The pending question of homosexual unions is a legal, secular question, not a spiritual one. When the Church involves itself in politics and attempts to decree how Catholics should stand on political issues, it should expect that many won’t agree with it.
This is ridiculous. God’s moral law is binding on everyone, regardless if they’re Catholic or not. If you believe in Truth, you must also state that it doesn’t change when someone suddenly becomes a politician. If a person believes in something, it’s a no-brainer that one should operate from what one believes in all aspects of his/her life or else he/she is by definition a hypocrite! Furthermore, Catholicism is the truth, and if you really believe that, there’s no justified reason to think that Catholics should not influence our society on issues of morality. A moral society will always be a better society than an immoral one!
Homosexuality is a moral issue – a non-negotiable moral issue! I used to think that civil unions for homosexuals were ok, but I’ve come to understand that it will become a huge pitfall if we allow it in, just like allowing contraception into our society has hurt society. Look, if we allow immorality into our society, which so-called same sex marriage is and contraception still is, then we’re cooperating with a serious attack on the fundamental unit of society, which is the family (and it will be the cooperator’s sin equally, not just those who enact the given homosexual “marriages”). Since the 1960s, America has been attacking the family via the Pill’s mainstreaming affects. Look at the current divorce rate in our country (i.e. 1 out of every 2). Catholics are on par with that divorce rate too! Not surprisingly there are a ton of Catholics that are all for contraception as well, which destroys families by divorcing the procreative aspect of marriage AND sex, leaving casual, free-love, and pleasure. Not only to this, but it has also led to fatherless homes, or what my grandma’s generation would call broken families, which I am a product of, and an unspoken message that says “well, heterosexuals can’t seem to be getting this right, why not let homosexuals have a go at it too?” and you’ve got our current problem.
Why is homosexual marriage a further attack on the family? 1) It is against the natural law. It is impossible for homosexuals to procreate via natural means. Thus, a homosexual couple would have to invoke a thrid party, which even in fertility issues between heterosexual couples, the Church is against that idea. Thus, same-sex “marriage” can’t be marriage because there’s no reproduction naturally possible. 2) EVERY child deserves the right to have a man as a father and a woman as a mother. When children go through their gender identity phases and psychological development in general, they learn by imitation (especially before they can verbally communicate). How is a male child going to learn how to be a man if he has two mothers? How can a female child learn to be a girl if she has two fathers? How are either genders going to learn about the opposite gender if they are not allowed to develop a schema for what a man/woman is like within their own home? Those are SERIOUS psychological deveolpment problems that all of human history has not yet had to face (I studied psychology and history in college, and even the Romans didn’t do stuff like adoption to homosexual couples that I’m aware of). 3) If we redefine marriage, this is what’s probably going to happen to you one day: your daughter/son comes home from school and says, “Mommy/Daddy! Guess what I learned in [public] school today! My teacher read us a story about a charming prince who lived in a castle until, one day, an evil, fire-breathing dragon kid-napped him and took him to his cave. Luckily, Sir Lancelot raced to the rescue, slayed the dragon, and then the prince and Sir Lancelot fell deep in love and lived happily ever after. Love is so wonderful, isn’t it mommy/daddy?” Now you put yourself in that situation as a parent and you honestly tell me that you’re ok with society encroaching like that on your and your child’s religious beliefs. It WILL certainly happen with time! 4) Finally, the worst thing of all: If we redefine marriage to include same-sex partners, it will only open up the flood-gates for redefinition after redefinition. Most pro-gay marriage folks portray religion as discriminatory, which is garbage (at least with the Catholic Church… I won’t speak for other religions). Chaste homosexuals can partake of the Blessed Sacrament just as chaste heterosexuals can – including married men and women, who are called to chastity just like everyone else in the Church; thus, no discriminaion at all. Furthermore, the pro-gay marriage camp usually says they are for marital equality, but I’d bet I can find at least one or two instances of marriage in which they’d NOT be in favor. How about polygamy? Marriage between a 50 year old man and a 10 year old girl? Two 5 year old boys? A 27 year old man and a 2 year old regardless of gender? A mother and her son? A Father and his son? Two first cousins? A brother and sister or two brothers/two sisters? Any combination of polygamy within the immediate family (i.e. a father married to the mother and his 3 daughters)? How about a whole brothel of women who are married to each other, yet postitute themselves out to men and other women? How about a sadist male being able to practice his “sexual pleasures that he was born with” freely under the law on his unconsenting wife? What about a guy and his dog (or any other pet you want to insert into the equation)? You may think that’s absurd, but if PRECEDENT is established to redefine marriage, don’t think for one minute that pedophiles, sex offenders, and any other person seeking to justify his/her immoral desires will not use the fallacious “born that way” argument to further their own cause. IT WILL HAPPEN!