Aux,
There is no lack of Ontology…
Male and Female He created them…
Gay men are homosexual
Gay women are homosexual
Men that think, desire, prefer to be other than what they are created as are homosexual
Wome that think desire, prefer to be other than what they are create as are homosexual
Homosexuals are Homosexuals…pretty clearly an Ontologic understanding as far as I see…
That’s completely wrong from both a philosophical perspective – wanting to be a not-man does not mean being an anatomical male who is satisfied being an anatomical male & wants to have sex with men – which is what homosexuality is.
It’s also wrong based on my personal experience as someone who has severe gender dysphoria but is NOT transsexual nor homosexual.
My first therapist badly misdiagnosed me because she was badly trained & my case is very severe. I later encountered a friend’s therapist, who was expert, who recognized instantly that I was not; and when my first lost their license for mispractice, this was confirmed by another.
The difference between me and actual transsexuals is that a true transsexual always asserts “I’m a girl” from the time they can talk, and never acts any other way, even if they conform to gender norms for a time… Mere strong aversion to being considered male is not sufficient – there has to be a positive, definite sense of being female.
None of this makes sense to people without any kind of gender dysphoria. For those of us who have it, it’s like they live in a kind of flatland, while we live by navigating in an oddly warped social space. No wonder some people come to the false conclusion that there are multiple genders.
I never had any ambiguity about my sexual orientation: it was towards women, not men. But I couldn’t have emotional relationships with women, because in any one on one situation, they discovered, apart from necking, that something was not quite right with me. I did not have any overtly effeminate behaviors; I was just behaved in a mostly introverted manner in most social situations I could only relate to girls or women from the interior identification as one. It wasn’t the sort of behavior of the “let’s braid each other’s hair” which IS common among gay men; I didn’t realize that I was basically trying to relate as a lesbian.
I was able to simulate male friendships; but they were problematic too, because I was basically acting the part of a pal. I didn’t have any sexual attraction towards those friends; but unlike the girls, they didn’t notice.
None of this meant that my brain sex was actually female. It meant that I never socialized successfully as either male or female.
The idea that just wanting to be “other than you are” means one is “homosexual” is silly. My sexual orientation is that of any heterosexual male; but I lack any sense of being male.
I live now with the condition as a cross to bear but also a singular gift, since it allows me to be impartial . I do NOT consider myself a third or fourth or fifth gender: I don’t try to act male or female, masculine or feminine. I don’t appear to be androgynous.
The only reason I make this public avowal is that there are a lot of Catholics struggling with this, and I think it’s important for them, if they come across these discussions, to recognize that, yes, it happens to Catholics, and no, strong gender dysphoria is not necessarily addressable by the means offered by the transgender community. Those who ARE really transsexual, who have never felt they were anything BUT girls, will know that; those who have not always had that feeling but have never been comfortable with being designated as males will know that too.
I affirm “male and female he created them”. I do not think homosexual practice is morally conformable to Church teaching, and that God’s grace is abundantly available for anyone who can’t quite fit into what appear to be simple categorizations from people who assume that, because they are unable to imagine it, they can understand what it is.