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thechrismyster said:
i notice in many of your posts you fall back onto determining broad opinions by a single posters thoughts. i think you do it to set a condescending tone to your final thought. as in “oh well, thats the problem with society” implying you have the answer and/or you consider yourself different than society.

I watch for it now. it makes me smile every time.
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My thoughts exactly!!!👍
 
Faith, just curious do they bus these unruly children into your Parish? You do seem to have an abundance of them.
 
Faith1960 said:
Why would (or should) I or anyone else assume the parents ARE doing something about the offensive behaviors when it’s painfully obvious to everyone sitting near them that mom and dad are just sitting/standing/kneeling there, saying and doing nothing about it and allowing it to continue? I mean, aside from the fact that it might make some people here feel better?
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You are being sooooooo judgemental, you bad girl.
Don’t you know that those parents who are sitting/standing/kneeling, saying and doing nothing about the disruptive behavior of their children are actually sending thought waves to the child while attempting to come out of their own spiritual crisis? How could you be so mean?

Ya know, it’s kind of like those new cellphone tones that parent’s can’t hear. Because we correct our children verbally or physically, we can’t hear the ESP going on.

(or at least that’s what it seems…;))
 
RCCDefender said:
That’s what I thought.
A lot. You don’t have any idea how you would have parented any other child with a different temperment. And, no, you don’t parent every child the same way, but you wouldn’t know about that would you?

Who would have guessed?
But, does that have anything to do with what a perfect parent you were? NO, you are not your grandmother. You have no idea how any other children you may have had would have behaved or how you would have dealt with a child who had problems. So, just because you are so perfect doesn’t give you the right to sit in judgement of every single other parent out there. You don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes, although you pretend to. I agree that there are some parents whose training leaves much to be desired, but your attitude, especially about a little child whispering and humming quietly to herself, shows you to be judgemental of any parent who isn’t as perfect as you. Jesus welcomed all the little children; He didn’t send the unruly ones away because they were bothering other people.
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WOW!! RCC… What a jugdemental bully you are!.. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.
 
netmil(name removed by moderator) said:
You are being sooooooo judgemental, you bad girl.
Don’t you know that those parents who are sitting/standing/kneeling, saying and doing nothing about the disruptive behavior of their children are actually sending thought waves to the child while attempting to come out of their own spiritual crisis? How could you be so mean?

Ya know, it’s kind of like those new cellphone tones that parent’s can’t hear. Because we correct our children verbally or physically, we can’t hear the ESP going on.

(or at least that’s what it seems…;))
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I know. I really should give each and every one the benefit of the doubt since I know they’ve all been given the gift of ESP, whereas I’ve been burdened in having to speak out loud in order to be heard. It’s my own personal cross I must bear.
 
If there are children that are that distracting, why don’t you move? At my church, people sit pretty much in the same place every week. If you know that they will be there, why not pick somewhere else to sit?

Once, in confession, the priest told me “You may not like or approve of this person, but God loves them. It is your job as a christian to figure out why!”

So instead of fixating on what the child/parent is doing wrong, why not try to figure out what it is about them that God loves enough to invite them to his supper?
 
When I go to Mass I am there because it is God’s will for me to be there and because I can recieve him In The Eucharist. I am here in this world to do God’s will so I can be happy with him in The next. There are so many fallen away Catholics who no longer go to Mass and are living in a State of Mortal sin. Whose souls are in grave danger, which causes God great sadness. There is great joy in Heaven when Catholics are going to Mass, especially when they are children. So if those children are acting up, misbehaving shame on me if I sit in judgement. They are at Mass, they are learning about Jesus, maybe praying a rosary and asking Our Blessed Mother for tolerance is a thought.
 
awindrose said:
If there are children that are that distracting, why don’t you move? At my church, people sit pretty much in the same place every week. If you know that they will be there, why not pick somewhere else to sit?

Once, in confession, the priest told me “You may not like or approve of this person, but God loves them. It is your job as a christian to figure out why!”

