I believe that it is time for us to look at where we have been on this topic. This is what we have learned so far:
- Luke 1: *[26] And in the sixth month, the angel Gabriel was sent from God into a city of Galilee, called Nazareth, [27] To a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin’s name was Mary. [28] And the angel being come in, said unto her: Hail, full of grace, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women. [29] Who having heard, was troubled at his saying, and thought with herself what manner of salutation this should be. [30] And the angel said to her: Fear not, Mary, for thou hast found grace with God.
[31] Behold thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and shalt bring forth a son; and thou shalt call his name Jesus. [32] He shall be great, and shall be called the Son of the most High; and the Lord God shall give unto him the throne of David his father; and he shall reign in the house of Jacob for ever. [33] And of his kingdom there shall be no end. [34] And Mary said to the angel: How shall this be done, because I know not man? [35] And the angel answering, said to her: The Holy Ghost shall come upon thee, and the power of the most High shall overshadow thee. And therefore also the Holy which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God.
[36] And behold thy cousin Elizabeth, she also hath conceived a son in her old age; and this is the sixth month with her that is called barren: [37] Because no word shall be impossible with God. [38] And Mary said: Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it done to me according to thy word. And the angel departed from her. *
From this entry we see that at this point Mary was already bethothed to Joseph, which in Jewish tradition, she was already married to him. Yet she was still a virgin.
She also asked *How shall this be done, because I know not man? * This would be classified as a silly statement for someone already married, unless her intent was to remain a virgin. But anyhow we know that even though they were already married in a Jewish sense, she and Joseph was not sexually active.
- Luke 1: *[18] When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child, of the Holy Ghost. [19] Whereupon Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing publicly to expose her, was minded to put her away privately. [20] But while he thought on these things, behold the angel of the Lord appeared to him in his sleep, saying: Joseph, son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife, for that which is conceived in her, is of the Holy Ghost.
[21] And she shall bring forth a son: and thou shalt call his name JESUS. For he shall save his people from their sins. [22] Now all this was done that it might be fulfilled which the Lord spoke by the prophet, saying: [23] Behold a virgin shall be with child, and bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us. [24] And Joseph rising up from sleep, did as the angel of the Lord had commanded him, and took unto him his wife. [25] And he knew her not till she brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name JESUS. *
From reading the highly contested verse 25 it is obvious at this point that they were not having intercourse during the pregnancy. We also know that the INTENT of verse 25 is to highlight the fact that this was a virgin that gave birth to Jesus and that there is no way He belonged the Joseph or anyone else. The INTENT was never to discuss the sexlife of Mary and Joseph.
- So at this point we know two things: 1) There was no sex before the conception of Jesus even though it was in their marital rights to do so. 2) There was no sex after the conception of Jesus even though it was in their marital rights to do so. So the question is why would this fact change? Holy Writ teaches that the parents of Jesus were not sexual active.
Of course the response is that the secondary intent of v 25 was to show that they did have sexual relations afterwards. This I would disagree about for this is calling people to meditate upon the sexlife of Joseph and Mary and that would be an anomaly in Scripture.
- We also know that the marriage of Joseph and Mary was unique because the child is unique. So standards and customs do not apply to a unique situation. Perfect example is Jesus remaining celibate throughout his life even though it is custom for young men to be married and yet He did not marry.
- You would also figure that if Joseph and Mary were sexually active there would be children since there is not proof that either was sterile. Of course the challengers have used the few verses in the Bible that refer to Jesus’ brothers and sisters. Yet it has been shown in other posts that these were in fact close relatives. The brothers and sisters of Jesus that were named were Jame the Less, Jude (both Apostles), Joseph, Simon, and Salome. We know that these are actually the children of Alpeaus and Mary of Clopas. Mary is referred to as a sister of Mary but having two Marys being siblings would be a stretch so it is assumed that Mary of Clopas was actually Mary’s Cousin.
So we know six of Jesus’ cousin’s names but no where is mentioned a name for a sibling of Jesus. That in my opinion would be extremely odd. One if there were sisters I believe that they would have been involved in preparing Jesus’ body for burial. But only his cousins and Mary Magdalene and most probably Martha were involved.