Difficult Marriages

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Praying away. I’m on the same day as Jules, that’s the only way I can keep track lately!
 
I have been like this with my husband in the past. I used to have very severe depression and I could hardly bear to be around people. Depression is a very selfish illness and I was aware only of my own suffering during that time. Perhaps your wife is depressed. She can get help for depression if that is the problem. Also, she may be afraid at a subconscious level because she has had a child with difficulties. This is not to say that she doesn;t love the child and that she doesn’t love you. Just that she is afraid of not feeling in control of the outcome of having sex. Perhaps she (or both of you) could get counceling to help find out what the problem is?
Thank you for your insite. It is very hard to get my wife to admit to anything. She denies that there is a problem. I have tried to get to counceling but that was an insult to her as that is only for people who have somthing wrong with them. Mind you I was seeing one at the time I asked her!
 
I’m on day 8 too. I hope everyone else has kept going with us. Haven’t heard from a few of you in a while…
 
I’m on day 8 too. I hope everyone else has kept going with us. Haven’t heard from a few of you in a while…
Today is day 9 of the Novena for me.

I started on the 27th and today makes day 9. I just finished it right before I came on here!!!:extrahappy:

I am so glad I completed that it feels so good! 😃

I am looking forward to the next one!!! Maybe the Holy Spirit Novena? Unless someone has other ideas, I’m open.👍
 
Not sure how many days I have prayed the Novena. I spoke to my husband tonite and he is going out with the kids tomorrow, I asked if I could go, he said yes. But he doesn’t want me to think anything about this. We are just friends. I told him I love him and we are still married and he said for how long, and I relpied for the rest of my life. I am still here after 2 months of being separated. Please pray that my day goes well tomorrow. I desperately need all of your prayers right now. I humbly thank you for all of your prayers and I continue to pray for all of our marriages that are in such need. Thank you all again and again. God bless.
Kristen
 
Today is day 8 of St. Rita for me.

Persevering in my prayer life, even while on vacation with family, cooped up in a hotel room, no privacy or quiet!! 😉

Blessings to you all!
 
Am continuing to pray this Novena and today I went out with my children and husband and it was a good day. He told me today that he does not want this. He wants to be here with his family but, he doesn’t know if he can. He has never not wanted to be with me he has always wanted to be with me he but, doesn’t know if he can. All he thinks about is the hurt over the last 8 years. We had some good days but they were far and few between. I continue to pray that the Holy Spirit give him strength, courage and forgiveness in his heart that only He can give. I continue to pray for us all and God bless you for your prayers.
Kristen
 
I am thinking of praying the Holy Spirit Novena. Anyone care to join me? If so, let me know that way we can decide when to get started. God bless you!!
 
I am thinking of praying the Holy Spirit Novena. Anyone care to join me? If so, let me know that way we can decide when to get started. God bless you!!
Can you please post the Novena and I will be sure to pray it with you. Just let us know when to start…
 
Can you please post the Novena and I will be sure to pray it with you. Just let us know when to start…
Hey Jules11, here is the Novena to the Holy Spirit by EWTN;
ewtn.com/devotionals/pentecost/seven.htm.

If anyone else is interested in participating with us, you are very welcome to join. 👍 Let us know.
It would be awesome to have a bunch of us praying at the same time. :angel1:

Jules11, when do you think is good to start it? Today? Tomorrow? :rolleyes:
 
Hey Jules11, here is the Novena to the Holy Spirit by EWTN;
ewtn.com/devotionals/pentecost/seven.htm.

If anyone else is interested in participating with us, you are very welcome to join. 👍 Let us know.
It would be awesome to have a bunch of us praying at the same time. :angel1:

Jules11, when do you think is good to start it? Today? Tomorrow? :rolleyes:
I’m so sorry I haven’t replied til now. I have had a very very busy and stressful week. I’ve hardly been on here.
How about we start on Sunday, that’s tomorrow for me…Sunday the 14th. That ok?
 