So instead of fixating on what the child/parent is doing wrong, why not try to figure out what it is about them that God loves enough to invite them to his supper?
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BTDT. Our church is built in the round and I’ve sat in several different areas. I’ve encountered this problem in some of those areas. There are some areas of the church that seem quieter with few distractions but they’re really far off to the side, in the back corners and it’s very difficult to see much of anything. I prefer to sit in one of the center rows, about in the middle but closer to the altar, so I can see my priest, watch the consecration and all that’s going on during Mass. Like in your parish, we often have some of the same people sitting in the same places weekly and I look forward to seeing most of them.

With the exception of the kid who wanted to lounge in the middle of the aisle, the people who don’t correct their children’s behavior aren’t in the same pews week after week. They move around and there’s no way of knowing where they’ll turn up.
When I get there just before Mass is about to begin, I can choose my seat accordingly.
When I arrive early, there’s no telling who might sit near me. I really can’t just get up and move after Mass starts without appearing as rude as they are, now can I?
 
Nordar said:
When I go to Mass I am there because it is God’s will for me to be there and because I can recieve him In The Eucharist. I am here in this world to do God’s will so I can be happy with him in The next. There are so many fallen away Catholics who no longer go to Mass and are living in a State of Mortal sin. Whose souls are in grave danger, which causes God great sadness. There is great joy in Heaven when Catholics are going to Mass, especially when they are children. So if those children are acting up, misbehaving shame on me if I sit in judgement. They are at Mass, they are learning about Jesus, maybe praying a rosary and asking Our Blessed Mother for tolerance is a thought.
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If I ever offer up a rosary for this problem I’ll offer it for the parents, that they begin to care more about teaching their kids right from wrong instead of letting them behave so inappropriately during Mass and out in public, in general.
 
Faith1960 said:
When I get there just before Mass is about to begin, I can choose my seat accordingly.
When I arrive early, there’s no telling who might sit near me.
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Then arrive just before Mass is about to begin…
 
I have a hard time with one of my twins. He “acts up” during Mass. So we usually sit in the back of the church. During Mass, I try to teach by example and I only give a glare when needed. This may come across as though I am ignoring my children. You see, before I was a believer, I was an abusive husband and father. Being passive towards my children is part of my penace. For me, there is more at stake then just offending a few people. I have been warned by the Lord not to cross the line and believe my life depends on it. Just a thought, Tim
 
Faith1960 said:
If I ever offer up a rosary for this problem I’ll offer it for the parents, that they begin to care more about teaching their kids right from wrong instead of letting them behave so inappropriately during Mass and out in public, in general.
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Somehow I knew that you would say that and that is sad.
 
paramedicgirl said:
Just not during the Mass, though, K? 😉
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There has been applause at the last two Masses we’ve had. One was for a couple there who were celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. Applause at the beginning of Mass when it was announced and again, after they received a blessing near the end of Mass.

Last week the congregation broke into applause near the end of Mass after a speech by one of the parishioners, talking about stewardship.
 
awindrose said:
Then arrive just before Mass is about to begin…
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I have but don’t plan to make it a habit because the pews I sit in are often filled up then and I have to sit somewhere else, often where I can’t see, which is ridiculous considering I’M not the one offending people left and right. 😃 I suspect our priests are getting a bit tired of racket during Mass so we’ll see what happens.
 
TOP said:
I have a hard time with one of my twins. He “acts up” during Mass. So we usually sit in the back of the church. During Mass, I try to teach by example and I only give a glare when needed. This may come across as though I am ignoring my children. You see, before I was a believer, I was an abusive husband and father. Being passive towards my children is part of my penace. For me, there is more at stake then just offending a few people. I have been warned by the Lord not to cross the line and believe my life depends on it. Just a thought, Tim
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At least you try sitting in the back of the church instead of bringing them up in the middle or front of everyone. That shows some consideration on your part and it’s appreciated, I’m sure.
 
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