Yeah, but that’s too simple for this thread.
I don’t mean to sound like ugly people shouldn’t be with people but I have been told in this site that an overweight man who doesn’t exercise and just sits around all day watching TV is not going to be a good match for someone with a healthier weight who has to maintain their looks. I’m not saying the man shouldn’t pursue but use common sense. If she truly has similar interests than there is more of a shot but at the same time you shouldn’t expect to get someone beyond you’re level . Anyway that’s what i’ve been told on this site
Actually, natural selection is taking care of that pretty well.
Well, what does the inactive overweight guy have in common with the gym bunny? It’s not like he’s going to be joining her for her half marathons, her triathlons, or her mountain climbing and white water adventures and she doesn’t want to join him for his all day TV marathons. Does this really sound like a good foundation for a harmonious and happy family life? It’s not even mostly a question of looks–there’s a fundamental disconnect between what the two of them regards as a normal lifestyle or a fun way to spend time. If she can’t imagine family life without multi-day camping trips far from civilization, it’s going to be pretty sad if she has to do that alone with the kids and he’s home with his best friend, Mr. TV.
Yes i agree with this
Here’s the thing, if a man is overweight and sits around expects the gym bunny it’s not likely. When I did online dating I had a lot of obese men contact me and we have little in common.
I hope not everyone is so one dimensional!Wild Catholic wasn’t positing any other common ground, though–just both being church going. That’s not quite enough common ground, I think, especially for persons of the opposite sex. Consider how very different various CAF posters are, and that even just with regard to friendship, we wouldn’t assume that we’d be best buds with all the other CAF posters in real life. A fortiori, we wouldn’t assume that the love of our life just happens to be the only cute single person at our parish (although, who knows?), especially if we seem to have very little else in common.
I am living proof that one can be a gym “bunny” cringe and love video games, sci fi, fantasy, etc. I also love music, art, history, and politics. A well rounded person should be able to find common ground with many people, regardless of fitness habits.
Yes and I see this with younger guys and girls that even in church groups they go for looks first in a lot of cases. Its our human nature to do so and while we obviously shouldn’t chose mates this way people still want to be around better looking people unless their behavior is super unattractive. One of my best friends was especially like this. Not that he was a dog or anything but you could tell why he wanted to go for a certain young woman at church youth events.
There is something called ‘the law of attraction’ in psychology. What this means is that people of equal beauty will be attracted to one an other-usually.
I also think it may be difficult to distinguish between the physical and the spiritual qualities if one knows the person well. Knowing that the person has an ugly personality will make them look uglier than they objectively are, while knowing that the person has a beautiful personality will make the person look more attractive than they objectively are. It’s only when dealing with total strangers that we can be quite objective about physical appearance.