in.
I was like…“yeah, rub it in…you’re just loving this right now!”
She smiled and said “you bet I am!”
I said…“man, I can’t wait to be the grandparent…” and whatever else I said on top of it.

And I just thought that might never happen.

My grandmother had 4 kids and didn’t see her first grandchild until she was in her mid 60s and I know she started having her kids at a young age.
She had 3 grandchildren…two of which she saw on a regular basis and I don’t think she ever expected that.

So, I don’t know what is going to happen.

 

[Convert_in_99]

Please don’t think that I don’t understand how hard it is for you. I babysit for a living, child care is hard work, and very unpleasant at times. Some days I’m all to happy to see the parents come home! I didn’t mean it to be a competition. I was simply giving something to think about during the rough times. Forgive me if it came out wrong. :hug3: They are equally heavy crosses. If I had to choose though, of course I’d pick the house full of youngins. That’s my choice though.

 

[heidi_storage]

When this sentiment is delivered by misty-eyed older folks at the grocery store, I smile and agree; snark wouldn’t really feel right. When it’s a post showing up on my Facebook feed, though, it’s annoying.