I’m so sorry I haven’t replied til now. I have had a very very busy and stressful week. I’ve hardly been on here.
How about we start on Sunday, that’s tomorrow for me…Sunday the 14th. That ok?
That’s okay, Jules11. I can definitely understand. 🙂

Tomorrow Sunday, the 14th is fine with me on starting the Holy Spirit Novena for our marriages.

Tomorrow will be our day 1 of the Holy Spirit Novena, if anyone else is interested in joining you are more than welcome!

Have a great night.

Blessings.
 
Here’s the first prayer. Thought I’d make it easier for everyone and put it in a post.

This is said after the day’s prayer…

Novena to the Holy Spirit for the Seven Gifts
ACT OF CONSECRATION TO THE HOLY SPIRIT
On my knees before the great multitude of heavenly witnesses, I offer myself, soul and body to You, Eternal Spirit of God. I adore the brightness of Your purity, the unerring keenness of Your justice, and the might of Your love. You are the Strength and Light of my soul. In You I live and move and am. I desire never to grieve You by unfaithfulness to grace and I pray with all my heart to be kept from the smallest sin against You. Mercifully guard my every thought and grant that I may always watch for Your light, and listen to Your voice, and follow Your gracious inspirations. I cling to You and give myself to You and ask You, by Your compassion to watch over me in my weakness. Holding the pierced Feet of Jesus and looking at His Five Wounds, and trusting in His Precious Blood and adoring His opened Side and stricken Heart, I implore You, Adorable Spirit, Helper of my infirmity, to keep me in Your grace that I may never sin against You. Give me grace, O Holy Spirit, Spirit of the Father and the Son to say to You always and everywhere, “Speak Lord for Your servant heareth.” Amen.

To be recited daily during the Novena

PRAYER FOR THE SEVEN GIFTS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT

O Lord Jesus Christ Who, before ascending into heaven did promise to send the Holy Spirit to finish Your work in the souls of Your Apostles and Disciples, deign to grant the same Holy Spirit to me that He may perfect in my soul, the work of Your grace and Your love. Grant me the Spirit of Wisdom that I may despise the perishable things of this world and aspire only after the things that are eternal, the Spirit of Understanding to enlighten my mind with the light of Your divine truth, the Spirit of Counsel that I may ever choose the surest way of pleasing God and gaining heaven, the Spirit of Fortitude that I may bear my cross with You and that I may overcome with courage all the obstacles that oppose my salvation, the Spirit of Knowledge that I may know God and know myself and grow perfect in the science of the Saints, the Spirit of Piety that I may find the service of God sweet and amiable, and the Spirit of Fear that I may be filled with a loving reverence towards God and may dread in any way to displease Him. Mark me, dear Lord, with the sign of Your true disciples and animate me in all things with Your Spirit. Amen.

(To be recited daily during the Novena)
 
Novena to the Seven Gifts Of The Holy Spirit

FIRST DAY

Holy Spirit! Lord of Light! From Your clear celestial height, Your pure beaming radiance give!

The Holy Spirit

Only one thing is important – eternal salvation. Only one thing, therefore, is to be feared–sin· Sin is the result of ignorance, weakness, and indifference The Holy Spirit is the Spirit of Light, of Strength, and of Love. With His sevenfold gifts He enlightens the mind, strengthens the will, and inflames the heart with love of God. To ensure our salvation we ought to invoke the Divine Spirit daily, for “The Spirit helpeth our infirmity. We know not what we should pray for as we ought. But the Spirit Himself asketh for us.”

Prayer

Almighty and eternal God, Who hast vouchsafed to regenerate us by water and the Holy Spirit, and hast given us forgiveness all sins, vouchsafe to send forth from heaven upon us your sevenfold Spirit, the Spirit of Wisdom and Understanding, the Spirit of Counsel and fortitude, the Spirit of Knowledge and Piety, and fill us with the Spirit of Holy Fear. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts
 
SECOND DAY (Saturday, 6th Week of Easter)

Come. Father of the poor. Come, treasures which endure; Come, Light of all that live!

