yes, alone in the laboratory with him and the door shut due that this is a control temperature environment. This has been my major issue.
Let me tell you what i predict. Once he feels he can get comfortable with me, he will start snapping our of no reason, bringing back the past (over sensitive), and try to control me again. I wasn’t allow to socialize with my co-worker. I ignored him of course, which lead him to massive tantrum. Now that i understand that something isn’t right with him, i will do everything i can to avoid any conversation with him and restrain to do my job period.
In the pass, i tried everything to calm him down.** He used to have paranoia that the institute was against him.** He would show me how unhappy he was that i wasn’t in the lab as much (once he grabbed my leg, i tried to avoid him and only come in the lab when necessary). So to keep him happy, i made more effort to do my other responsibility in this lab instead of my office, which leaded him to be more controlling with me.** He even decided that i had an affair with another co-worker.** Not long after, i literally started to have a heat attack symptom. I printed them all and show them to him. I told him, do you see these symptoms, i got them all. Why do you make sure to make my life at work stressful? At this point, i thought that finally i reached his common sense. He started to make more effort to control himself. He wasn’t great but he would back up more easily. Until the next fall, when he started his strange behavior again until the day he followed me everywhere in the building. I lost it that day and i went into a shock state, since then i never could be in the same room as him. Nothing i could do, to get him to be reasonable.
Anyway, i hope that this investigation, gave him the chill and he will not cross the line again. He haven’t been able to respect the rule during the investigation and tried to contact me anyway. So i know well that i cannot trust him so i have to do the best with this and keep my head above the water.
I will have a recorder on me. I will let him know that i need this to take personal note. I hope that this will make him behave. My counselor didn’t recommend that i tell him, she fears, it might enrage him. So i am thinking about it. Anyway, at this point, i can only rely on prayer and trust God that he knows what he is doing. My priest and church has been so good.
The good of this, it brought me closer to God. I think this is very valuable. I looking for the day, when i can think of this as the past, for now, i will do my best and hoping this arbitrary meeting will turn anyway in my favor.
Blessings!
