Good morning-afternoon Simpleas,
I think that once we understand a person, it is very easy to let go of the negativity. Indeed to hang onto the negativity, once we understand, is practically impossible. The negativity, in my experience, simply goes away.
Isn’t it normal and natural to resent murder, theft, all the acts that hurt people, even when the harm done is subtle? This is part of the function of the negative emotions, right? We react negatively, and we are compelled to correct ourselves and others (depending on who the perpetrator is). Yes, life “teaches” us what to resent.
The question then is, did the person know what they were doing in terms of knowing all of the relevant information? If for example, the careless driver knew that by a particular action he was endangering the life of the Queen Mum (whom he loves), would he have driven the same way? Probably not. Yet, the aware mind is one that loves and values everyone.
And then, once you understand them, does all of the negativity gradually just fall away, is that your experience?
Yes, there is a healing through understanding and forgiveness. As far as “knowing what some people’s real motives are for their choices”, that is what this thread is about! Investigating ALL of the “real motives” that people have. They are limited in number. We can understand all of them.
Well, think about it though. Our capacity for resentment, like our capacity for anger, is God-given, it is “natural”, as you said. So, why would God give us something that destroys our light?
But isn’t that the pattern of what happens in nature, that there is always something being destroyed so that something new can be created from the ashes? Indeed, the conscience is a beautiful thing, and a bit of destruction is necessary for its development. The destruction is only temporary, the product is beautiful.
I think you know my answer to that. The capacity to resent is itself is a gift from God. When we are caught up in resentment, the light does not shine from us, and we are automatically blinded at the time. When we are blinded, we are not “knowingly” rejecting, right? Like the crowd who hung Jesus, we do not know what we are doing.
Thanks, Simpleas!