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dollysro
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A wise person told me I had more to be grateful to God for than angry with Him.
I married them.
I married them.
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My wife left me a year and a half ago. Now my life is done in this regard
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MasterMacLeod82
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@dollysro Them?
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Annie
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What would you like us to do for you?
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MasterMacLeod82
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To help me rationalize why does it seem to be that God allows my life to be an entire journey of humiliation pain and suffering with only brief lapses of peace and/or joy but I know that you can’t see it from my POV.
Peace.
Peace.
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Annie
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I think you may be grieving. It is hard when someone we were very close to leaves our life for whatever reason. And I will be honest: it generally takes a long time like 2 or 3 years, to really emerge from that kind of deep wound, and it leaves scars and aches. You will be changed by what has happened, but also you will not always feel the way you do now.
At the same time, it’s kind of like recovering from an accident or operation. You have to do some of the work in the recovery process. If you have a serious operation, you can’t lie in bed waiting to feel better, you have to do the painful physical therapy.
The good news is that the sort of discontent you feel now with your life might be that itch around a scab that indicates recovery. You may feel worse, but it may be that you are actually getting better.
At the same time, it’s kind of like recovering from an accident or operation. You have to do some of the work in the recovery process. If you have a serious operation, you can’t lie in bed waiting to feel better, you have to do the painful physical therapy.
The good news is that the sort of discontent you feel now with your life might be that itch around a scab that indicates recovery. You may feel worse, but it may be that you are actually getting better.
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dollysro
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Them, that person.
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MasterMacLeod82
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Just to rub some salt on my wound…
Today I learned that virtually all of my friends who got married around the same time as I did or even later, this year were all blessed with children.
While I’m happy for them, I just can’t help feeling like I was denied the thing I truly desired for us, just because.
Peace.
Today I learned that virtually all of my friends who got married around the same time as I did or even later, this year were all blessed with children.
While I’m happy for them, I just can’t help feeling like I was denied the thing I truly desired for us, just because.
Peace.
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Raxus
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Thank you for being strong, and brave. The docs advised my mom to abort me too, but she didn’t. I don’t have the answers for why your daughter couldn’t live here with you in the same way, but I do know, having lost both that Mom and my closest sibling in the space of two years, that they are still alive, just as your daughter is; and the love you have for her will always be with you, too, and hers for you.
If it wasn’t for strong people like you, and my Mom, I might not be here to type this. Love you, ma’am.
If it wasn’t for strong people like you, and my Mom, I might not be here to type this. Love you, ma’am.
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I am so sorry to what happened to you @MasterMacLeod82.
It’s so unfair.
Certainely, you were not all white, but in the end it is not you who have make the final decision. And some people in the same circunstances would leave some don’t (it’s what I think).
It is unfair, because you have to mourn for a decision that waht imposed to you by the person who love best on earth and who share an unique bound forever even if one break it practically.
It mean that you live with a wife that exists but refuse to live with you. And as consequence, all the resonable hope to have children is gone.
That’s a cross. But unlesss your marriage is declared invalid, as you know your only possibility is to follow Church Teaching and remain faithfull to an absent spouse. Or to try to met someone else.
secular advises, even psychologists would probably said the last.
That’s your choice.
I pray that you will recover. I am sure that it is hard.
Maybe try to live one day at one day. “Whoo. I was unhappy, I want to die, but I have survive this day. I will survive tomorrow”. To contemplate how many more years you have may be much virtiginous.
It’s hard, but yes, it is a blessing. Your spouse hurt you so much, but left you alive. Don’t kill you. You have some time for little happiness and certainely much more happiness.
I pray that you found peace again.
best wishes.
(not my business at all, but you mentionned that you try to have a children with no result. May this had played a role in your wife’s leaving?)
It’s so unfair.
Certainely, you were not all white, but in the end it is not you who have make the final decision. And some people in the same circunstances would leave some don’t (it’s what I think).
It is unfair, because you have to mourn for a decision that waht imposed to you by the person who love best on earth and who share an unique bound forever even if one break it practically.
It mean that you live with a wife that exists but refuse to live with you. And as consequence, all the resonable hope to have children is gone.
That’s a cross. But unlesss your marriage is declared invalid, as you know your only possibility is to follow Church Teaching and remain faithfull to an absent spouse. Or to try to met someone else.
secular advises, even psychologists would probably said the last.
That’s your choice.
I pray that you will recover. I am sure that it is hard.
Maybe try to live one day at one day. “Whoo. I was unhappy, I want to die, but I have survive this day. I will survive tomorrow”. To contemplate how many more years you have may be much virtiginous.
It’s hard, but yes, it is a blessing. Your spouse hurt you so much, but left you alive. Don’t kill you. You have some time for little happiness and certainely much more happiness.
I pray that you found peace again.
best wishes.
(not my business at all, but you mentionned that you try to have a children with no result. May this had played a role in your wife’s leaving?)
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