Naked pictures to spouse

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Debora123 said:
So wait, if you’re in the military you get in trouble for sending a nude pic to your wife?? :confused:

If that’s true, it’s totally bologna.
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The big issue is if it’s on a government owned or financed network… And in most training environments you are not allowed to possess what they consider pornography at all. Same for most deployments…
 
I can totally understand your wanting to share yourself with your husband but a picture can NEVER capture the true beauty of a woman. A woman is not just a beautiful body and face. Everything from how she moves to how she carry’s herself to the person she is can be attributed to feminine beauty. You could tell him what you want to do for him when he comes home and that would probably get him going even more. As an IT guy I can tell you that your picture is not going to be as secure as you think. Any creepy hacker sniffing the traffic can access it. I remember not to long hearing about a woman that performed for her husband on a webcam and she ended up on a porn site unknowingly. Believe me, anything you put on the internet is public no matter what you think. Think of it like this, if it got out do you know what that would do to your husbands reputation? The only thing a man actually feels worthwhile doing is protecting his wife. If he sees his desire caused you hurt it would undoubtedly hurt him in a way unimaginable to you.
 
Debora123 said:
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See, that right there is one of the reasons why I was so weary about him joining. It seems almost like a violation of the marriage vows… to “belong” to something other than your spouse, first and foremost.
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You both belong, together. It has to be a joint endeavor, it really does. This is why the country is not just grateful for military personnel, but for military families.
 
EasterJoy said:
You both belong, together. It has to be a joint endeavor, it really does. This is why the country is not just grateful for military personnel, but for military families.
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Stop giving such good answers. 😃
 
RoseMary131 said:
Think for a moment…your husband currently “belongs” to the military 24/7. His time belongs to the military.
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Debora123 said:
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See, that right there is one of the reasons why I was so weary about him joining. It seems almost like a violation of the marriage vows… to “belong” to something other than your spouse, first and foremost.
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I may have picked the wrong word. Maybe “belong” is not the right word.

It is true that God has joined you and your husband as one. In that sense you “belong” to each other, no one else.

In the way I used it, the military person “belongs” to the military… meaning, the person no longer has the same “freedom” to do as they please. These words aren’t the right ones either, but I’ll try… what he does 24/7 must be following the rules or orders given.

There may be a lot of times when you will be weary of what the military brings to your family. It is okay to express your concerns with your husband. Do so at the right time. When he comes home from Officers Basic Training, it may not be a good time to express your concerns about his joining. I know you will support all his hard work during training. It might make him feel sad he joined if he thinks it troubles you. (There will be a right time for you both to discuss any concerns you have.)

There should be a Family Support system for you and other spouses once he finishes training. It will be a good place to learn from others the “dos and don’ts” and to talk about the hard times and fun times of being a military family.
 
Debora123 said:
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See, that right there is one of the reasons why I was so weary about him joining. It seems almost like a violation of the marriage vows… to “belong” to something other than your spouse, first and foremost.
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He doesn’t belong to the military the way he “belongs” to you.

He’s considered military property, though.

That might not help you to know that. But that is how the military sees it.
 
Debora123 said:
Thank you all for your replies. I am actually pleasantly surprised… I thought there would be a lot more people calling it porn and saying it was totally sinful. :rolleyes:
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I’m one of those people that don’t believe that images, videos, etc. of spouses viewed by those spouses is porn. There is something that just seems inherently wrong with spouses viewing each other’s bodies in a negative manner.
He and I aren’t famous people or important people or anything.
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I assume that you meant to say that you two aren’t famous yet. 😉
Why would anyone wanna go through the trouble of hacking into an average, middle class couple’s emails?
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There are a lot of amateur hackers, or hacking programs, that aren’t targeting anything in particular, just an easy opportunity.
 
Debora123 said:
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See, that right there is one of the reasons why I was so weary about him joining. It seems almost like a violation of the marriage vows… to “belong” to something other than your spouse, first and foremost.
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I’m so sorry that you are still having a hard time coping with him being in the military. It’s completely understandable, especially if you feel as if he belongs to the government and not to you. But remember that no matter what the government says, you both first and foremost belong to God, and then to each other, and no amount of documents written by pencil pushers at the Pentagon can change that.
 
