Public versus private. If your husband was caught, wouldn’t you rather it were a ‘one time event’ ? Or would you like to tell you family, friends, and the public that your husband was cheating on you. BTW, if you did the latter, everyonr would assume it was your fault.
I can guarantee this isn’t how I’d be seen if my husband cheated, and I know this because I’ve watched infidelities explode around me in my circle over many years. Cheaters in my world (male or female) are squarely blamed, as they should be. Nothing I’d say would change that – if I claimed my husband had been “hoodwinked,” people would think I was far sadder and more pathetic than simply being a woman who’d been cheated on. They’d think I was delusional.
I also have a problem with this, largely because I don’t blame women for their responses to a horrifying reality that I pray I never experience. I think it’s foolish to claim it’s the other woman’s fault – but I wouldn’t go out of my way to find fault with a woman who responded that way. The worst has to be knowing that if you stay with someone who cheated, you’re publicly viewed as an idiot. And I know Catholics who view women who’ve been cheated on this way.
Who says men hate HRC? Isn’t that like saying white people hate Obama?
Good post. I hope some Obama supporters will deign to respond.
I told my husband that if he ever had an affair, there were three rules he had to followPlease be honest: there were herds of them! Plus, she didn’t really care except that he was not being “discreet”.
Some white people do hate Obama. Presumably not all because he’s black. Some men hate HRC. Presumably not all because she’s female.
Yet if you divorce him, you are viewed as a failure. Basically, women never come out as good in this situation.I can guarantee this isn’t how I’d be seen if my husband cheated, and I know this because I’ve watched infidelities explode around me in my circle over many years. Cheaters in my world (male or female) are squarely blamed, as they should be. Nothing I’d say would change that – if I claimed my husband had been “hoodwinked,” people would think I was far sadder and more pathetic than simply being a woman who’d been cheated on. They’d think I was delusional.
I also have a problem with this, largely because I don’t blame women for their responses to a horrifying reality that I pray I never experience. I think it’s foolish to claim it’s the other woman’s fault – but I wouldn’t go out of my way to find fault with a woman who responded that way. The worst has to be knowing that if you stay with someone who cheated, you’re publicly viewed as an idiot. And I know Catholics who view women who’ve been cheated on this way.
What if I said “Some white people (somewhere) hate Mother Teresa”?
One of my guy colleagues’ ex-wife’s lovers was a married man. When he was still married to her he contacted the woman regarding the infidelity of her husband. She responded she knew, but was staying married and not going to do anything about it. Apparently the husband was careful enough that none of her friends and family would find out, and she decided it was better to look the other way to the cheating than deal with the embarrassment of people knowing she had a wayward husband.I can guarantee this isn’t how I’d be seen if my husband cheated, and I know this because I’ve watched infidelities explode around me in my circle over many years. Cheaters in my world (male or female) are squarely blamed, as they should be. Nothing I’d say would change that – if I claimed my husband had been “hoodwinked,” people would think I was far sadder and more pathetic than simply being a woman who’d been cheated on. They’d think I was delusional.
I also have a problem with this, largely because I don’t blame women for their responses to a horrifying reality that I pray I never experience. I think it’s foolish to claim it’s the other woman’s fault – but I wouldn’t go out of my way to find fault with a woman who responded that way. The worst has to be knowing that if you stay with someone who cheated, you’re publicly viewed as an idiot. And I know Catholics who view women who’ve been cheated on this way.
You told you husband this as a Catholic?
Animosity between the two women is understandable and obviously normal. It’s also completely separate from intentionally destroying the other woman,
She might, but if she has a moderate democrat who has a favorable rating with women, that favorability rating for Clinton would change. Not that it would dramatically but maybe some people would not be afraid to vote for her.
Yes I did. And he was Catholic.You told you husband this as a Catholic?
We don’t know how many there were, but I would guess not “herds,” and we don’t really know Hillary’s reaction. The thrice married Trump has not exactly been lily white in the chastity department.Please be honest: there were herds of them! Plus, she didn’t really care except that he was not being “discreet”.
I’m sure some do. Not sure where you’re going with this…