Has your spouse ever hit you? Or you hit your spouse?

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Your post reminds me, BEattitude of a commercialā€¦I think itā€™s for insuranceā€¦tell me if you have seen this, anyone? The wife accidentally runs over her husbandā€™s foot, and then they are being interviewed about it in a bowling alley like a week later, and the husband is bringing up the incidentā€¦how his foot hurt, (like the car insurance company couldnā€™t help that, was the gist of it) and the wife poked him and saidā€¦ā€˜OKā€¦thatā€™s enough.ā€™ She ran over his foot, you know? Itā€™s commercials like this that make me wonder if feminism somehow, feels the need to make women look superior to men. If that commercial showed a man running over a womanā€™s footā€¦forget it. That commercial probably wouldā€™ve been yanked. I just think there is a double standardā€¦like the commercial makes it sound like itā€™s ok to run over a guyā€™s foot or somethingā€¦because a woman did it. I dunnoā€¦bugs me every time I see it:mad: So, your reply about kicking your husband in the ā€˜nuts,ā€™ as you put it, with a smiley attached, shows me that you find that amusing.

I shouldnā€™t beat around the bush. I guess, Iā€™m not seeing whatā€™s funny that you kicked your husbandā€¦and put a smiley ā€œcuteseyā€ face next to it.šŸ˜¦
 
deb1 said:
By the way, I apologize to the OP for getting sidetracked.
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No problem! Iā€™m ready for this thread to be done!! Dh and I have resolved matters, and weā€™re good. I got some good advice here, as usual, so again, thanks.

Is there a way to close a thread??
 
Black_Jaque said:
P.S.

I should also pose a rather retorical question to the thread. I wonder if couples who fight passionately also make love passionately? In other words, is there a benefit that balances things out?

If you had the choice between someone who got passionately angry, but was equally passionate about making you feel loved; or someone who was cool in a dispute, and cool about their affections towards you, which would you choose?
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Once you hit someone, be it verbally or otherwise, you canā€™t take it back. Sometimes all being cool towards someone takes is a little patience to get them to warm up.

Kathy
 
whatevergirl said:
kā€“ignore my above postā€¦BE attitude was joking.:o šŸ™‚
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Good! I didnā€™t understand that she was joking either.:o

LoneCatholic,

I think that you can ask the moderator to close the thread. I am glad that you and your hubby have resolved the issue.šŸ™‚
 
Lone_Catholic said:
No problem! Iā€™m ready for this thread to be done!! Dh and I have resolved matters, and weā€™re good. I got some good advice here, as usual, so again, thanks.
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That is good to hear! Thanks for the update. I donā€™t know if you can close the thread, but since youā€™ve indicated that youā€™ve gotten a satisfactory answer, you donā€™t have to apologize if you quit reading it.
Katie1723 said:
Once you hit someone, be it verbally or otherwise, you canā€™t take it back. Sometimes all being cool towards someone takes is a little patience to get them to warm up.

Kathy
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I donā€™t intend to argue with you, but just to add this:

You remember the quote from Revelations:
ā€œI know your works; I know that you are neither hot cold nor hot. I wish you were either cold or hot. So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouthā€¦ā€ (Rev. 3:15-16)

Although the verse speaks of the faithful who are self-satisfied and lukewarm, the same problem can come between spouses. You know the old joke, ā€œHey, I told you twenty years ago that I loved you. When that changes, Iā€™ll let you know.ā€ As for aggression, passive aggression can be the most insidious and damaging kind, for the perpetrators can con themselves into believing they are not aggressive at all.

There is something to be said for caring enough about somebody that you can lose your temper over what they do. Thatā€™s not to say you should lose your temper, or that youā€™re inevitably going to lose it with those you truly care about. It is only to say that absence of overt agression does not a happy marriage make. The criminal courts may be full of spouses who thought there was a permissible level of hitting, but the divorce courts are full of couples who have never physically hit each other at all.

The years that you do nothing cannot be taken back, either.
 
Katie1723 said:
Actually, I am not married. But marriage is not a license to hit or hurt anyoneā€¦ever. All I am saying is to be careful.

Kathy
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No it is not. Nor did I ever indicate that it was. I have said several times in this thread that I know what happened was wrong. Iā€™ve been to confession about it, by the way. Itā€™s over. And be careful? I donā€™t understand. You read the original post, right? You understand that I am the one who was the aggressor, right? This is not a case of a husband beating up on a wife for burning his breakfast! I will be careful-- careful to never let myself sin in anger against my husband again. I have never felt afraid of my husband in our 10 years of marriage. If anything, he is a saint for all the times he turned the other cheek when I struck him.

Butā€¦ maybe this is a married thing. I would never try to give someone advice on electricity, because itā€™s something I donā€™t know anything about.
 
I am sorry but I am married and there is a difference between being angry with my DH and physically attacking him
 
Lone_Catholic said:
uhā€¦ Yeahā€¦ ? :confused:
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Just responding to your commentā€¦
Butā€¦ maybe this is a married thing. I would never try to give someone advice on electricity, because itā€™s something I donā€™t know anything about.
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which if I am correct had to do with thisā€¦
Actually, I am not married. But marriage is not a license to hit or hurt anyoneā€¦ever. All I am saying is to be careful.

Kathy
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so I fgirued I would be a smarty pants and state the same thing but as a married womanā€¦no offense meant by the way.
*I do understand that you and your dh are over this and that you now it was wrongā€¦šŸ™‚ *
 
Sorry Karin. I guess I was just taken aback by Katieā€™s attitude by her saying ā€œfor now.ā€ Like there is just no hope for my marriage. Weā€™re good ā€œfor now.ā€ And also it seemed like it was obvious she hadnā€™t read the whole thread, and was assuming this was the case of a battered wife staying with an abusive husband, which of course, it is not.
 
Lone_Catholic said:
Sorry Karin. I guess I was just taken aback by Katieā€™s attitude by her saying ā€œfor now.ā€ Like there is just no hope for my marriage. Weā€™re good ā€œfor now.ā€ And also it seemed like it was obvious she hadnā€™t read the whole thread, and was assuming this was the case of a battered wife staying with an abusive husband, which of course, it is not.
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Ahā€¦I see how you read itā€¦guess I would be taken back reading it that way tooā€¦I did not though:)
 
Sorry to be edgy. When I read your post, I thought we were going back into all that again, and thought that had been covered (being angry is different from physically attacking, etc.)

Just didnā€™t want to go around and around again.

Sorryā€¦
 
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