How could a spouse who cheated live on happily? Thats what I don’t understand. If I had been in bed with another person while married to a loving and faithful spouse I’d feel so darn miserable and unworthy and Im sure it would take ages to forgive myself.
I do believe that every person is a very weak and that’s why avoiding near occasions of sin is such an obligation. None of us are excempt from falling into sins we never thought we could fall into. I have learned that lesson in my own life. So rather I believe myself capable of every malice and take precautions not to place myself in temptation.
The duty to truth is not absolute. Much of healthy human interaction is based on actually NOT saying all that is true. There is no obligation to tell the truth about everything. Not even between spouses.I do not understand why, apart from questions of justice toward the wronged spouse, of avoiding future temptation for the adulterous spouse, and of whether the adulterous spouse ought to live in private guilt forever, no one thinks of a duty to the truth itself. Why do some many people prefer a comfortable lie? I cannot understand.
Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No man comes to the Father but through Me.”
I think the cheating spouse can live with remorse and firm purpose of amendment to never cheat again and with the intention of repairing the harm they did to the relationship all without unburdening themselves and spreading the pain to their spouse. Think of it as doing the same thing the cheater would be expected to do to mend the marriage if they confessed the sin and their spouse agreed to stay together. Only the innocent spouse is spared the pain and the guilty spouse deservedly gets to carry it for both of them.
I 100% agree with this.
well put.
Amen to that, my dear!
regardless of the cost? I find that hard to believe. Working in absolutes is a dangerous thing. Remeber Adam and Eve and the “tree of the knowledge of good and evil”? Adam and Eve gained “truth” but lost innocence.
Have you told him every bad thought you have had about him or about others (the sinful kind)? Do you share with him all the dreams you have? Do you share with him all your fears? All your desires in your heart? All the doubts that pass through your mind?Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No man comes to the Father but through Me.”
Umm, and considering He referred to Satan as the “father of lies”, I would say that there IS an absolute duty to the truth, especially between spouses. My husband can count on me NEVER to lie to him, or hide ANYTHING from him.
Our Lord tends to work in absolutes. He is Himself absolutely good–and true.
Not only is “my right” to the truth so important, Truth itself is so important. You also presume that I would be unable to continue in my family life. Having seen, in a family close to me, a wife able to continue on, and that without benefit of the Sacraments.
Rights to the Truth, however, we do have as children of the Truth. Even slaves don’t get lies.
Your analogy is false because they did not seek Truth (which came to them in the garden in the cool of the day); they simply disobeyed.
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we all know that we do live some comfortable lies. scripture does not have to say this for it to be true. comfortable lies are a requirement, at times, for human interaction and emotional survival. I don’t need scripture to tell me this.
I do not presume you would be unable to continue on. I never said that. I do presume you are a feeling, reasonable person. Any feeling, reasonable person would be greatly distraught by such revelations. and, it will affect the way you parent your children, react with your friends, and live you life.
Modern man holds nothing higher than his own comfort.
No people of any other age have either.
Actually, various ages have admired various qualities. Not all of the qualities have been what we as Christians are to hold up as good, but neither have they all been “comfort”.No people of any other age have either.
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