My child is being aborted

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My name is michael.

I am 23 and I am a cradle Catholic. I am not a very good Catholic in the sense of choices i make, but i do believe in God and the holy Catholic church. I have a shaky faith and i come and go regularly. one thing I cannot waver on is my faith in Life. Unfortunately I suffer from anxiety and a according to the doctors a little depression as well. But even if I dont feel like i deserve to be on this earth at times, I never would wish that upon anyone else.

I made the sour choice to sleep with my girlfriend of 6 months and she broke up with me. Weeks later she came and told me she was pregnant and didnt know what to do. I was overwhelemed and afraid. Even though it was tough I am proud of myself for standing by what i know is right and I suggested we keep it. I made every argument I could. I offered to take of the child myself, suggested adoption, trying dating again. her taking care of the child. my parents taking care, even getting married. I just learned from her tonight that she has an appointment for an abortion this tuesday and now I am in the biggest hole of my life. I am upset, depressed, and afraid. I do not know how I can keep on living knowing I created life and I let it slip through my fingers. I should never have had sex outside wedlock as is, but I made that choice and I have to live with it. But why does someone else, MY Child, have to die because of my choice. I do not know what to do and where to turn. her friends and family are against me and all encourage the abortion instead of just supporting her. and i feel so alone.

I am writing this I guess because I need a hand to hold. I am so terrified and devastated and I just need someone to talk to me.
 
I am so sorry for what you are going through Michael. I am praying for you and your girlfriend right now. May God bless you.
 
I am so sorry you are going through this Michael. Know that you and your ex gf are being lifted up in prayer. I would keep trying to talk her out of this in the most loving way you can. Explain to her that this baby does not deserve to die because of the choices you both made. Has she had an appointment and heard the heartbeat of the baby? If not i would suggest she at least hear the heart beat before she decides.
If she does go through with the abortion, remember that God can and will transform even the worst circumstances into good. By this i mean He always helps us to grow closer to Him.
Please continue to see your doctor for your condition. Slight depression may become worse while dealing with this. St. Dymphna is the patron saint for mental illness, she has helped me get through some of my bad days. If you need to talk please feel free to pm me.
 
REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.

Just reach out your hand, precious one, God will take hold of it.
 
This Tuesday, as in in tomorrow? I will pray all day today and tomorrow for you, your baby, and your girlfriend.
 
St Maximilian Kolbe pray for us.

Hail Mary full of grace
the Lord is with thee
Blessed are thou among women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus
Holy Mary Mother of God
Pray for us sinners
Now and at the hour of our death
Amen
 
Praying! Our Lady of Sorrows, Our Lady of the Rosary, pray for us.
 
Place your hope and trust in God and pray for a change of heart for the mother of your child. There are some strong arguments that can be presented and your local Right to Life may be able to assist you in how to present these to her but it seems like you are on a very short timeline. I will pray for God to lead you forward and gift you with the wisdom and strength you need.

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REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.
 
I’m so sorry about this 😦

Is there anyone near you that you can talk to right now and get some support?

I’ll keep you in my prayers. I really don’t know what to say to make it better, but please know that you are not alone. People are praying for you.
 
I have often wondered if the father has a legal leg to stand on by filing suit to stop the abortion. Drastic times require drastic measures.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen.
 
I am so sorry to hear that. The baby is not the only victim when it comes to abortion. If I were you I wouldn’t give up into talk her out of the abortion. Do you have any friend in common that can help you convince her that is not the best choice? I will keep you in my prayers.
 
getysbg said:
I have often wondered if the father has a legal leg to stand on by filing suit to stop the abortion. Drastic times require drastic measures.
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No, he doesn’t. Legally speaking men have no say in the matter of abortion. All he can do is try to convince her not to do it, but in the end he can’t do absolutely anything about it
 
JosephElbert,

You made a mistake by deciding to have intercourse out of wedlock, and are guilty of mortal sin for doing so. Having said this, you have absolutely no moral fault if the child is killed - that is solely on your girlfriend’s shoulders. The only thing you can do is to do everything within your power to change her mind about getting the abortion. If you do this and she still decides to go ahead, know that the blame is not on you. You are only guilty insofar as you took part in the sexual act that gave birth to the baby, but not of its death if it is aborted.

Hope this helps. I am praying for you, and especially for the baby’s life.

J
 
JRTJ said:
JosephElbert,

You made a mistake by deciding to have intercourse out of wedlock, and are guilty of mortal sin for doing so. Having said this, you have absolutely no moral fault if the child is killed - that is solely on your girlfriend’s shoulders. The only thing you can do is to do everything within your power to change her mind about getting the abortion. If you do this and she still decides to go ahead, know that the blame is not on you. You are only guilty insofar as you took part in the sexual act that gave birth to the baby, but not of its death if it is aborted.

Hope this helps. I am praying for you, and especially for the baby’s life.

J
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Gee, I guess that will make him feel better about the situation .
 
I think he understands he is not responsible for her decision. The problem is this woman is about to kill his baby. This is a horrible situation. I am so sorry this is happening.

Our society has become so irrevocably sick.

What about contacting a pro-life pregnancy center to ask them to contact her? They have counselors who intervene in this sort of thing all the time. I hope somebody involved with these organizations reads his post and sends him a private message.

I will pray a rosary for the three of you.
 
marymary1975 said:
No, he doesn’t. Legally speaking men have no say in the matter of abortion. All he can do is try to convince her not to do it, but in the end he can’t do absolutely anything about it
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I don’t know who makes that decision, but that is a stupid rule. It takes 2 to make a baby, the father should have as much (name removed by moderator)ut as the woman.

To the Op, all I can tell you is go talk to her, talk to her til her ears drop off. If she doesn’t hear you, go tomorrow to the abortion clinic and try talking to her. It’s such a tough position to be in. Keep telling her, have it, I will take it, let her know that she won’t have any responsibility of the baby once its born
 
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