The Gift of Fear

The gift of Fear fills us with a sovereign respect for God, and makes us dread nothing so much as to offend Him by sin. It is a fear that arises, not from the thought of hell, but from sentiments of reverence and filial submission to our heavenly Father. It is the fear that is the beginning of wisdom, detaching us from worldly pleasures that could in any way separate us from God. “They that fear the Lord will prepare their hearts, and in His sight will sanctify their souls.”

Prayer

Come, O blessed Spirit of Holy Fear, penetrate my inmost heart, that I may set you, my Lord and God, before my face forever, help me to shun all things that can offend You, and make me worthy to appear before the pure eyes of Your Divine Majesty in heaven, where You live and reign in the unity of the ever Blessed Trinity, God world without end. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts

THIRD DAY (7th Sunday of Easter)

Thou, of all consolers best, Visiting the troubled breast, Dost refreshing peace bestow.

The Gift of Piety

The gift of Piety begets in our hearts a filial affection for God as our most loving Father. It inspires us to love and respect for His sake persons and things consecrated to Him, as well as those who are vested with His authority, His Blessed Mother and the Saints, the Church and its visible Head, our parents and superiors, our country and its rulers. He who is filled with the gift of Piety finds the practice of his religion, not a burdensome duty, but a delightful service. Where there is love, there is no labor.

Prayer

Come, O Blessed Spirit of Piety, possess my heart. Enkindle therein such a love for God, that I may find satisfaction only in His service, and for His sake lovingly submit to all legitimate authority. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts
 
Novena to the Seven Gifts Of The Holy Spirit

FOURTH DAY (Monday, 7th Week of Easter)

Thou in toil art comfort sweet, Pleasant coolness in the heat, solace in the midst of woe.

The Gift of Fortitude

The Gift of Fortitude By the gift of Fortitude the soul is strengthened against natural fear, and supported to the end in the performance of duty. Fortitude imparts to the will an impulse and energy which move it to under take without hesitancy the most arduous tasks, to face dangers, to trample under foot human respect, and to endure without complaint the slow martyrdom of even lifelong tribulation. “He that shall persevere unto the end, he shall be saved.”

Prayer

Come, O Blessed Spirit of Fortitude, uphold my soul in time of trouble and adversity, sustain my efforts after holiness, strengthen my weakness, give me courage against all the assaults of my enemies, that I may never be overcome and separated from Thee, my God and greatest Good. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts

FIFTH DAY (Tuesday, 7th Week of Easter)

Light immortal! Light Divine! Visit Thou these hearts of Thine, And our inmost being fill!

The Gift of Knowledge

The gift of Knowledge enables the soul to evaluate created things at their true worth–in their relation to God. Knowledge unmasks the pretense of creatures, reveals their emptiness, and points out their only true purpose as instruments in the service of God. It shows us the loving care of God even in adversity, and directs us to glorify Him in every circumstance of life. Guided by its light, we put first things first, and prize the friendship of God beyond all else. “Knowledge is a fountain of life to him that possesseth it.”

Prayer

Come, O Blessed Spirit of Knowledge, and grant that I may perceive the will of the Father; show me the nothingness of earthly things, that I may realize their vanity and use them only for Thy glory and my own salvation, looking ever beyond them to Thee, and Thy eternal rewards. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts

SIXTH DAY (Wednesday, 7th Week of Easter)

If Thou take Thy grace away, nothing pure in man will stay, All his good is turn’d to ill.

The Gift of Understanding

Understanding, as a gift of the Holy Spirit, helps us to grasp the meaning of the truths of our holy religion BY faith we know them, but by Understanding we learn to appreciate and relish them. It enables us to penetrate the inner meaning of revealed truths and through them to be quickened to newness of life. Our faith ceases to be sterile and inactive, but inspires a mode of life that bears eloquent testimony to the faith that is in us; we begin to “walk worthy of God in all things pleasing, and increasing in the knowledge of God.”