2522 Modesty protects the mystery of persons and their love. It encourages patience and moderation in loving relationships; it requires that the conditions for the definitive giving and commitment of man and woman to one another be fulfilled. Modesty is decency. It inspires one’s choice of clothing. It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet.
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Don’t take this personally, I don’t know you of corse, but I wouldn’t do it because it’s trashy. Just my opinion of the behavior, not the people. Also, it’s a bit of a tease. Again, that’s my opinion of the behavior, not the people. It’s sweet that you miss him when he’s away and want to do something that bridges the miles between you. Prayers for you both!
 
Don’t do it.

It would eventually be found out and could hurt your husband’s career.

In the world of government jobs, as responsibility increases, the government does check up on people. A couple of years ago, I was interviewed as part of my neighbor’s routine security clearance.

Deborah, I know this is a tough adjustment for you. However, you have to remember that your husband is choosing to enter a dangerous field where his life and the lives of other people can be effected by his decisions.

I am in a field like that.

Your thoughtful support is going to be important for him.

He does not need any distractions that take his mind away from those life and death decisions that he will be making almost every day. I know your intent is an expression of your love for him. However, his mind needs to be on his work, and thus expressing support in other ways will be better for him.
 
In time, the spouses of military personal adopt a new persona. Military wives become associated with just that title, “military wife”. Much will be learned. Some old ways of looking at things will fade. A new course in life for both of you, a most honorable one.
 
dedo said:
Don’t do it.

It would eventually be found out and could hurt your husband’s career.

In the world of government jobs, as responsibility increases, the government does check up on people. A couple of years ago, I was interviewed as part of my neighbor’s routine security clearance.

Deborah, I know this is a tough adjustment for you. However, you have to remember that your husband is choosing to enter a dangerous field where his life and the lives of other people can be effected by his decisions.

I am in a field like that.

Your thoughtful support is going to be important for him.

He does not need any distractions that take his mind away from those life and death decisions that he will be making almost every day. I know your intent is an expression of your love for him. However, his mind needs to be on his work, and thus expressing support in other ways will be better for him.
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My older son is currently looking for a job where he may need a security clearance. We as his parents have wondered if our backgrounds are checked as well. And if so, what kinds of things are looked at. We’re not subversives or anything but my husband grew up in another country although a US citizen, born here. And I make no secret of not supporting the current administration. Neither of us have got a police record however. How far do they go into the family’s history? It surprises me that a neighbor would be asked.
 
TheRealJuliane said:
My older son is currently looking for a job where he may need a security clearance. We as his parents have wondered if our backgrounds are checked as well. And if so, what kinds of things are looked at. We’re not subversives or anything but my husband grew up in another country although a US citizen, born here. And I make no secret of not supporting the current administration. Neither of us have got a police record however. How far do they go into the family’s history? It surprises me that a neighbor would be asked.
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Depending on the level of clearance and the job, they can go quite far… When I renewed my clearance there were issues with my brother’s wife that were investigated.
 
mtbender said:
Depending on the level of clearance and the job, they can go quite far… When I renewed my clearance there were issues with my brother’s wife that were investigated.
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What sort of “issues?” We are upstanding citizens but someone looking at us the wrong way would see another picture, perhaps.
 
TheRealJuliane said:
What sort of “issues?” We are upstanding citizens but someone looking at us the wrong way would see another picture, perhaps.
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It had to do with citizenship… she was not a US Citizen at the time. It didn’t affect my clearance, just elongated the process.
 
TheRealJuliane said:
My older son is currently looking for a job where he may need a security clearance. We as his parents have wondered if our backgrounds are checked as well. And if so, what kinds of things are looked at. We’re not subversives or anything but my husband grew up in another country although a US citizen, born here. And I make no secret of not supporting the current administration. Neither of us have got a police record however. How far do they go into the family’s history? It surprises me that a neighbor would be asked.
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My husband just had his top secret security clearance. They really do ask everyone about everything. Not necessarily because they’re looking for a reason not to let him in… they’ll still let him in. They just like to know as much information as possible.

They questioned me extensively about being born in another country, and they also freaked out a little bit when they found out my older sister lives in Brazil and is married to a guy in the Brazilian Army. I asked them if any of this would be a problem, and they said NO. They just like to know as much as possible about things like that, but very few things would actually jeopardize my husband being able to get in, unless they were things that he himself had done wrong.
 
Debora123 said:
You’ll be fine. Trust me.
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Thanks, didn’t mean to hijack your thread, but we had questions and no way to find out any more information. With the economy the way it is, he’s quite concerned about finding a job in his field. The last company required a security clearance and most of the other ones he’s approached will, too. Of course as a 21 year old college student, who is squeaky clean, his background is spotless but the government is different now than it used to be…
 
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