(John 17:16)
As far as predestination is concerned, one is only doomed from the start in so far as God always knew they would choose damnation. God didn’t “doom” them, however, He created them knowing full well they would be doomed. So from God’s perspective, they were always doomed. From the human perspective, they were doomed in time according to their own free will. God can say He predestines because He creates with foreknowledge.
We can’t say we were predestined to anything but to receive the grace of salvation because we live in time and we receive predestined grace which we can accept or deny in time. God created the damned with every intention of them being saved. God’s intentions are always good. But the realization of His intentions are dependent upon our actions: our freely willed actions. So although God’s intentions are for everyone to be saved, and although God does everything possible for every person to be saved, denying no one the means to be saved, people still end up in hell while being created in full knowledge of their final destination.
One in hell, therefore, can justifiably say in all truth that they were always doomed from the start and had no choice since they had no choice whether to be created or not, while at the same time claiming to have willingly went to hell by their own actions since what they could choose in time was what caused their damnation. Their creation caused their damnation since without their being created they could have never chosen to be dammed, and their free will caused their damnation since it was their choices that caused their damnation. God’s ‘will’ is for us to be saved, but His ‘act’ of creation often leads to someone’s damnation since God creates not a creature who has no choice but one who does. Man’s will, distinct from God’s but created by God, is free to choose life or death. So man is predestined not by the “will” of God, but by His original “act” of creation and by the “will” of man.
If I intended on creating two people to be with me who were totally free to choose, and I knew that no matter what I did one would never choose me and I created that one anyway, it could be said that I predestined that one to be apart from me, even though I intended on him to be with me, since in knowing his fatal choice, I chose to create him anyway. My action caused his predestination, not my will, other than I willed to the action of creating him, I could never will his evil will nor did I predestine his evil will.
I could say of the other that I predestined him for myself by my actions, not my will, other than I willed the act of creating him as well and he cooperated with my will for him to end up with me.
It could also be said that they both chose for themselves since I gave them the power to do so, even though I knew ahead of time which choice each of them would make.
Now if I were very wise, I would make the bad choice of the one benefit the other, as well as the good choice of the other be part of the punishment of the one who chose badly. Of course I would have to be a god to have such wisdom.
We must remember, by virtue of God’s goodness, that He never determined a creature as existing based on their eternal outcome. That would be to objectify His own creation. God created each and every one of us because He loved us. God loved us into existence. His foreknowledge of our outcomes is the consequence of His divinity, not a qualification for our existence.