Given up on happiness

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Lord so often, I think, we unconsciously marry someone who is our opposite in nature, in order to challenge our growth to become stronger and to heal those issues in our lives that are unhealed and unresolved by the time we choose our partners.

We can break ourselves on the other person, or we leave them with our weaknesses or life injuries unresolved; or we receive the graces offered to us before the challenge of the other person, to mature as human persons and to grow in ourselves. But this is all so painful and difficult, Lord, and we can get so caught up in our emotions and the hurt of the situation that we can only suffer extreme and endless sorrow.

In this life, we all must become more authentically the person we are created to be, the unique, loved child of God who is called to love God above all and others as ourselves. We often enter the most serious phase of our lives as married couples, with little understanding of ourselves, of how to create healthy relationships, and how to mature emotionally and spiritually.

We ask Your wisdom and grace to help us to grow and manage these things in wholesome ways, to help bring out the best in each other.

Please help Renata and her husband to a healed and wholesome marriage with mutual love and respect. Rescue them from any unhealthy dynamics. Fill her husband with repentance for his lack of charity and respect, and for his betrayal of marriage, for scripture tells us:

“Husbands, love your wives and treat them with gentleness.”* [Colossians 3:19]** “Give way to one another in obedience to Christ. Wives should regard their husband as they do the Lord…Husbands should love their wives just as Christ loved the Church…each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself; and let every wife respect her husband.” *[Ephesians 5:21, 25, 33]
 
Hail, Mary, full of grace! The Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
I’ll remember you both at Mass, Renata,
I hope today will be a happier day.
 
I doubt anything will make things better. i feel so dererted by God and I have prayed but nothing ever changes. I always thought putting your trust in God would make things better…I feel so let down. Words cant begin to say that I really feel deserted by God and I know he is out there and I know he is responsible for miracles, so why cant i have a miracle.what makes me so terible that God cant perform a miracle in my marriage and bring my husband back to a loving one.
i feel totally hopeless and i have every right to. why? has God given up and totally ignoring my pleas and hopes and prayers.
i am asking for a miracle but i have lost hope.
 
why cant someone give me some advise or something:crying:
i dont want to suffer anymore
 
You could perhaps ask wise advice of a priest.

That might be best, and you and your husband may possibly benefit for some good counselling. It’s not people over the internet whose advice you need, but people who have the chance to observe you and your husband properly.

Anyway, I will continue to pray for you.
Prayers and love,
Trishie
 
Trishie said:
You could perhaps ask wise advice of a priest.

That might be best, and you and your husband may possibly benefit for some good counselling. It’s not people over the internet whose advice you need, but people who have the chance to observe you and your husband properly.

Anyway, I will continue to pray for you.
Prayers and love,
Trishie
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Trishie is very wise, we can support and offer you prayers (as we surely will), but talking one and one with a Priest or Counselor would be very beneficial to you…Take care…
 
renatas said:
I doubt anything will make things better. i feel so dererted by God and I have prayed but nothing ever changes. I always thought putting your trust in God would make things better…I feel so let down. Words cant begin to say that I really feel deserted by God and I know he is out there and I know he is responsible for miracles, so why cant i have a miracle.what makes me so terible that God cant perform a miracle in my marriage and bring my husband back to a loving one.
i feel totally hopeless and i have every right to. why? has God given up and totally ignoring my pleas and hopes and prayers.
i am asking for a miracle but i have lost hope.
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Don’t lose hope Renata,God does love you and He hears all our prayers.Try to remember your husband has his free will to choose his own path.Our Lord can grant his mind be open and his heart to soften but your husband has to be willing also.Sometimes we pray for the wrong things and its only with hindsight we see God did answer our prayers but in a better way than we asked for.I will continue to pray for you and your husband.May God bless you both and God’s will be done

Our Father who art in heaven
hallowed be thy name
thy kingdom come
thy will be done
on earth asit is in heaven
give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive trhose who trespass against us
and lead us not into temptation
but deliver us from evil
Amen

God hears and answers all of our prayers. The answer you receive, may not be the answer you want. However, you must always remember that God loves you with all of his heart. You are his child, his beloved and his decision to grant or not to grant your wish simply comes out of his love for you.

You may not understand why your prayer seems to have gone unanswered, you may not understand why the painful cross or burden you are carrying was not lifted off your shoulder. You may not understand why such a precious wife, husband, child or friend is suffering… or has been taken from you…

But someday you will…

Consider the Child who asks a parent for different things throughout their lives. Sometimes the parent will grant the child their wishes and sometimes they will not. The parent always has the best intentions and love in mind for the child, yet the child very often feels angry they have been denied that which they seek. But the parent knows best.

Remember this, those children who are good children, persistent children and obedient children often get those things which they request from their parents more so than those children who are selfish or self centered.

Prayer for Miracles
“What you reap… you will sow. If your heart is of goodwill and your love of God is unconditional… you will see the Glory of God, the Glory of His Promises and the Magnificence of His Deeds done through your life and answered through your prayers.”
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou among women,and
blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us now, and
at the hour of our death.
Amen
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name.
Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it as it is in heaven.
Give us this day, our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive
those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but
deliver us from evil.
Amen

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,and
blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and
at the hour of our death.
Amen

Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit,
as it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be world without end.
Amen
 
Hail, Mary, full of grace! The Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death.Amen
 
Lord, may your Holy Spirit descend upon this relationship, which has been made holy in Your sight, and bring peace to it. May heavenly graces flow and restore faith, hope and love to these hurting souls. Grant that our prayers are brought before Your throne through the perfect intercession of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, Who lives and reigns with You, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, One God for ever and ever. Amen! Alleluia!
 
I continue to pray for you Renata and your husband. I know things are hard but continue to turn to the Lord. Sometimes the road that we have to take is rough and full of hardship, but at the end God is waiting. I know from my divorce that it is hard and that at times you think that God is not listening, but He is. All I can tell you is to keep praying and that you are loved by many on this forum. May God be with you and your family.

Hugs & Love,
Cassie
 
Our Father who art in heaven
hallowed be thy name
thy kingdom come
thy will be done
on earth as it is in heaven
give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us
and lead us not into temptation
but deliver us from evil Amen
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou among women,and
blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us now, and
at the hour of our death.
Amen

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou among women,and
blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us now, and
at the hour of our death.
Amen

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou among women,and
blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us now, and
at the hour of our death.
Amen
 
Father in Heaven, as we rapidly approach Advent, You call us, regardless of our physical and spiritual state, to be filled with joy. This temporal life, in which we have trouble, is short and leads to eternal life. The Lord Jesus, Whose coming incarnation is cause for celebration, has overcome this world. This is your promise, and we know that Your promises are trustworthy. Let us recede from this vale of tears and seek solace in Your arms, and in the embrace of the One Whom You sent for our sake. We have earned only condemnation and flames, but You, out of unfathomable love of us, have sent Your only Son to save us. Grant us the grace to turn to Him in all of our sorrow, all of our frustrations, all of our disappointments and sufferings, for You are our salvation, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Amen! Alleluia!
 
Our Father Who art in Heaven, hallowed be Thy name.
Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us,
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Hail, Mary, full of grace! The Lord is with thee;
blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death Amen
 
Our Father who art in heaven
hallowed be thy name
thy kingdom come
thy will be done
on earth as it is in heaven
give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgvie those who trespass against us
and lead us not into temptation
but deliver us from evil
Amen
 
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