A good number of us here have read the Qur’an at least once. Many like me have read it many times and have studied Islam in some depth. It’s really not wise to come here and assume that we are ignorant… it is not wise to deny what is really in the Qur’an because we know the book very well. Just admit it… the Qu’ran and Shri’ah not only allow for wife beating but give instructions of when to do it.
[4:34] The men are made responsible for the women, and GOD has endowed them with certain qualities, and made them the bread earners. The righteous women will cheerfully accept this arrangement, since it is GOD’s commandment, and honor their husbands during their absence. If you experience rebellion from the women, you shall first talk to them, then (you may use negative incentives like) deserting them in bed, then you may (as a last alternative) *beat them. If they obey you, you are not permitted to transgress against them. *
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Shari’ah law restates the above telling a man when he should beat his wife.
I have listened to many talks given by Imam stating that a man can and should beat his wife… the trick is that they do not call it a ‘beating’, the call it a ‘correction’.
The Qur’an does not give men and women equal rights in marriage. It gives men the rights of control and great power over all of his wives. As long as a man can have more then one wife and he can beat his wives by law, then he has superior power over all of his wives.
The very same verse answers yuo very much. But you don’t see that. The sentence starts with 'If you experience rebellion from the women… ', what is it when the woman experience the same from the husband?
When the husband experience it, first he have to talk to her. But she don’t have to do that. She can directly go for divorce.
Secondly, he have desert her (stay away) in the bed. But she don’t have to do that. She can directly go for divorce.
Thirdly, he can beat her but not with hand, no mark, no blood, with something like folded cloth, a tooth brush, a pencil (And you call it a beating!!). But she don’t have to do that. She can directly go for divorce.
Still the husband can’t solve the issue, there are another rules for Islamic divorce. Call up a meeting between family members from both side. Here she too have to cooperate. But still she have the right to go for divorce if she wish.
There are three announcment of divorce periodically, where the third is the final and official. In the first and second, they still have the chance to rethink and join back. But she don’t have to wait. She can directly go for divorce.
If the husband still think, can’t live together, then only Islam allows the divorce. But she don’t have to wait. She can directly go for divorce.
A man must never, ever under any circumstance hit is wife.
Why? Well for one thing is only shows that he is weak and a bad leader. But most of all because once a man finds an excuse for hitting a wife it becomes easier and easier. The truth is that in Islamic society most women are beat by their husbands fairly regularly
HA… HA… Allegation? You think all are stupid?
Why do they not leave? Where will they go? They have no way of supporting themselves.
She have legal share in her fathers property.
I’ll have to look it up tonight but as I recall Shari’ah severely limit’s a woman’s right to ask for a divorce and her rights during a divorce… For example she loses custody of her children… they automatically go the husband.
Islam gives all the power in a marriage to the husband.
Atomatically?!!
It is case to case my dear. The sharia court can decide on it, to whom the responsibility of custody can be given. The women that want the custody of her children cannot marry to any other man. Because that man may not consider her children as his own. That is why in most of the cases, the custody of children are given to the father than mother. Otherwise it can be given to mother as well.
‘It is not lawful for you to try to hold your wives against their will, and neither shall you keep them under constraint with a view to taking away anything of what you may have given them…’ -Quran4:19
The laws of Islam doesn’t have fit with your views on life. Instead, Islam provides a way life for those who seek.
What I learn from Islam, regarding marital relationship is this,
“Among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility and contentment with each other. He places in your heart love and care towards your spouses. In this, there are signs for people who think.” (30:21)