I think I might have asked a similar question ages back, but I have noticed many posters stating as fact, that the less attractive among us have no chance of even being considered as dating or marriage material. And many have reassured them that no, it is possible to become attracted to someone later on, even if the first impression was not of overwhelming attraction.
However, I do wonder how common this actually is. It has happened to me more than once, but I am a woman, and it seems most of the comments about physical attraction being a pre-requisite to dating, are based on assumptions that men are “wired” in a way that if they don’t find a woman attractive on first glance, they will never give that women a second glance, and so a woman who is not that attractive, have no, or at least very little chance, to find a mate.
I find such a bleak view of dating to be, well, extreme. On the other hand, most of the “homely” people I know who are happily married or partnered, are older. So maybe people need to mature a bit to look beyond looks? Or maybe all that means, is that these people were more attractive when they were younger?
Though I guess a cynical view would be, most men aren’t shallow enough to dump a woman they’ve come to love, even if she later loses her earlier beauty. But they still must have been attracted to her at some point to even consider them as a possible spouse.
