I am glad to read this discussion of this topic. As usual, I find the news reports disturbing without more information.
I am just going to take a deep breath and have faith that the Holy Spirit will work all of this out, with the help of thoughtful people such as yourselves.
My knee-jerk reaction is: as our Holy Mother is praised as perpetual virgin and mother (among other things), and indeed as consecrating virginity to the Church has always been considered a special sacrifice, why should it not be acknowledged as a separate type of consecration?
I think there probably are those who are given a special grace from early life to overcome temptations against chastity and remain virgins, and so consecrate themselves in a special way to God. That does not take away from other types of consecration.
Obviously there are different gifts given to us by the Holy Spirit. In our modern society, the emphasis is on the equality of all the vocations, and I know that we can all become saints through the vocation to which we are called. But some are given greater spiritual gifts than others. I mean, I am no John Paul or Mother Teresa! I see people who are ‘greater’ then I, by virtue of their gifts, every day. I think we are also called to venerate them, to honor them without jealousy.
My point is: Isn’t it a sort of jealousy that demands that the calling of Consecrated Virginity be made open to everyone who has a commitment to chastity, or unmarried chastity or whatever? Those are similar gifts, but not the same gift.
Am I off the mark?