Hey that sounds like my kind of place (except for the cursing).Cussing and drinking alcohol are just parts of military culture which you and him will both have to come to terms with.
If foul language and drunkeness bother him much, the US Military is not the place for him.
Every place I was ever at, everyone from the lowly Airmen basics all the way up to the Generals cursed like sailors and drank like fish.
You know him better than we do, of course. I don’t know what the military is like, but I know that he would encounter the same type of drinking culture at most any university, too. But if he makes the decision not to drink, it’s certainly possible to stick with it. I made that decision when I went to college, and I stuck with it. It surprised a lot of people because I’m an introvert and generally a “go with the flow” kind of guy, so when I stuck to my guns about not drinking, people were kind of taken aback. But once they realized that I really wasn’t going to start drinking, I was just “the guy who didn’t drink.”I already figured this, I just hope he doesn’t start drinking.
I really, really don’t like the sound of that.You have to learn to separate between your faith and personal morality vs US military culture.
It’s worth talking to him in advance about friendly refusals.I hope he would respond that way in fact, just coolly decline , I just hope he doesn’t try to do harmful things to try to prove himself. Thank you
Heck, he might even wind up in San Diego!There is a big difference between being stationed at Camp LeJeune in NC and being stationed in HI if you live on the east coast.
Yeah, not really. Telling her that there is a good chance her son may end up mentally unstable and in a shootout with cops is just flat out silly. If we’re giving someone advice on what to expect if a family member joins the military, let’s not offer action movies as evidence.Nope, Vietnam troops coming home to injustice is slowly happening all over again.
The only thing that’s determined by where you live now is which basic training he goes to. If you’re on the east coast, you go to Parris Island. If the west coast, San Diego. After that, he could be assigned anywhere in the world that there is a need for his particular specialty.Hi Irishmom, we live in NY, would this mean he’ll go to Hawaii? Sorry for my huge ignorance in this matter. Maybe I should go to the Marine website for comprehensive information, I just learned of this yesterday. Thanks so much to all who have participated here.
Yeah.Do you really think this is helpful? Honestly. He hasn’t even left for boot camp and you share an extreme thing like this? I don’t care how honest you think you are being, it’s not helpful to the OP. This is not her son asking for reality, it is someone’s mother, and I think you are not helping her fears.