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Shinobu
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That’s easy to say. Do you think I want to go to my Father and ask him for more money when he is already helping me?
I do not wear “designer wear.” I wear timeless, classical clothes – much of which I have owned for several years.Some people use the free internet access at the library. Or a friend’s house. Given Shinobu’s situation, this is likely the case.
I volunteer with our parish’s St. Vincent de Paul conference. I have worked with clients who are jobless or on fixed income and literally do not have a dollar left over to spend on extras. The last case I worked was getting clothing for a teenage girl who had recently been reunited with her mother (who is on medical disability). The girl was returned with nothing but the clothes on her back, and the mother was faced with either buying the girl a couple of things to wear for school or paying rent. They didn’t have extra money to even shop the thrift stores, so our conference assumed the cost for clothing from our metro council’s store, as well as some new things that were not available from the thrift store. We also frequently give clients food so that they can free up a little money to keep their homes out of foreclosure or keep the heat on in the winter. $5 is a lot for someone who doesn’t have anything.
Nota Bene, it’s nice that someone gave you a Coach belt. I wish my friends and family were as generous (those things are what, $200?). I certainly can’t afford to spend that kind of money on myself and neither can most people.** All this talk about designer wear** (and its cost), Nordstrom’s (where many can’t afford to shop except on clearance) and country club attire is off-putting. Church is not an exclusive club for those who can afford the attire.
Shinobu, wear your modest and clean jeans and take comfort in the fact that the Lord knows you are doing your best. Don’t worry about what others think. God bless you and I’ll pray that you find work soon.
Says you.If we walk through the same parishes today, *most *Catholics seem to be still dressed in an extremely leisurely and/or downright unacceptable manner
It would be a far different question if Catholics always dressed in an extremely leisurely manner, while Protestants always dressed more formally, but that’s simply not the case.That’s a good question. I was trying to come up with an answer, but I just can’t. Hmmm…
I see you don’t have an answer either…Says you.
Are you “Crusader”? How many user names have you gone through here?
The only way to shop!I do not wear “designer wear.” I wear timeless, classical clothes – much of which I have owned for several years.
I OFTEN shop at the Nordstrom Rack – their clearance outlet…
Fascinating analysis – it sounds very logical. One question though. Why are so many “rebels” clustered in the Catholic Church, and not within Protestantism?One thought–and it’s just a thought–
Until the 1960s, most societies historically took seriously the idea of a separate mode of dressing for the sacred and for the secular. While Protestants shared this idea especially in the 18th and 19th centuries, and have re-embraced it today, in the period of the 60s and 70s there was a “rebellion” against authority which carried over into the realm not just of church but even of “work”–remember “dressing down Fridays”, and “business casual?”
But in the glitzy 80s, with rebellion safely in one’s “organic” past and the new “toys” and “gimme” mentality, we began the slow way back toward “dressing appropriately”. . .with one exception. The rebel, be s/he upper, middle, or lower class, continued on with his or her stubborn pursuit of “being true to MYSELF” and “egalitarianism”. Add into the mix the 80s Catholic “social justice” overkill and voila!–we have the seething mix of rebel, would-be “do-gooder”, “egalitarian” Catholic who just “can’t understand why we are fussing about clothes when there are so many more important things” (few if any of which they actually attempt to address themselves to), or bleat and moan piteously about how unfair we’re being to the poor and homeless with our shameless focus on–gasp–external appearances.
Too many think that “dressing up” is just an “outward sign” and conversely that “dressing down” IS NOT AN OUTWARD SIGN, but rather shows the “honesty and sincerity” of the dressed down person, whereas a “dressed up” person is condemned out of hand for being pretentious, “outwardly focused”, “insincere”, prideful, vain, etc. etc.
But you can’t have it both ways. If “dressing up” is an outward sign, so is “dressing down”. . .anything but sheer nakedness is obviously an “outward” covering. And if “dressing up” can equate to attempting to be “what you’re not”, so is “dressing down”, because any article of clothing is something we are, in our natural, or naked state, “not”.
:clapping: :clapping: :clapping: :clapping: :clapping:Hi Shinobi
Please see my earlier post re Jesus not caring what we wear and how that attitude is what makes Our Lord so great. The only people who judge you on what you wear are those who are superficial; it is what is in your heart that counts. The exception is those who dress very promiscuously (sp?) as they are showing their heart to be filled with lewd thoughts (my personal opinion). Don’t let the holier than thou types put you off. They did me and I’m still nearly home once more…

Wow, Nota Bene, how un Christain of you :tsktsk:You pay for Internet access?
You maintain a computer?
I sincerely hope that one day you will have the $5.00 necessary to buy a nice dress at a good thrift store – hopefully a Catholic one.
wow, who are you? Gee, you must know it all, did you talk to God on the phone this a.m. and he told you to tell us all how he wants us to live? :bigyikes:If you really would like to wear a dress to Mass as your earlier posting suggests perhaps he could loan you $5-10.00 for a dress? It might come in handy when you are looking for a job as well…
Yup, you’re Crusader all right. Presenting your opinions as fact, and asking others to explain them.I see you don’t have an answer either…
I agree with youGod doesn’t care what you wear, the important thing is that you show up.
I wear a jacket and tie, but only because I am an usher. You are welcome in our parish anytime and I’m sure Monsignor agrees.
We have a young priest who wear sandals to say mass (even on the coldest days in winter), and he is the nicest person you will ever meet. To me it reminds me that Jesus probably wore sandals all the times.
BUT I would not go overboard though, tee shirt and shorts are okay in the summer, if they look neat. IF you can afford decent clothes it would be a sign of respect to the Almightly if you can show up with with something appropriate.
As far as anyone noticing, it’s really none of their business.
God’ s just happy you made the effort to show up.
Everything in moderation INCLUDING moderation.
Christ’s Peace.
There are a LOT of churches in Italy ( the Domo in Milan, and San Marco in Venice ) that require appropriate dress to enter especially during Mass and they will ask you to leave or not let you in at all.
I don’t know rcn…he also sounds a lot like Beng…Yup, you’re Crusader all right. Presenting your opinions as fact, and asking others to explain them.
You said “*most *Catholics seem to be still dressed in an extremely leisurely and/or downright unacceptable manner”. Simply not so.
Hey, that’s exactly what my neighbor says. Linda (not her real name) refuses to wear a bra under her very tight fitting shirts. She says this is because bras make her uncomfortable but many of the teenage boys and some of the men at church joke amongst themselves saying that she just wants to show off her DD implants. She also always wears very short shorts in the summer or short mini skirts and always with high heels. So, the next time I see the teenage boys with their jaws down to their kneesGod doesn’t care what you wear, the important thing is that you show up.
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I wish those suggesting that would use the numbers provided.Hey, that’s exactly what my neighbor says. Linda (not her real name) refuses to wear a bra under her very tight fitting shirts. She says this is because it makes her uncomfortable but many of the teenage boys and some of the men at church joke amongst themselves saying that she just wants to show off her DD implants. She also always wears very short shorts in the summer or short mini skirts and always with high heels. So, the next time I see the teenage boys with their jaws down to their kneesand their eyeballs falling out of their sockets:bigyikes: I will remember to tell them "God doesn’t care what you wear, the important thing is that you show up."