The charting is do at first, but I think the interpretation is fairly easy.
We learned SymtoThermal in 1999 and my Husband got a hold of a new manual a while ago and hated it. He thought it was very short information.
My wife takes her temp and records it and the observations. I do the interpretation. I don’t coach her with what temp we need on any particular day. No bias or pressure on her. That way, the record keeping (her) is separate from the decisions (me).
There is a big difference between a male. A human male is made in the in the image of God and has superior intellect. A man is supposed to look at women as persons in their own right and respect them. So it is insulting to men to say that they are led by their hormones and also a cop out for some men. Women have “urges” too but historically, at least in the Western world, a “good” woman would not not think of such things let alone talk about it.It’s not a stupid question. The only way you can understand other people’s feelings is by asking them to explain.
There are two ways to explain it: in terms of how men feel, and in terms of why they feel that way. To answer the first way, well, PaulinVA gave the only answer there really is. It’s all about hormones, and if you don’t have those hormones, you can never know what it feels like to someone who does.
For the second kind of answer (the ‘why’) it is all about survival. In many species, the male has a powerful impulse to mate with as many females as possible. Males will compete with each other, even fight to the death, in order to win the right to mate. This is nature’s mechanism for ensuring the survival of the species - the male who is strongest, fastest, etc. gets to pass on his genetic material to the next generation.
Human males also have the powerful impulse to mate with as many females as possible. Of course they don’t think about it in those terms. When a guy sees a good-looking woman in a bikini, he doesn’t think “Gosh I need to pass on my DNA”. All he knows is that he feels sexually aroused when he sees her. This is why men find it so difficult to stop looking at an attractive woman, especially if her clothes are revealing. By the simple fact of seeing her, that drive to reproduce has taken over and he is already in the first stages of arousal.
Of course if the man is a Christian (or has had a good upbringing) he knows that he needs to restrain his biological impulses and so forth. I’m not trying to reduce everything to biology. But you said you wanted to know why it is so hard for men to abstain, so there you go
You have a great, loving husband.
PM me, we are CCL instructors and know some really good online instructors that might have a class coming up soon.
It’s not a stupid question. The only way you can understand other people’s feelings is by asking them to explain.
There are two ways to explain it: in terms of how men feel, and in terms of why they feel that way. To answer the first way, well, PaulinVA gave the only answer there really is. It’s all about hormones, and if you don’t have those hormones, you can never know what it feels like to someone who does.
For the second kind of answer (the ‘why’) it is all about survival. In many species, the male has a powerful impulse to mate with as many females as possible. Males will compete with each other, even fight to the death, in order to win the right to mate. This is nature’s mechanism for ensuring the survival of the species - the male who is strongest, fastest, etc. gets to pass on his genetic material to the next generation.
Human males also have the powerful impulse to mate with as many females as possible. Of course they don’t think about it in those terms. When a guy sees a good-looking woman in a bikini, he doesn’t think “Gosh I need to pass on my DNA”. All he knows is that he feels sexually aroused when he sees her. This is why men find it so difficult to stop looking at an attractive woman, especially if her clothes are revealing. By the simple fact of seeing her, that drive to reproduce has taken over and he is already in the first stages of arousal.
Of course if the man is a Christian (or has had a good upbringing) he knows that he needs to restrain his biological impulses and so forth. I’m not trying to reduce everything to biology. But you said you wanted to know why it is so hard for men to abstain, so there you go
Maybe you’re to young, but there was an episode in the original Star Trek where Spock was basically overcome by mating hormones and did a lot of bizarre things, including stealing the Enterprise to go to vulcan. Wikipedia explains it thusly:
Did you actually read my post? The whole thing? I specifically said that I was not trying to reduce everything to biology, and I pointed out that men have a duty to rise above mere impulses.
I was not referring to just the moral aspect but also to the ability of a man to determine not to be led by his urges.
That is already implied by indicating the moral aspect, which I did touch on in my original post. Obviously people can’t have a moral obligation to do something which they are unable to do.
The point is that they are able to.
Not to play devil’s advocate here, but I really don’t understand how abstinence can ever be a blessing in a marriage. I don’t know how anyone can ever be like “oh yeah, my husband and I are not having sex, but ya know, it’s a great thing!”
Perhaps abstaining in a marriage is something that needs to be done for whatever reason, for a greater good of some sort. But to say that it’s a “blessing??”Way to kick a hornet’s nest!
It certainly isn’t feeling like a blessing at the moment. I’m hoping our perseverance pays off, and really hoping it does at some point before he leaves in January.
Debora123 I posted this earlier in this thread-Not to play devil’s advocate here, but I really don’t understand how abstinence can ever be a blessing in a marriage. I don’t know how anyone can ever be like “oh yeah, my husband and I are not having sex, but ya know, it’s a great thing!”
I don’t agree with this notion at all, no offense. We all have to abstain in our marriages at times… whether it is because of using NFP, or because a spouse is ill, or out of town, or tired, etc etc… the list goes on.