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Don’t marry a person who you find yourself making excuses for- to other or yourself!!!
 
estesbob said:
Well I thought it goes with out saying that one should not Marry a red sox Fan!
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And that my friend is why I’ll be forever a bridesmaid, but never a bride… which is actually ok because white makes my rear end look like it’s the size of Montana
 
anamchara said:
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Nearly 21 yrs of marriage and we are still best friends, he is my soulmate, lover and protector, my sweet knight ❤️ :love:
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Thanks, anamchara! I loved what you shared. It is encouraging to hear from a veteran of a good marriage!
 
OutinChgoburbs said:
I respectfully, yet with half-umbrage, disagree.

A man who is a Chicago Cubs fan is blessed with faith and hope. He has the tenacity to stick with the situation (and you) year, after year, after decade, after decade. He is infinitely patient. He has ability to see that there is always another time, another chance, another day…and just as he hopes for the World Series, he has no problem seeing that someday there will be Heaven, even if Purgatory is actually located in the upper deck of Wrigley Field with a perpetual temperature of 45 degrees outside the park, making it 25 degrees inside Wrigely Field.😃
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But if he perpetually shows “mommy love” to the team… (“Oh, they tried the best that they could”, “They’ll be better next year”, “We still believe in you - you’re not REALLY miserable failures like everyone else thinks”, “Poor Cubbies”…) then run far, far, away - as he is not a real man.
 
chicago said:
But if he perpetually shows “mommy love” to the team… (“Oh, they tried the best that they could”, “They’ll be better next year”, “We still believe in you - you’re not REALLY miserable failures like everyone else thinks”, “Poor Cubbies”…) then run far, far, away - as he is not a real man.
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Exactly… there should be cursing. Yelling at the TV. Sulleness…There should be gnashing of the teeth, and beating of the chest . followed by weeks of looking as though you just watched your dog be run over by a car on purpose. Yet come Feb. when pitchers and catchers report there should be unending faith and optimism that this is their year
 
OldAgeGuru;1862598.:
Yet come Feb. when pitchers and catchers report there should be unending faith and optimism that this is their year
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Accompanied by time tried skepticism, knowing that anything which can go wrong will.
 
…not married, but as a daughter who grew up witnessing several failed relationships…

don’t pick him if he says one thing and does another;

don’t pick him if he kisses you without asking (or even asking you to date him)

don’t pick him if he invites you over to his house without his friends or parents or family being around… and NEVER invite a man into your home without having someone else there

don’t pick him if he doesn’t treat YOUR family members and friends with respect… if he respects you, he’ll respect the people you love

don’t pick him if he won’t admit when he’s made a mistake, or when he’s wrong

don’t pick him if he enjoys it when you make mistakes or when he proves you wrong… love does not rejoice in wrongdoing

don’t pick him if he never disagrees with you or comes up with his own ideas… pick a guy who is willing to be a leader in the relationship, even just occasionally

don’t pick him if he acts like or thinks that chastity is only just for women, or too much to expect of a man

don’t pick him if he says that he is against abortion but refuses to participate in any pro-life activism because ‘it’s not his body’ -
otherwise, how can you know he’ll protect your children when their out of the womb - no matter the consequences to himself?

don’t pick him if he puts you down, or if he is okay with his friends putting you down

don’t pick him if he is mean to your baby sisters and brothers

don’t pick him if he is willing to or asks you to cohabbit with him before marriage

don’t pick him if he’s ever dumped a girl for having sex with him; if she’s so bad for having had sex before marriage (with him), what about him - wasn’t he there too? he should be willing to bring the things to a marriage that he expects his partner to bring.

don’t pick him if he’s never asked you out on a date.

don’t pick him if he plays violent video games or watches violent tv shows… children imitate what they see in the media, I have personally watched the sweetest little boy (my little brother) literally go through a personality change because of the video games and tv shows that my mothers current hubby brought into the household

don’t pick him if he’s too attractive to you; if you find it hard to think rationally around or about him, and you feel willing to do anything to have him, take a reality check…

don’t pick him if he doesn’t vote…

don’t pick him if he wants you to take BC, or if he refuses to learn about the basics of NFP… you want a man who will value you and your fertility

don’t pick him if he’s more than ten years older than you - let him find someone his own age!

don’t pick him if he doesn’t want you to sing when you’re a singer, or to paint when you’re a painter, or to publish your writing when you’re a writer… a man should value a woman’s talents and encourage her in them, and vice versa

don’t pick him if you don’t think he’d defend you or protect your honour

love
Saoirse
 
Don’t marry him unless you feel like it’s the one thing you have to do before you die.And if you have to ask anyone else’s opinion, you probably shouldn’t be doing it.
And from experience, don’t marry a man with a boat.
 
Don’t marry a smoker. Yuck!

Don’t marry someone who doesn’t have a sense of humor.

Do think about the kind of life you would like to have with your spouse. Then find the person who fits those qualities, honest hard working, non-drinking, non-smoking, pleasant, kind, etc. Make a list and compare it to your dates. If the person doesn’t meet the qualities you are looking for, then move on. Remember the only person you can change is yourself not someone else.
 
I forgot.

Don’t marry if he isn’t willing to help with the daily upkeep of the household, ie cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, taking out the garbage, etc.
 
I’ve told my daughter not to marry an avid deer hunter, but I only feel that way in Oct-Jan. 🙂
 
What a wonderful thread/topic.👍

I compaired all the advice on who NOT to marry with the man I am planning on getting married to. He is the total opposit of most of the warnings sings are.👍

We attend Mass together with my boys (i am a widow)

We are in bible study together

We pray the Rosary together

His only fault?,.,.He is a Colts fan and I am a Titans fan. (I will change him after we are married!😛 )
 
Don’t marry him if … you enjoy being an eagle-eyed nitpicker.
 
Rob_in_Oregon said:
I’ve read a lot of posts in this forum from hearbroken women who married, “the wrong guy.” Can we post some advice for young ladies on this subject? I’ll start with the following:

DON’T MARRY HIM IF:

He is hostile or unsupportive of your Catholic faith. When you’re young, you think love will conquer all obstacles. Not true, especially when children happen.

He has been really drunk 3 or more times in the last 6 months.

He has used any illegal drugs, even once, in the past year.

He is emotionally ustable. Do other people think he’s easy to get along with? Or just you?

He puts his own interests and career before everything else, including you.

He is controlling and unreasonably jealous. A nice guy can worry when his girl pays attention to someone else, but does he forbid you to speak to other men or tell you not to go places without his permission?

When you go out for a meal, is he very rude and demanding to the waiters/waitresses? This is something that shows his character.

Nearly all your friends and family think he’s not suitable.

He is irresponsible with money. Huge credit card debts for things he doesn’t really need?

He shows no sign of ever wanting to work at a steady job.

His family members include nosey, intruding, controlling, or irresponsible people. They’re going to be around for the rest of your life, unless you move 500 miles away.

A good, Catholic man who is available for marriage is a rare treasure. But, don’t rush into marriage with the wrong guy, because that’s much worse than being single.

Any more thoughts? Sign me, Rob “I married a good one,” in Oregon. We’re coming up on our 27th anniversary! A happy, lifetime marriage is possible!

God bless. Don’t give up… - Rob
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Ahhhh so don’t marry a teenager! 🙂
 
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