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What you are suggesting is that there be a definition of matrimony that is for two Catholics and another for those who are not Catholic when married. One wonderful benefit of out Faith is that anyone can read the Catechism and see what the Church teaches. Notice for matrimony Catholics view it as a Sacrament not just for Catholics but for all Christians who are Baptized… The words of the Old and New Testament are very clear on what God intends for marriage. Jesus was even stricter than Moses and Genesis.If a properly catechised individual understands the Catholic marriage is a sacrament and goes into a marriage with another who is also properly catechised, then both enter a marriage with the understanding of the magnitude of the sacrament and the Catholic Church’s perspective on marriage and divorce. However, if you set aside this specific condition, why are people expected to have retroactively Catholic teaching?
I believe the most important idea to come away with is that however the process or situation is resolved, our Pope has emphasized what Jesus Himself stated as our chief aim: to love God and love others. If this two-fold command is the lens through which we view all situations, then mercy and grace will be shown to all involved.
1614 In his preaching Jesus unequivocally taught the original meaning of the union of man and woman as the Creator willed it from the beginning permission given by Moses to divorce one’s wife was a concession to the hardness of hearts.[106] The matrimonial union of man and woman is indissoluble: God himself has determined it “what therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”[107]
1615 This unequivocal insistence on the indissolubility of the marriage bond may have left some perplexed and could seem to be a demand impossible to realize. However, Jesus has not placed on spouses a burden impossible to bear, or too heavy - heavier than the Law of Moses.[108] By coming to restore the original order of creation disturbed by sin, he himself gives the strength and grace to live marriage in the new dimension of the Reign of God. It is by following Christ, renouncing themselves, and taking up their crosses that spouses will be able to “receive” the original meaning of marriage and live it with the help of Christ.[109] This grace of Christian marriage is a fruit of Christ’s cross, the source of all Christian life.
1616 This is what the Apostle Paul makes clear when he says: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her,” adding at once: “'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one. This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the Church.”[110]
1617 The entire Christian life bears the mark of the spousal love of Christ and the Church. Already Baptism, the entry into the People of God, is a nuptial mystery; it is so to speak the nuptial bath[111] which precedes the wedding feast, the Eucharist. Christian marriage in its turn becomes an efficacious sign, the sacrament of the covenant of Christ and the Church. Since it signifies and communicates grace, marriage between baptized persons is a true sacrament of the New Covenant.[112]
Note baptized persons… not Catholics. Bible verses also say nothing about the parties even having a Faith… just natural law. If one is born a member or becomes a member of the Catholic Church the situation is the same for both. The annulment process is much quicker and easier for non-Catholic to get. No idea what the delay in your case was if your husband was not married in an official ceremony for a baptized Faith. If he was married in a service of another Faith, Catholic teaching treats that marriage with the same respect of a Catholic Marriage. I know it is tough. My spouse filed for divorce for selfish reasons and I am the innocent party…both baptized Catholics, she broke the bond… I am expected to keep it, in her absence. Only way to get an annulment is to find one of those “reasons” somehow… It was a valid marriage, I am not tempted to lie to be able to remarry. I am also in the position of following Church teaching when I do not want to be single. Sometimes the correct teaching is tough. If God intends marriage to be forever and no man can divide the one He has formed, His words have meaning. It would have been nice if God had said unless she leaves you or unless you are not Catholic. He is all knowing and certainly knew what was going to happen. In Africa if a man converts to the Catholic faith he has to tell all but one wife he can’t be intimate with them since he has only one wife. Glad you are now completely within the Faith marriage and all.
If a marriage can be ended by the will of one party during the marriage we need to change our teaching to match that for all married couples and teach that from the start. I know you didn’t say this so it is not in response to your post but should a faithful Catholic be held to a more restrictive definition of marriage than those entering the Church after marriage? If we are to defend marriage how would that work? Either the word of God in the old Testament and Jesus in the New Testament are true or they are not, marriage either can be ended or it can’'t. (decree of nullity says no marriage existed at all so it doesn’t violate God’s instruction.) My point was that everyone Catholic, non Catholic or convert should be able to look at church teaching and understand what it means without a Canon Lawyer interpreting it for us.