Prayer

Come, O Spirit of Understanding, and enlighten our minds, that we may know and believe all the mysteries of salvation; and may merit at last to see the eternal light in Thy Light; and in the light of glory to have a clear vision of Thee and the Father and the Son. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts

SEVENTH DAY (Thursday, 7th Week of Easter)

Heal our wounds–our strength renews; On our dryness pour Thy dew, Wash the stains of guilt away.

The Gift of Counsel

The gift of Counsel endows the soul with supernatural prudence, enabling it to judge promptly and rightly what must done, especially in difficult circumstances. Counsel applies the principles furnished by Knowledge and Understanding to the innumerable concrete cases that confront us in the course of our daily duty as parents, teachers, public servants, and Christian citizens. Counsel is supernatural common sense, a priceless treasure in the quest of salvation. “Above all these things, pray to the Most High, that He may direct thy way in truth.”

Prayer

Come, O Spirit of Counsel, help and guide me in all my ways, that I may always do Thy holy will. Incline my heart to that which is good; turn it away from all that is evil, and direct me by the straight path of Thy commandments to that goal of eternal life for which I long.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE. Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts
 
Novena to the Seven Gifts Of The Holy Spirit

EIGHTH DAY (Friday, 7th Week of Easter)

Bend the stubborn heart and will, melt the frozen warm the chill. Guide the steps that go astray!

The Gift of Wisdom

Embodying all the other gifts, as charity embraces all the other virtues, Wisdom is the most perfect of the gifts. Of wisdom it is written “all good things came to me with her, and innumerable riches through her hands.” It is the gift of Wisdom that strengthens our faith, fortifies hope, perfects charity, and promotes the practice of virtue in the highest degree. Wisdom enlightens the mind to discern and relish things divine, in the appreciation of which earthly joys lose their savor, whilst the Cross of Christ yields a divine sweetness according to the words of the Saviour: "Take up thy cross and follow me, for my yoke is sweet and my burden light.

Prayer

Come, O Spirit of Wisdom, and reveal to my soul the mysteries of heavenly things, their exceeding greatness, power and beauty. Teach me to love them above and beyond all the passing joys and satisfactions of earth. Help me to attain them and possess them for ever. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts

NINTH DAY (Saturday, Vigil of Pentecost)

Thou, on those who evermore Thee confess and Thee Adore, in Thy sevenfold gift, Descend; Give Them Comfort when they die; Give them Life with Thee on high; Give them joys which never end. Amen

The Fruits of the Holy Spirit

The gifts of the Holy Spirit perfect the supernatural virtues by enabling us to practice them with greater docility to divine inspiration. As we grow in the knowledge and love of God under the direction of the Holy Spirit, our service becomes more sincere and generous, the practice of virtue more perfect. Such acts of virtue leave the heart filled with joy and consolation and are known as Fruits of the Holy Spirit. These Fruits in turn render the practice of virtue more attractive and become a powerful incentive for still greater efforts in the service of God, to serve Whom is to reign.

Prayer

Come, O Divine Spirit, fill my heart with Thy heavenly fruits, Thy charity, joy, peace, patience, benignity, goodness, faith, mildness, and temperance, that I may never weary in the service of God, but by continued faithful submission to Thy inspiration may merit to be united eternally with Thee in the love of the Father and the Son. Amen.

Our Father and Hail Mary ONCE.
Glory be to the Father SEVEN TIMES.
Act of Consecration, Prayer for the Seven Gifts
 
Hey y’all,

I let life get in the way and fell off the novena wagon for a few days, but I’m excited to start the Holy Spirit novena with everyone today!

There were some new developments in my annulment case and I think God may be using those things to help bring me more healing from my divorce. I’m glad to see our prayers are helping others!
 
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