The deep South is a culture all its own, where chivalrous gentlemen are not only appreciated but expected.Here in the South, men tell women they are pretty and us women are not spineless snotty wimps who get our feelings hurt over it.
Don’t be unattractive can be a tad difficult when one falls in the lower half of male attractiveness as I do. In the office and online? Fails, both of them. So I don’t work in offices anymore and I haven’t tried online dating in years. In real life and away from the job? I do ok because I dress well, I dance well and I can let my personality out.Yea, if you’re going to compliment women and don’t want to come across as a creep “be attractive, don’t be unattractive” covers it pretty well. If you’re ridiculously good looking things that lesser men might get in trouble for will just be cute and quirky.
I’ve seen it done. The company was principled enough to usher someone out the door even if he was falsely accused. So there is that. Doesn’t happen often; usually it’s a written reprimand that goes into an employee’s HR file. While an employee may be allowed to retain his job as you think, his career advancement is in all likelihood dead regardless of the truth of the accusation.He was fired for poor job performance. The comments were just a convenient pretext to get rid of a troublesome employee without significant blow back. No company is principled enough to get rid of profitable employees over a minor impropriety. I always see company policy as a bit like the rules in the Matrix, there are rules that can be bent and others that can be broken. You just have to know the difference and be sure to earn enough money to outweigh your negative aspects.
I don’t consider a company “principled” when it fires someone who is falsely accused simply because of the accusation, without bothering to determine if the accusation is even true. That’s guilty until proven innocent, and the accused isn’t even afforded the opportunity of prove innocence, or even granted a fair hearing. A principled company would do the right thing, not just the knee-jerky thing.I’ve seen it done. The company was principled enough to usher someone out the door even if he was falsely accused. So there is that. Doesn’t happen often; usually it’s a written reprimand that goes into an employee’s HR file. While an employee may be allowed to retain his job as you think, his career advancement is in all likelihood dead regardless of the truth of the accusation.
I agree with you in all respects. But by your definition there are very few “principled” companies. More often it’s a case of back room pressure being put on the accused to resign for the good of the cause. Sometimes this takes the form of letting the accused know he won’t be up for promotion anytime soon. The whole circus is insidious that way.I don’t consider a company “principled” when it fires someone who is falsely accused simply because of the accusation, without bothering to determine if the accusation is even true. That’s guilty until proven innocent, and the accused isn’t even afforded the opportunity of prove innocence, or even granted a fair hearing. A principled company would do the right thing, not just the knee-jerky thing.
The women who actually point out that the man is ignorant, inept or lustful (instead of forcing a smile to protect the guy’s ego) are usually labelled as spineless snotty wimps anyways.If a man is ignorant, inept or lustful it’s his problem, not mine and I’m not going to get hurt over it.
That seems reasonable. Generally speaking, I don’t understand why someone would comment on the opposite sex’s appearance if they are not flirting or friends already.I don’t compliment women on their appearance except my wife. However, I sometimes compliment women (and men) if they perform an act of kindness or nice gesture.
Possibly. Or they may just be ignorant, inept or lustful themselves.The women who actually point out that the man is ignorant, inept or lustful (instead of forcing a smile to protect the guy’s ego) are usually labelled as spineless snotty wimps anyways.
I don’t know if you’re being ignorant on purpose, but the whole point in all of these posts is whether it’s appropriate in that setting or not. Most women don’t put on makeup to impress her male colleagues, but to look presentable or professional.A woman puts on makeup in order to look nice and a man tells her she is pretty with makeup on. That’s sort of the point, isn’t it? Mission accomplished. So the woman gets offended because someone tells her she looks good with makeup on when that was the reason for using the makeup in the first place?
Awkward people say it. But some people would be offended by either way.Also, who says “you look pretty with makeup on” instead of “you are pretty”?
I doubt the men who work for me would prefer having their job reviews conducted with a witness, but I suppose if they requested one …How about not refusing to speak altogether but refusing to speak in a one on one situation with nobody else present? Lots of males at work no longer want to be alone with a woman in a conference room or office