How far is too far for dressing?

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I have that problem with some of the wrap tops that have the fake tank top underneath. I just get confused with all the holes and strings trying to figure out where my limbs go.
 
The risk, I think…for centuries and in many cultures, many times this was accomplished by rules that kept men’s and women’s spheres strictly separate. The danger as a woman is that you get the lesson from modesty culture that “what you look like is the most important thing about you.” I was always told modesty was about respect, but my experience didn’t have much of respect in it. Rather is reinforced the secular idea that women are objects - only forbidden ones to be hidden away rather than displayed. A woman who has to worry about whether she’s hidden her body well enough is still objectified.

I think for many of us, we’ve had a lifetime of what men think about us. We’ve had it drilled into our heads that what we wear, how we move, how we act, should be about men and men’s desires. And at some point the message very much sounds like “making sure men don’t think the wrong way is more important than treating women with respect.” Because it’ll never be enough - if you’re in public, female, and at all attractive you will eventually attract notice.

I wish men took the same care to go through life the way women do that they did to tell us what it’s like to be them.
 
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We’ve had it drilled into our heads that what we wear, how we move, how we act, should be about men and men’s desires.
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I think that teaching is worldly and sad. The Church for example in the Catechism, does not talk about modesty/dressing w.r.t to just a single sex.(#2521,2522).
I think the strife to be as modest as possible is not just to spare another from lust. I think the first reason is because our bodies are the “Temple”_of the Holy SPIRIT.
I agree though that how much one considers this " Temple" or dwelling", remains a personal thing and cannot be imposed.

https://www.serviamministries.com/blog/everything-youve-been-taught-about-modesty-is-wrong/
 
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Unfortunately some people’s version of modesty is more similar to that of the secular culture, but instead of “look at me I’m a sex object” approach of popular culture, the modesty police version of modesty is more like “don’t look at me, I’m a sex object”.
 
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I have that problem with some of the wrap tops that have the fake tank top underneath. I just get confused with all the holes and strings trying to figure out where my limbs go.
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I think you’re supposed to grow a pair of tentacles from your shoulderblades to go through those other holes . . .
 
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I know that cleavage is too much, I hate it a lot myself.

Is showing your belly too much?
How short can your shorts be?

Edit: okay I realised I didn’t word my question how I thought it out to be sorryyy,

What are your opinions on dressing for females?
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St. Pope John Paul II, Love and Responsibility, 1993, Ignatius Press, p. 190-191:
“Immodesty is present only when nakedness plays a negative role with regard to the value of the person, when its aim is to arouse concupiscence, as a result of which the person is put in the position of an object for enjoyment (even if his action is purely internal) it is only he who is guilty of shamelessness (immodesty of feeling), not the other.
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Immodesty is present only when nakedness plays a negative role with regard to the value of the person, when its aim is to arouse concupiscence, as a result of which the person is put in the position of an object for enjoyment. What happens then may be called depersonalization by sexualization. But this is not inevitable.
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There are certain objective situations in which even total nudity of the body is not immodest, since the proper function of nakedness in this context is not to provoke a reaction to the person as an object for enjoyment, and in just the same way the functions of particular forms of attire may vary. Thus, the body may be partially bared for physical labor, for bathing, or for a medical examination. If then, we wish to pass a moral judgment on particular forms of dress we have to start from the particular functions which they serve. When a person uses such a form of dress in accordance with its objective function we cannot claim to see anything immodest in it , even if it involves partial nudity. Whereas the use of such a costume outside its proper context is immodest, and is inevitably felt to be so. For example, there is nothing immodest about the use of a bathing costume at a bathing place , but to wear it in the street or while out for a walk is contrary to the dictates of modesty.
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