Yes, exactly. I’m experiencing so many emotions that I didn’t realize that I would have as I never planned any of this. I really thought God was calling me to the single life and to devote myself to my career of helping and protecting others. The postpartum OCD probably isn’t helping too. I keep having these thoughts that if my baby is being cared for by someone else, that something bad will happen to her.
The only constant will be change. Learning to roll with it is difficult, but you’ll get there.
Yes, we were married in the Church. We took pre cana and did all the necessary steps toward being married in the Church by our parish priest.
Most centers in my area ask for $170-180 per week. So that would be $680-$720 per month. I don’t know if it would be more since I have an infant. I remember a friend of mine saying that they charge a few dollars more per day depending on age.dochawk:
Not to pry, but if you don’t mind me asking…how much is child care where you live?? For us, having one child in full time daycare is about $650 - $700 a month.
Of course no one would suggest that you need to throw everything out. However, if there are certain items that are dangerous to babies and toddlers (such as a wicker basket with sharp parts being broken off) they should not be accessible to children. You mentioned putting your baby in a crib to keep her safe, but if you are watching someone else’s child, yes, it is wise to have a place (playpen, gated off, whatever) to put her so that she can’t get into dangerous things if you have to turn your back for a few minutes. This isn’t cruel; it’s responsible.
You would need to get out and start asking around. We did not pay extra for our children as infants.
My father is still working full time. My youngest sister is 14 years old, so my mom is still home schooling. I turned 24 yrs old this year.
While there is some merit to this (yes, it is wise to be financially secure) it does not account for the many circumstances that might make it necessary for a mother to work for pay, even if she doesn’t want to. If something happens to her husband medically, if her husband loses his job, if there is a child with expensive special needs, if cost of living rises more than is affordable, etc., women can and should be willing to help as much financially as the situation allows.
True, I probably should stop. I only have postpartum OCD not OCD. I never had this before giving birth. Hopefully it will subside with time. ThanksAgent94:
The only constant will be change. Learning to roll with it is difficult, but you’ll get there.
May I suggest, since you have brought up the OCD that you do not have to respond to each person in this thread. I could be wrong, maybe this thread is helping soothe your anxiety as many of us are telling you our positive experiences with childcare. I’ve just noticed that you systematically answer each of us and want you to know you don’t have to.
This issue seriously never came up when we were preparing for marriage. Our priest never brought it up. Even the couple teaching the classes never brought up. Maybe in your time it was different?
Also, I just realized, what if we had to put three little ones in daycare, that is if God Blessed is with two more, we would have to pay $170 per week per child. That would be $2040.00 per month for all three. That would be probably be 3/4 of my paycheck. Is it worth it?TC3033:
Most centers in my area ask for $170-180 per week. So that would be $680-$720 per month. I don’t know if it would be more since I have an infant. I remember a friend of mine saying that they charge a few dollars more per day depending on age.dochawk:
Not to pry, but if you don’t mind me asking…how much is child care where you live?? For us, having one child in full time daycare is about $650 - $700 a month.