Unless there is more here than your feelings alone, then I’d say don’t worry about it. All spouses go through times when they don’t like or love each other. There can be many reasons for feeling this way, reasons you may not be aware of yourself. If this persists, though you should sit down with your husband and tell him you think you and he need to get some counseling or go on a marriage retreat or some such activity to reconnect with one another. If a husband and wife drift apart due to the daily grind, it’s because they haven’t taken the time to thank each other or acknowledge each other’s accomplishments, great and small or let go of minor resentments. Have a talk with your priest or other person of good sense you can trust, if you need face to face advise. I will remember you in my prayers today. God bless.
Well, let me add my prayers to your’s as there is strength in numbers.
Hello to Trista!
Hi Trista: I hear you. I feel the same. I don’t think it is our job as a wife or mom to concern ourselves with this. However, it is our job to be faithful to the promises we made years ago to love and honor our husbands. This we must all do, or try to do anyway. “In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better or for worse”. Too many just give up today and they think their reasons for doing so are justified. Pray today the Lord might show YOU how to do this, how and what you must do to “stick with it”. I have had to pray the same, believe me. My H has hurt and disappointed me endlessly. BUT, I know I must continue and be faithful to my Lord, the one who created marriage. Despite what wordly people, even those on this forum have said to me, i.e., how I deserve better, how I must not stand for abuse any longer, how I should leave", etc., etc. I say differently friend. You can make it despite what the world tells you. Have courage. be strong. KNOW, God does have a plan for your marriage and your family. Know I am with you on this one anyway.
She moved away with her children but he remains with another wife. I feel 
when I see him especially when he the Eucharistic Minister.
The OP reminds me of a situation that happened in my parish years ago.
There was a husband and wife and 5 beautiful children. I could not tell which the children looked more like…him or her. The husband and wife went to church every Sunday with their children. They both had their special little ways of contributing to the parish.
One day the wife upped and left the husband and children. She left a note on the table and that was that. She didn’t move too far away but naturally he kept the children and raised them on his own. He continued to bring them to church. He never remarried and lives alone today. Every time I see him I feel a sadness for him.
He is a bright man. I wonder if he thinks about and wonders what happened. His cross sure does seem heavy.
and then there was another family from my parish with a similar story except he left her and 4 beautiful children
Thank you Mot Juste. I think we all need to be reminded of this every day. That Love, later on, after the wows of passion wears off, is so much more than a feeling, that it IS an action. My old geezer hubby, with all I have suffered and been thru with him, regardless, is still a man that deserves my respect, and the love of his boys, and the love of our family. Even though I don’t feel like it most of the time, I force myself to make his favorite meals, make his favorite cake, wear the nightie he loves, put on the lotion he gave me, even though I don’t quite love it,
but He does-----and try to love him despite. When I have this attitude, hey, our marriage really can be quite fun and good! --even exciting at times. For I love to massage his head and his beautiful hair, give him a back rub, watch him in his football games for dads, a real laugh, but all in all, I am proud he is my man, and one that I committed myself to 17 years ago. Sure, I don’t feel it most times, but hey—as you say, Love boils down to really being a choice we make, to love or not. Do we choose Love or not? Do we choose family togetherness or not? Divorce? Or staying together? ----Pain and life-long turmoil for our precious ones or not? It is up to us, isn’t it? Sure I might complain on here in the future of how miserable I am. Please hear me when I do, as I hear all of you, my married friends on here. It is understandable. Life is so hard, and our woes and frustrations real ones. But we must all know and support each other that God’s plan does overcome all of this life’s woes. We must all the same be faithful. PTL. Jeremiah 29:11.
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