Autocrats aren’t. There is no such thing as a true Autocracy or Monarchy. Nominally, potentially. But reality, impossible.
A King/Queen has the appearance of being at the top, but how many Monarchs were overthrown or fought against by their own country? Who could forget the Magna Carta> The French Revolution? Or farther back, all the Roman Emporers who were overthrown?
A king must have support of his Vassals. And his vassals must have support of their vassals - until you reached the basic serf/peasant/citizen/etc.
Therefore, there is only Oligarchy. On the other side, Democracy isn’t stable, and the will of the people quickly bends to attacking vulnerable minorities. Eventually, Democracy leads themselves into the ground, leading to voting in an absolute ruler (anyone remember Caesar, Hitler, etc?). Therefore, Democracy just leads to Oligarchy.
Furthermore, Anarchy also isn’t. Anarchy lasts long enough for people to rally behind an absolute ruler, who will then control an Oligarchy. Therefore, almost every type of government transitions to Oligarchy, which periodically dissolves into Anarchy.
And the one thing they all have in common: Violence. They are all very violent in nature. Look at any of the past Autocrats/Monarchs/Totalitarian/Transition Governments of the past century, or even the present.
The only government to appear to be above this violence, when closely guarded, is a Republic form of government. But that isn’t without it’s failures. But the election of Thomas Jefferson marks the first involuntary change of power - of an entire country - without violence. Yet, for someone reason, what that represents is evil

as opposed to the violent transitions of Oligarchies, Democracies, and Anarchies
Russia and Europe still doesn’t understand peaceful transitions of power. It’s a very American thing - and it’s starting to disappear if you look at many reactions of the American Left. Perhaps if the Russians could understand peace, then there wouldn’t need to be a missile shield? Or a NATO? Maybe Russia could even join NATO - instead of trying to attack and threaten countries thinking about joining NATO?