I just came across this thread, and this is my first post in the forums. I do “lurk” from time to time to get others’ insights, which for the most part I have found very helpful.
I just had to comment on some of the responses in this thread. It appears to me from reading this young man’s question, that it was very earnest and he was genuinely seeking guidance. Some of the answers were very kind and understanding.
However, I perceived some of the answers to be quite self-righteous and condemnatory. Teenagers generally do not respond well to that sort of tone. It could very well drive them away and dissuade them from seeking further advice. Is that what we want?
Shouldn’t we as Catholics answer this young person’s question with love and respect, without judgment? Do we not want our young people to feel welcome, to be able to come here to a Catholic forum for advice without the fear of reprimand or degrading, hurtful words/attitude? Lastly, do these condemnatory responses spread the correct message about our Catholic faith?