Kiss between boyfriend/girlfriend during the Sign of Peace

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Perhaps a roaming squad of nuns with heavy rulers during the youth mass?
 
Domnall said:
I highly doubt that there is any Church document that states that couples who are not engaged or married may not kiss during the sign of peace 😛

However, I think that as long as it is a quick peck, I don’t really see a problem with it. Heck, I’ve done it when I’ve taken a girl to Mass before.

I’m curious to hear what everyone else thinks.
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I think it shows that they don’t understand what the sign of peace is all about. This is not a time for PDAs. I don’t treat my husband or children any differently at this time than I do the stranger next to me. They all get a handshake, nothing more.
 
Phemie said:
I think it shows that they don’t understand what the sign of peace is all about. This is not a time for PDAs. I don’t treat my husband or children any differently at this time than I do the stranger next to me. They all get a handshake, nothing more.
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I was really wondering when someone was going to say something contrary to the public acclaim here.

Their is no sign of peace for the laity in the EF, so I didn’t want to comment on something I’m not too familiar with.

But in the little Protestant church I grew up with, you’d better not be even touching unless you were married. 😛 A small peck in the choir loft would be way out of line.
 
I would say a quick peck/kiss is ok as long as they are not prolonging the kiss. I notice many people mainly spouses do the same thing, they will exchange a quick kiss, and parents/family members may do the same based on comfort level.
 
Phemie said:
But then they should also be doing the same thing to everyone else, no “kiss for one and handshake for everyone else.”
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This is how I feel about it as well. Everyone should receive the same “sign of peace”. I’m not going to kiss the guy standing next to me and nod to the lady in front of me. Everyone gets a handshake, a nod and “peace be with you”.
 
Phemie said:
I think it shows that they don’t understand what the sign of peace is all about. This is not a time for PDAs. I don’t treat my husband or children any differently at this time than I do the stranger next to me. They all get a handshake, nothing more.
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Gosh, we do kiss among ourselves, and in out Parish, because of swine flu, a gesture is allowed, if handshaking makes one uncomfortable.

I guess we shouldn’t?:o
 
nicolep said:
This is how I feel about it as well. Everyone should receive the same “sign of peace”. I’m not going to kiss the guy standing next to me and nod to the lady in front of me. Everyone gets a handshake, a nod and “peace be with you”.
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I think it is acceptable that you give your sign of peace in accordance with your relationship with that person. My parents always hugged and kissed us during the sign of peace. They didn’t usually hug Mrs. Applebaum who sat in front of us and I don’t think she was at all put out about it.
 
Allegra said:
I think it is acceptable that you give your sign of peace in accordance with your relationship with that person. My parents always hugged and kissed us during the sign of peace. They didn’t usually hug Mrs. Applebaum who sat in front of us and I don’t think she was at all put out about it.
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That’s fine. I just happen to disagree.
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
Gosh, we do kiss among ourselves, and in out Parish, because of swine flu, a gesture is allowed, if handshaking makes one uncomfortable.

I guess we shouldn’t?:o
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Speaking of making people uncomfortable, when it comes to the other parishoners, I’ve always let the other person take the lead in how they want to exchange the sign of peace. Some people are only comfortable with a nod, not everyone likes to shake hands. So I let the other person set the tone. I’ve had hugs from complete strangers, I had an older gentleman fist bump me one Sunday. I couldn’t help but smile.
 
nicolep said:
That’s fine. I just happen to disagree.
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Just as long as your disdain for “peace inequality” doesn’t extend to me, we’re cool. I guess if it really bothers you, I can kiss you too.
 
nicolep said:
This is how I feel about it as well. Everyone should receive the same “sign of peace”. I’m not going to kiss the guy standing next to me and nod to the lady in front of me. Everyone gets a handshake, a nod and “peace be with you”.
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Yes, it is intended as a sign of peace (a liturgical sign) not a public display of affection. Still, for all the ladies who like to kiss at the sign of peace, please let me know so I can stand next to you. 🙂
 
nicolep said:
This is how I feel about it as well. Everyone should receive the same “sign of peace”. I’m not going to kiss the guy standing next to me and nod to the lady in front of me. Everyone gets a handshake, a nod and “peace be with you”.
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So what happens when you catch the eye of a person that is two pews ahead or behind you? Do you lunge across the pew to make sure you can shake their hand just to be fair? 🙂 Or do you just stoically nod at everyone near by just in case you have to nod at someone beyond handshake range?

If you can agree that location of the person may change the “sign of peace” why not the relationship and the closeness of the person?
 
I personally don’t feel people who are dating should kiss at mass. They’re not married.
 
The Rite of Peace

82. The Rite of Peace follows, by which the Church asks for peace and unity for herself and
for the whole human family, and the faithful express to each other their ecclesial communion and
mutual charity before communicating in the Sacrament.
As for the sign of peace to be given, the manner is to be established by Conferences of Bishops in
accordance with the culture and customs of the peoples. It is, however, appropriate that each
person offer the sign of peace only to those who are nearest and in a sober manner.
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There has been little mention of the Rite of Peace. In fact, even the G.I.R.M. limits mention of it to two small paragraphs. I don’t think that most Catholics have a clear understanding of what is acceptable and most have not been instructed on it one way or the other. For us CAF members who are more likely to research the details, we get the understanding that The Sign of Peace is symbolic and that it more ritual than like greeting someone as we enter the Church or saying hello or good bye to our loved ones. But we also read in the G.I.R.M. quoted above that **the manner of the sign of peace to be given is to be established by the Conference of Bishops in accordance with the culture and customs of the peoples. **To my knowledge, this has never happened. Even if one tries to come up with one sign that they will give to everyone, family, friends, and strangers alike, there will always be someone who extends a sign different than our own. Until the Conference of bishops establishes the manner in which we are to extend the sign of peace, I think that it is best to refrain from judging the signs of peace given by those around us.
 
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