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I have some experience with this, as my cousin transitioned into living as a male. To her face, I do use the pronouns she prefers because I don’t want to be unnecessarily hurtful. She is honestly a very good and loving person. I feel badly that she was raised by an extremely emotionally abusive mother who openly told her that she would have loved her more if she were a male. It’s pitiful. My kids were actually old enough to realize what had happened. They were about 8 and 10 at the time. It was a hard conversation to have, but we’ve always raised then to show Christ’s love to those who are different than us, even if we know they are sinning. We simply told them that she was very unhappy with the way God made her and that we needed to pray for her. And that she is a child of a God who still loves her and that we should too. We made sure to explain that it is wrong. We talked about the fact that it us very sad for someone to feel that way about themselves and that we can’t understand what that is like. We discussed the fact that she is still our cousin and doing this didn’t change her into a bad or mean person, and they are allowed to love her still. Luckily, beyond asking us to use correct pronoun, she really doesn’t discuss it with them or try to indoctrinate them in any way. She just wants a relationship with us. As a family, we are determined to show her basic human respect and the love we feel that Christ would afford her. We pray for her conversion. That’s just my experience and how we as a family handled it. The kids understood everything we discussed and I am proud of them for being so compassionate.