How to welcome people in irregular unions to the Church

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Can be…Can be, but to make the widesweeping accusation that non-Catholic men WILL look at your daughter as ONLY there for their pleasure vs. Catholic men will be there to respect her was atrocious.

I probably won’t be asking him anything. He’s said enough stuff about non-Catholics this year where this was most likely the last straw and my wife is pulling out of that welcoming parish.
 
You shouldn’t leave the parish just because a priest is harsh towards non Catholics.

The main purpose of a Catholic Parish is for the Worship of God in Holy Mass.

Why should you care what that Priest thinks of you?
 
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I think that’s a lot easier to say when you’re not the one being talked about. If there’s an actually welcoming parish close enough to attend, why not?
 
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  1. He is married to a Catholic woman and attends Mass with her.
  2. Their Catholic daughters are hearing this stuff.
  3. He is not Catholic, and I’m assuming most there know that.
  4. This person is a priest that’s supposed to know better.
 
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Because any one who has views about the issue as portrayed in the post, has a whole world view that is atrocious. You think it just stops at his beliefs of what non-catholic men are all about? It definitely doesn’t. I completely understand why they need to find another parish with a priest or pastor who has healthy attitudes about world views.
 
I think we have discovered the best method to welcome people in irregular marriages into the Catholic Church: by condemning them as heretics and us lay people formally declaring their marriage as an anethma. Then they should be isolated from all of the other parishoners lest they tempt the others into deciding to get into an invalid marriage. And that is if we are feeling charitable.
 
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I’m not a morally perfect person myself so I certainly don’t expect it from my friends. I don’t know how my approach will work but I know that preaching at them wouldn’t help.
 
I would agree that if a priest is making sweeping generalizations that lack charity, he might not have a charism or gift of preaching. Priests are only human and can definitely make mistakes and say things that are wrong or uncharitable. One uncharitable sermon from a priest is sometimes all it takes to finally convince somebody on the fence to NEVER RETURN.
 
Your cynicism actually has a ring of truth, which is the sad part. The exact things you wrote happen on Catholic blogs and message boards on a daily basis. I could probably list a few “Catholic” websites that would fit your description perfectly.
 
Oh, my post was intentional. I was calling out those self righteous people who mistake their sanctimony for piety and their judgment for charity and their legalism for mercy.
 
I don’t think the term “irregular unions” is a good one. It’s an adulterous union. A sinful union.
 
We had three couples in irregular unions in our RCIA class. Know what the deacon and the priest did?

Treated them with respect and charity - and helped them start their annulment processes.

Know what? One got Pauline Privilege (which is still being processed), two got improper form, and we are going to gain six new Catholics. Hold on - NINE, because there were three kids involved!

Had they been given the fire and brimstone, we’d likely have lost all nine.

We’re Catholic. Not Free Will Baptist screaming everyone is going to Hell.

Charity. Admonish, teach, and be charitable. Supportive.
 
Charity without Truth is not love; it’s merely lazy toleration and empty sentimentality

But

truth without Charity is mere accuracy, just fact—cold, hollow.
 
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Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country
(In a conversation with Spock)

Captain James T. Kirk: You’re a great one for logic. I’m a great one for rushing in where angels fear to tread. We are both extremists. Reality has brought us somewhere in-between.

Fr. Mike Depcik explained in his vlog on his personal website about why Jesus, in today’s gospel, commands us to love one another.
 
I think my strategy will be most effective. For real a good spirituality will help them be more willing to embrace the path of virtue that every good Christian should be trying to follow.
 
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Sometimes love is tough. That’s apparent in the Gospels.
 
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