Frustration in being continuously told "its just a date"

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How are you getting on with your conversion ? Xx I mean possible conversion lol
 
halogirl said:
How are you getting on with your conversion ? Xx I mean possible conversion lol
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I’m convinced to the point where if I were single, I’d probably start the process, but I’m not convinced to the point of putting that stress on my marriage.

But I’m also fairly convinced that I’ll ultimately be convinced to that point, if that makes sense.
 
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There should be a charity where grumpy English people get looked after xx
 
Ok but I’ll give you the side eye and be grumpy towards you but yes ok you can be honorary
 
Crocus said:
Hey, I’m in, but I’m not British. Can we include the varied menu too?
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Only if it’s all bizarre British dishes. “Here we have pigeon stew with a blood pudding and a lovely dog egg garnish. Served with a warm beer and a cigarette butt. Pip pip!”
 
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Maybe. The only person ever to actually ask me for a date and have the guts to ring me up is one of my best friends these many years later
 
GospelOfMatthew said:
I’ve been told I’m like Dr. Gregory House
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This is probably an indication that you may very well be on the spectrum. You likely come across completely brilliant about religious topics, but a bit obsessive about them too. You likely have a sarcastic or socially awkward side to your personality (maybe you say things that you don’t realize insult people). This doesn’t mean you won’t find a girl who likes you for you, but could explain why you don’t find it easy to just date anybody. It sounds like a few young ladies may have felt they gave you the hint that they weren’t interested and you missed that cue, so they became blunt. It sounds like one of the four was a bit interested, but then lost interest, which happens. You’re only 20, so I wouldn’t panic.
 
And also it’s called black pudding up here in the north get it right 😉
 
Sounds a bit accurate. I have one male friend who fairly active religiously in clubs and such like me but not as much, he’s been very interested in different thoughts and recommendations I can give him. But one time we were playing ping-pong and I started to talk about some saint and something a pope once wrote in an encyclical and he was like “why are you talking about this?”

It’s possible I come across as obsessive, impatient, impulsive, and arrogant. I also take criticism very personally for whatever reason and I’m always afraid I might of offended someone… usually at night I over-analyze about my day and things I said and then get very sad. And it’s not even normal things to be sad about, happened real bad last night. I don’t think anyone could understand to be honest, last night I was very sad/crying because I was afraid I made a waitress feel bad when I told her I couldn’t eat a certain item she brought out because it was cooked wrong and I already told the waitress ahead of time… nobody normal would think twice about this and I’m sure the waitress doesn’t even remember. So idk what my problem is, I do this all the time. Maybe girls can tell I’m messed up

But I don’t have trouble making male friends and I’m very good thinking on my feet and talking out my a** when needed, kind of enjoy it actually because it’s like a game - I have been told that my voice tone changes when I speak like this and it is quite impressive to listen to
 
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WingsOfEagles said:
but could explain why you don’t find it easy to just date anybody
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well I’d hope he doesn’t want to just date anybody, given that most people out there are living in sin and have no plans to change.
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last night I was very sad/crying because I was afraid I made a waitress feel bad when I told her I couldn’t eat a certain item she brought out because it was cooked wrong and I already told the waitress ahead of time
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Relax bro, we all have that. The waitress is responsible for her feelings. If she is upset that you didn’t eat the item, that feeling is her responsibility. You didn’t do anything wrong. I used to have simialr thought patterns and they originate from childhood - very often as a kid my parents would say to me “if you behaved yourself , we wouldn’t be angry!” So the lesson I learned was “I make people angry - I am responsible for people’s negative feelings”. But its not true - if someone is upset or angry or has negative feelings, that is their problem to deal with.
 
I don’t know what to call the social version of scrupulosity, but this is it.
 
The fact that you are able to make male friends is a good sign. That must mean that you aren’t putting everybody off. It sounds like they have lovingly called you out a few times on having a one track mind on topics of conversation, so maybe try to vary it up some, but you have to be you too.

Yes, I doubt the waitress was upset. You are probably just nervous about your social skills and overthinking it for sure.
 
Hey!
I seldom get grumpy, in fact I’ve been reading a book about grumpy just to learn exactly what it is, singing “sunshine, lollipops and rainbows…”

Thanks for the larf!
 
Lee1 said:
Hey!
I seldom get grumpy, in fact I’ve been reading a book about grumpy just to learn exactly what it is, singing “sunshine, lollipops and rainbows…”

Thanks for the larf!
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You forgot your pet unicorn.
 
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