It is always better to err on the side of charity and respect. Let me give you one hypothetical idea. When we speak to someone on these forums who presents as a consecrated religioius or ordained cleric and we assume a tone that is disrespectful. hostile toward the person, or dismissive toward the person’s state in life, whether we can confirm it or not, we are letting the world know that we have minimal regard for the consecrated person or the ordained person. This may not be the case at all, but that’s the way that we come across. Is that how we want to come across?
We communicate that we feel entitled to be hostie to the ordained cleric or the consecrated religious. We really send a message about our attitude toward those who are ordained or consecrated by vows. The medium becomes a message of its own.
I am reminded of the begger that Francis met on the road. Francis first turned away in disgust. Then thought better and returned. He kissed the begger on the lips and gave him alms. When he turned around he realized that it was no ordinary begger, but Christ himself.
I’m also remainded of St Benedict who bound his monks to offer hospitality to all who came to the abbey, becaue it was Christ at the door. Whether it was truly Christ or a thief, did not matter to Benedict. The point is that as long as there was a chance that this was Christ, the monks could not risk denying him, because he was not clearly visible.
The same happens when you meet a Brother, Sister, Deacon or Priest on the forums. Like Francis and Benedict, we cannot risk and bypass the opportunity to show others our respect for the consecrated person or the ordained person.
That is why Francis demanded of his brothers and sisters in all three orders that we venerate religious and clerics, regardless of the state of their soul or even their heresy. They continued to be consecrated religious or ordained men. Some were both.
This is certainly one way that the laity can help promote vocations to the religious life and to the ordained ministry, by showing the younger generation how special these men and women are to our faith tradition.
I hope this helps.
Fraternally,
JR