Ill Neighbor Keeps ringing my bell for money

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I would recommend you (or your landlord, if applicable) install a peephole! A chain lock that allows the door to only open few inches is an alternative.

It would also not be uncharitable to ask her to stop coming to your door. Start polite. Then firmer. If necessary, call the police for advice if these initial efforts do not stop the behavior.
 
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The link talks about giving to the homeless, not to a neighbor asking for money for cigarettes. I do believe there is a difference. One person has nothing, hasn’t a place to lay their head except the street. Has no address to get mail, or write on a job application. The other is someone that has all of those blessings and thinks it is okay to ask their neighbor to support their desire to smoke. Really? You really think that is what Pope Francis was saying?

Are you are saying you would give money to just anyone that rang your bell and wanted money, no questions asked?
 
I was under the impression the neighbor was poor and I was considering Pope Francis’ message to include the poor.

I didn’t see much of a difference in the two. I am sorry if I offended you.

And yes, I do give money to anyone who asks, and I don’t quiz them down on how they are using it. I also give to my church and I don’t ask them what they are doing with it. I am a pretty trusting person and I admit I have lived a shelter life. Thanks be to God!

Lastly, my father smoked up until the day he died. It gave him peace and comfort. He died of cancer 27 years ago and I shutter to think how miserable he would have been if he would not have been able to smoke. And I know the smoking killed him but he was addicted and I helped to hold the cigarette to his mouth when he was too weak. It is one of the final memories I have of him and I know it brought him comfort and peace.
 
You did not offend me, I was just trying to point out the difference that I see. No harm.🙂
 
anikins said:
Nope! Definitely would NEVER see her at a charity! Just never! Grrrrr! Yes, shame on those dumb people with addictions! They are definitely looking ONLY for ways to get drugs.
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Actually, a lot of times they are, which is why physicians will only give them so much even if they insist they are in pain.

I think you need to stop being so naive.
 
I was being sarcastic. Scary that one would think that someone who posts on this Catholic forum would be serious about something like that… though I wouldn’t be surprised myself seeing some of these responses are borderline.
 
Do you actually believe that people who are attracted to drugs want to be addicted to drugs?
 
There are many good answers here. I don’t answer my door to anyone unscheduled to visit, except my grown kids of course. But with kids still at home, you have to be more flexible.
My idea is : maybe research which churches in your neighborhood give out food and supplies to the needy, days - time - addresses. Write that out nicely for her. And assemble a box with a Bible, maybe a prayer book, and what food you can spare from your kitchen, with the letter on top. Leave the box on her doorstep.
Then you are done. She deserves mercy, but your family’s safety must come first. Listen to your husband.
Also, maybe it’s time to rescue a beautiful big German Shepherd from a near by shelter …
GOD Bless 🙂
 
momof2angells said:
I honestly always wished I was gutsy like that. I don’t know why I keep mentally associating that kind of gutsy response with displeasing Jesus. I should be tougher and be ok with it. Especially as a mother but that fear of, what if she is so taken aback at my response that she tries to attack one of is, always takes over and I become a softy and she can see it in my eyes.
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momof2angells said:
Thank you. I hate confrontation so much I have no problem stating that but then I’d be worried she’ll come back again and again on worse, try to hurt one of us.
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You have to appear strong to people like this. They prey on weakness. I don’t know what might help you, other than prayer, to summon up strength. But use this to learn to be gutsy.

Jesus overturned the moneychanger tables at the temple, was hard on the Pharisees, and said quite a few ‘shocking’ things. Being passionate in protection of your family would, I think, please Jesus.
 
Thanks so much! ! I will do it, I will be stern for my family!!
As I type this my coworker is talking to herself and driving me crazy again and since I’m feeling gutsy i feel like asking her to stop bUT thas anther thread.

Everyone’s (name removed by moderator)ut here has been a blessing. Please know. I’ve shared each response with my husband. We are going to log everytime she rings. Warn her not to come back. If she does well tell her she’s trespassing and call authorities. Thank you all. God bless everyone here
 
Wad up a piece of paper and toss it in her cublcle. But she might like the attention and that would be positive reinforcement.
 
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