Keep on being decent. Please. Not enough decent guys. Mature women don’t fall for the “bad boys.”Now I’m confused. If I’m a decent guy, I’m showing women what they’re looking for in a man. Yet everyone knows women fall for the “bad boys.” So what’s a guy to do? Do I hold the door and fold the laundry? Or do I act the good-looking rebel who plays by his own rules?
My husband broke my heart a long time ago and I have never been the same. It is only through the Grace of God that I have held it this long. It paid off but I still feel broken inside. I look at my child and in her I see the rage that he once had so it still lives on. I am not happy.
It’s good to hear you are doing better as a couple.
Thank you.
Pray I can, too much help I can not as I don’t want you to make moves on me
You are making some terrible assumptions here. I don’t think you should make it sound like this is all on the OP. She needs to stop going to the chat sites, but please don’t lay all of the “blame” and heavy lifting upon her. I am not sure she needs to be lectured on what to do by someone that has made a joke about her situation and has told her, all under the guise of joking that men are horrible creatures.
This is what I was thinking when I said it can be a near occasion of sin for some, even in otherwise licit cases. If you’re in a position where the sexual attention of other men might present a serious temptation, it’s probably wise to avoid situations where you’re chatting one-on-one with a man online.
I can not give her husbamd advice only her. And as someone familiar with marraige counseling they always advise you do what is right regardless.
Based on what I know about the OP (which is based on nothing but a skimming of this thread), getting away from the chat sites is a good idea.
If anyone knows of a good chat forum other than this one. Let me know. The one I found is obviously not good.
Why the need for so much chatting? That is what you need to ask yourself. If you immerse yourself in CAF, and a interest site like Pinterest, how much more connection do you need online? Perhaps instead, you could chat in person as a volunteer at your church, or hospital.
I’m confused…you mean CAF?
You don’t have to answer this, but why not spend time repairing your relationship with your husband instead?
I said something like that and got yelled at by Irishmom, so lookout!You don’t have to answer this, but why not spend time repairing your relationship with your husband instead?
I wish you all the best. God bless.
CAF is not a chat place, although many of us DO chat and PM.
You might want to volunteer more and meet and make friend IRL.
What?
I’m not sure about this. Yes, it’s important to address any problems that may remain between OP and her husband, but it’s also not healthy to expect a single person to meet all of a person’s social needs, even if that person is a spouse. It seems that OP didn’t look for friends in the right place, but I don’t think that means that looking for friends is a bad thing in and of itself.
Oh, believe me, I have.
Thank you for your honesty. Of course we are curious creatures and must be careful to what extent we take these conversations. I stepped over the line of what is modest though I have not engaged in any cyber sex. It seems that is what these men are after. I find it easier on the nerves to speak to women. I have male coworkers and we speak but it is very platonic and respectful.
Right–I’m always very careful to avoid anything that could lead to trouble, and have never done the cyber sex thing, which is kinda creepy to me anyway.
A main point of what she said you responded to included “Have feelings” working around many women myself friendships are one thing, but “Not a Problem” of having feelings errr okay, I consider myself one of the more unscrupulous people on here, but wow…I feel like an uptight now because even I think being married and engaging with others you have feelings for is bad
