God has given me graces, yes. I appreciate those. But He hasn’t given the grace to obliterate concupiscence, or any other imperfection that still remains in me.
Temptations (which includes concupiscence) will always remain. God give actual graces, but it is necessary for the person receiving them to cooperate. The actual graces are given even before baptism, for example, and then the faithful have sanctifying (habitual) grace, which of course, can be lost. We are all sinners so in that struggle our part is to resolve not to sin and to avoid the near occasions of sin. The Baltimore Catechism No. 3 gives something on near occasions of sin:
Q. 770. What do you mean by a firm purpose of sinning no more?
A. By a firm purpose of sinning no more I mean a fixed resolve not only to avoid all mortal sin, but also its near occasions.
Q. 771. What do you mean by the near occasions of sin?
A. By the near occasions of sin I mean all the persons, places and things that may easily lead us into sin.
Q. 772. Why are we bound to avoid occasions of sin?
A. We are bound to avoid occasions of sin because Our Lord has said: “He who loves the danger will perish in it”; and as we are bound to avoid the loss of our souls, so we are bound to avoid the danger of their loss. The occasion is the cause of sin, and you cannot take away the evil without removing its cause.
Q. 773. Is a person who is determined to avoid the sin, but who is unwilling to give up its near occasion when it is possible to do so, rightly disposed for confession?
A. A person who is determined to avoid the sin, but who is unwilling to give up its near occasion when it is possible to do so, is not rightly disposed for confession, and he will not be absolved if he makes known to the priest the true state of his conscience.
Q. 774. How many kinds of occasions of sin are there?
A. There are four kinds of occasions of sin:
- Near occasions, through which we always fall;
- Remote occasions, through which we sometimes fall;
- Voluntary occasions or those we can avoid; and
- Involuntary occasions or those we cannot avoid. A person who lives in a near and voluntary occasion of sin need not expect forgiveness while he continues in that state.
Q. 775. What persons, places and things are usually occasions of sin?
A.
- The persons who are occasions of sin are all those in whose company we sin, whether they be bad of themselves or bad only while in our company, in which case we also become occasions of sin for them;
- The places are usually liquor saloons, low theaters, indecent dances, entertainments, amusements, exhibitions, and all immoral resorts of any kind, whether we sin in them or not;
- The things are all bad books, indecent pictures, songs, jokes and the like, even when they are tolerated by public opinion and found in public places.
on my face. Nope. Can’t do it. I’m not a masochist. I don’t have that gift. Therefore, I am a horrible evil person in your eyes and in the eyes of God. God only wants masochists.