I'm a Traditionalist but my family isn't: causing hurt

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Be grateful to attend Mass at all. Be grateful to have a choice of which Mass to attend.

And be grateful for your parents and family. They may not agree with your desire to attend the Latin Mass. But you won’t have them around forever. Cherish them while you have them and enjoy the times you are able to attend Mass together as a family.
 
Stop turning this into an argument about the Ordinary Form. It’s out of place.

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What comes to mind are religious under the vow of obedience to their superiors. This is an opportunity to practice humility and patience.
 
lilypadrees said:
And be grateful for your parents and family. They may not agree with your desire to attend the Latin Mass. But you won’t have them around forever. Cherish them while you have them and enjoy the times you are able to attend Mass together as a family.
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This.
There are young folks on this board who have no way to get to any Mass at all because they live with parents who are hostile to Catholicism in any form.

Be careful of spiritual pride, and be careful of confusing pretty things or a rush of feelings with true spirituality.
 
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“stupid YouTube Catholics”
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Without knowing much context, it sounds like your family may have had some bad run-ins with with some radical traditionalists at some time. It might be best to show that you aren’t headed down that route. You can start by submitting to your parents, since that is far more necessary for you at your point in life than going to a TLM.
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So basically you think he should just stop going to mass?
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What and lose his faith?
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I read the GIRM nos. 7 onward and noted that the NO was made guided by historical studies not available during the Council of Trent, and the studies involved manuscripts about the liturgy from the earlier centuries of the Church. That means the NO is also traditional.
 
Who is “everyone else”? It seems like your father is the only other one who gets a vote here. Maybe your mom can drive you, if she supports you. You’re not wrong to want to go, and it’s not your fault that the rest of your family has such a strong negative reaction (and what is their hangup that it bugs them so much anyway?).
 
2 things
1 - I think you should learn to disagree without being disagreeable
2- I think you should do what it takes to get a drivers license and your own car so that you can drive yourself to mass. If anyone else wants to come along then let them come with you to the TLM.
 
This is the third thread in a week we’ve had from some young person living at their parents’ home who is having heartburn because they have become more devout or developed different religious tastes in some respect than their parents.

OP, it’s fine that you like the TLM Mass and Traditional Catholicism, but since you can fulfill your obligations and receive Jesus at your normal local OF parish as well, your preference for TLM is about on the same level as any other thing a teenager might prefer that his parents don’t care for, and that he can’t easily access without either a ride or a car, and the parents would rather the kid do some activity with the rest of the family. This may seem like the end of the world now, but considering that most teens get a car and/or move out within a couple of years, it’s a relatively short time.

If you are a traditionalist, then no doubt you understand the value of offering up your sufferings for the Lord, so you can offer up whatever hardships you face having to go to OF Mass with your parents for the time being. When you have your own car and perhaps have moved out, you can go to TLM all week long if you like.
 
I can’t understand why it would cause friction. As a teen I developed a love of the TLM visiting my grandparents. The only real friction it caused at home was dinner on non lenten Fridays.

Try to appreciate that you have a family of practicing Catholics who take you to mass and confession. Some young people trying to do right do not have that advantage.
 
Is there a disconnect here because if a conscience is well developed enough to pull one towards what one thinks is more reverent worship then I would think it would be well developed enough for one to have respect and obedience to parents and patience with the few years it’ll take to come of age.
 
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I think it is wonderful that you have found a mass that you really love. But please remember that the OF is valid too.and your parents have the final say as to where you go to mass.until you move out of their house.
Remember honor your father and mother i s
a commandment and the mass you go to is a choice.
 
By going to Mass in the Ordinary Form you fulfil your obligation and your conscience should be satisfied.

You are to honour your mother and father and whilst a child in their house you must follow their directions.

Having two teenagers and a son in his early 20s I can picture the discussions that may have happened in your home. There is a high probability they were not calm and rational. Have you ever sat down as a family and discussed this? Why are your parents so against the Extraordinary Form? Can you explain, other than personal preference, why you prefer the Extraordinary Form? It’s amazing how what appeared to be an insurmountable problem can be resolved when everyone sits down and listens.
 
You can’t drive yourself because you are not 16, or do not have access to a car? Its different in any given family, but for me, once kids get to be old enough to drive, I don’t really care if we go to mass as a family, I am perfectly happy with my teenage kids going to mass on their own. Perhaps you can find a person who attends the EF mass and will give you a ride to and from mass, and then maybe once a month or so, you can attend the EF mass and the rest of the time go with your family. As others have pointed out, you will eventually be an adult and will be able to attend whatever mass you prefer.
 
If your conscience is telling you to avoid the OF and restrict yourself to the EF only, your conscience is giving you extremely bad advice.
 
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