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What benevolence springs from telling children they go to the worms?
Well, from my perspective, “honesty”.
Again, it’s kinda how you frame it. I remember when I was a child that even “eternity” sounded terrifying because of the way it was framed as eternal boredom. It seriously did. I understand that if I thought that were a likely outcome now, and thusly honest, I would explain it differently to a child.
The question begins with—what do I believe is true? I think it is possible that a scenario could exist whereby it might be necessary to say something untrue to a child, though Ithink it would have to be extreme. I think it more common that I would leave out *all *of the gory details of various topics depending on their developmental stage. But I’m not sure that for myself, personally, I think that telling what *for me *is a fib is doing them a favor in the long run. They may or may not feel betrayed later? I know that Santa Claus made Christmas very exciting! But I also know that when I found out the truth later I felt betrayed. >shrug< I think that my parents could have spun this a bit differntly witha different outcome, but most are not sophisticated enough to do that frankly. And it’s hard enough to be “sophisticated enough” for parenting as it is----it’s tough, from what I’ve seen!
Back to the worms.
An atheist perspective [your mileage of course can vary and you can of course come to different conclusions]:
Death can be frightening for anyone. But acceptance of our mortality is something that comes with maturity ideally. I don’t remember what happened before I was born, I likely will be at approximately the same level of awareness after I die. So I don’t think I need fear “suffering” post-death. Millions of people have crossed over before me and will after. It’s natural, and quite do-able. It’s how it is. And it makes this life very precious. Fun, and the easing of suffering, and quality of life, are so very important because of it. Worms? We return to the circle of life, nature, the Earth, all that stuff. And our energy gets recycled into something interesting and often beautiful.
But yeah, death is something i will try to avoid. It’s not going to be the highlight of my life probably. I’d like to stick around for more fun, as long as I can. But so far, it’s simply what happens like it does for all living things, it’ll be ok. In the meantime, I try to have some responsible pleasure and do some good!
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Well, from my perspective, “honesty”.
Again, it’s kinda how you frame it. I remember when I was a child that even “eternity” sounded terrifying because of the way it was framed as eternal boredom. It seriously did. I understand that if I thought that were a likely outcome now, and thusly honest, I would explain it differently to a child.
The question begins with—what do I believe is true? I think it is possible that a scenario could exist whereby it might be necessary to say something untrue to a child, though Ithink it would have to be extreme. I think it more common that I would leave out *all *of the gory details of various topics depending on their developmental stage. But I’m not sure that for myself, personally, I think that telling what *for me *is a fib is doing them a favor in the long run. They may or may not feel betrayed later? I know that Santa Claus made Christmas very exciting! But I also know that when I found out the truth later I felt betrayed. >shrug< I think that my parents could have spun this a bit differntly witha different outcome, but most are not sophisticated enough to do that frankly. And it’s hard enough to be “sophisticated enough” for parenting as it is----it’s tough, from what I’ve seen!
Back to the worms.
An atheist perspective [your mileage of course can vary and you can of course come to different conclusions]:
Death can be frightening for anyone. But acceptance of our mortality is something that comes with maturity ideally. I don’t remember what happened before I was born, I likely will be at approximately the same level of awareness after I die. So I don’t think I need fear “suffering” post-death. Millions of people have crossed over before me and will after. It’s natural, and quite do-able. It’s how it is. And it makes this life very precious. Fun, and the easing of suffering, and quality of life, are so very important because of it. Worms? We return to the circle of life, nature, the Earth, all that stuff. And our energy gets recycled into something interesting and often beautiful.
But yeah, death is something i will try to avoid. It’s not going to be the highlight of my life probably. I’d like to stick around for more fun, as long as I can. But so far, it’s simply what happens like it does for all living things, it’ll be ok. In the meantime, I try to have some responsible pleasure and do some good!
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