I go to the Blessed Mother in prayer the same way I go to my family and friends in prayer. I ask the Blessed Mother to pray for me as I would go to a family member or friend. The second part of the Angelic Salutation is Holy Mary, Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
Notice pray FOR us, as we ask her intercession with her Divine Son. If I can ask you to pray for me, how much more the Blessed Mother, who beholds the Holy Trinity in perpetuity.
Prayer consists of four elements:
1. Adoration. This belongs to God alone, as only God is to be adored for who He is. Veneration of the saints, including the Blessed Mother, comes from their doing the will of God. Since the Blessed Mother always does the will of God, she is venerated above all the saints. But we do not adore her as we adore God. The Father, Son and Holy Spirit are the only persons worthy of adoration.
**2. Thanksgiving. **We give thanks to God for all the graces He gives us. We also thank the Blessed Mother and the saints for their prayers for us, in the same manner we thank a family member or friend for praying for us here on earth. Giving thanks to the Blessed Mother does not take away anything from God, just as thanking a friend for praying for us would not take anything away from God. In fact, God is pleased we show gratitude to those who pray for us, as we are part of the Mystical Body of Christ.
**3. Reparation. **We tell God we are sorry for our sins and promise to amend our lives. We can ask the Blessed Mother and the saints to ask God for forgiveness. This shows humility, as we know we are unworthy to approach Jesus because of our sins. We may go directly to God or use the intercession of the saints. This also does not take away from God, just as when we have wronged someone on earth does not take away from God when we ask them for forgiveness. After all, didn’t the prodigal son say to his father, *“Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee, I am not now worthy to be called thy son” *(Luke 15:21).
4. Petition. This we may ask Christ directly, or go through the saints, or go through the holy souls in purgatory, or go through those here on earth. This is the most used element of prayer, as we constantly ask God for what we want and need. God is more likely to grant our prayer when we have others pray for us. After all, Christ told us, "For where there are two or three gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them" (Matthew 18:20).
You err when you restrict prayer to adoration alone. Christ said, “Amen, amen I say to you: if you ask the Father any thing in my name, he will give it you” (John 16:23). When we ask the saints to pray for us, we are asking them to pray to Christ, not to the Father. Therefore, this type of prayer is petition, as we are asking for a favor from the Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, through the saints, the same way I ask a friend to pray for me.
Asking the saints to pray for me is no more worship than asking a friend on earth to pray for me.
Pax tecum