My child is being aborted

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My name is michael.

I am 23 and I am a cradle Catholic. I am not a very good Catholic in the sense of choices i make, but i do believe in God and the holy Catholic church. I have a shaky faith and i come and go regularly. one thing I cannot waver on is my faith in Life. Unfortunately I suffer from anxiety and a according to the doctors a little depression as well. But even if I dont feel like i deserve to be on this earth at times, I never would wish that upon anyone else.

I made the sour choice to sleep with my girlfriend of 6 months and she broke up with me. Weeks later she came and told me she was pregnant and didnt know what to do. I was overwhelemed and afraid. Even though it was tough I am proud of myself for standing by what i know is right and I suggested we keep it. I made every argument I could. I offered to take of the child myself, suggested adoption, trying dating again. her taking care of the child. my parents taking care, even getting married. I just learned from her tonight that she has an appointment for an abortion this tuesday and now I am in the biggest hole of my life. I am upset, depressed, and afraid. I do not know how I can keep on living knowing I created life and I let it slip through my fingers. I should never have had sex outside wedlock as is, but I made that choice and I have to live with it. But why does someone else, MY Child, have to die because of my choice. I do not know what to do and where to turn. her friends and family are against me and all encourage the abortion instead of just supporting her. and i feel so alone.

I am writing this I guess because I need a hand to hold. I am so terrified and devastated and I just need someone to talk to me.
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I am overjoyed that you have such a soft heart. There are many men out there that would not care. With that being said, although it will cause you heartache, please do not give in to false guilt. You can try to talk her out of it, but ultimately if she does it there is nothing you can do about it. You made a mistake by sleeping with her yes, but as long as you stand forgiven and have done penance and you and Jesus are OK, and you will/are amend/ing your behavior, anything that is done past that, that she chooses to do, is on HER. Her sin is independent of yours. Yes had you never slept with her she wouldn’t have chosen this, but this still does not make it your fault. Her decision to commit such a heinous crime is hers alone. No one can blame anyone else for that except for her. I would plead with her not to do it until your mouth stops working but that’s about all you can do. PRay pray and pray some more. I feel for you and am prayinf for you. Holy JEsus, by the power of your blood, wash clean the evil thoughts of this woman. Please show her another way. Mary pray for her, and pray for the innocent life about to be taken. May it be spared in Jesus’ name AMen
 
I, too, urge you to not stop trying. Bring her flowers when you see her, and ask her earnestly to carry the child to term and that you will raise it for her. I feel that the scary part of this for her might be the gravity and permanence of having a child, but if you can reduce it to just a pregnancy in her mind, perhaps she can “hold on” for a few months if she knows her commitment will end there.

The three of you are in my prayers. Don’t give up hope yet!!
 
I have not yet given up hope. but it is getting hard to do this. she does not want to speak to me about it and her friends and family are keeping her out of arms reach
 
I will pray for this prayer intention.

Hail Mary, Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.

Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen.
 
I will be praying for you and your child. I will ask others in my 40 Days for Life group to pray also.
 
I slept terribly last night, so each time I found myself laying awake, I prayed for your child and girlfriend and you. I so hope something changes.
 
I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking.

Praying for you, the mother, and the child.

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chero23 said:
I don’t know who makes that decision, but that is a stupid rule. It takes 2 to make a baby, the father should have as much (name removed by moderator)ut as the woman.

To the Op, all I can tell you is go talk to her, talk to her til her ears drop off. If she doesn’t hear you, go tomorrow to the abortion clinic and try talking to her. It’s such a tough position to be in. Keep telling her, have it, I will take it, let her know that she won’t have any responsibility of the baby once its born
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yes it’s funny that a woman can just go in and kill her baby. abortion shouldn’t be legal, but since it is it seems like they would at least require two consenting parties, mother AND father
 
Josephelbert said:
I have not yet given up hope. but it is getting hard to do this. she does not want to speak to me about it and her friends and family are keeping her out of arms reach
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Try talking to her family. You said Tuesday, so if it hasn’t yet happened go find her family if you can’t talk to her
 
marydaze said:
yes it’s funny that a woman can just go in and kill her baby. abortion shouldn’t be legal, but since it is it seems like they would at least require two consenting parties, mother AND father
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That is why the only position that makes sense and is truly equal is the pro life!!! Pro choices are all screwed up.
 
No matter what happens today, I encourage you to make an appointment with your parish priest.
 
michael

You commented that her friends and family are all against you – Why Is That ?! You might want to think about that – and since you’re an ex-boyfriend ?-- you didn’t say how old either of you are. This may sound cruel – but Maybe – even though it Does take two to ‘make a baby’ – apparently there are other circumstances. Since they don’t want you around – maybe you should heed their wishes and leave her alone. And since you were in the role of a boyfriend – you really Don’t have a say in what she does. If the two of you were older and engaged and Then this happened, you’d have more of a say in it. Maybe – after this situation is over with – if you still want to be a friend and she’s okay with being a friend – then go ahead and be a friend.
 
crochet_lady said:
michael

You commented that her friends and family are all against you – Why Is That ?! You might want to think about that – and since you’re an ex-boyfriend ?-- you didn’t say how old either of you are. This may sound cruel – but Maybe – even though it Does take two to ‘make a baby’ – apparently there are other circumstances. Since they don’t want you around – maybe you should heed their wishes and leave her alone. And since you were in the role of a boyfriend – you really Don’t have a say in what she does. If the two of you were older and engaged and Then this happened, you’d have more of a say in it. Maybe – after this situation is over with – if you still want to be a friend and she’s okay with being a friend – then go ahead and be a friend.
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i think i may have accidentally left a stray and incomplete post, if so this is what i was going to say: it is true that if they were both under 18 and the parents are trying to protect their daughter he should stay away from HER. However, I think he should at least ATTEMPT to approach the parents about not doing the abortion. Even adoption could be an option. All that can do in the eyes of the parents is see that the boy isn’t as bad as they think. Otherwise, if they are over 18, the parents have no right to interfere if the woman is an adult. Still, in either case, the guy should at least voice his opinion and attempt to influence the girl, or woman, about not committing murder
 
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