And never once have is said you should.
That is fine, but that was the response you tagged directly to my post. Therefor since you did not say as I said to you, “Now I am not saying this is your church but would like your opinion on this situation.” How am I suppose to know your comment wasn’t directed at me? Which is the reason I was confused and asked.
At my church you wouldn’t, so don’t know what you want me to tell you. Honestly, it sounds like you want me to defend a position I have never taken.
That’s great I am glad to see your church does infant Baptism as well. However, as I stated in my post “**Now I am not saying this is your church but would like your opinion on this situation.” ** I didn’t want your defense, I wanted your opinion on a similar situation that occurred in a local Evangelical church my son joined. They all cursed me and I was even told I was going to Hell when I wouldn’t attend his “second Baptism”, cause the Catholic one didn’t count therefore we weren’t Christian yet.
All you can do is tell the truth and explain it as compassionately as possible. From there it’s up to the person. All I’m saying is don’t expect them to be…oh okey dokey, my entire upbringing is false, thanks for pointing that out.
Sorry just like the first poster, still no help. You are basically saying even if I tell the truth, that we “do not believe the same thing” and lovingly say this, no matter what you will take that to mean we think your upbringing is false. Because once again what good is the truth if we both don’t hold the same meaning of the what that truth is. You need to tell me how you would say it if the positions were reversed. Because from your response all I get is you are telling me this is the way the person is going to take my explanation. So why should I try to explain in it the first place?
You cay “don’t mean to be disrespectful” (because we all know that when someone says that, that basically exactly what they mean) and spin it as entitlement if you want. That still doesn’t change my position that you’re trying to tell someone their belief/belief system is some how wrong. It can be a little bit of entitlement, but not in the context you’re using. The Evangelical believes they have a spot at the Lord’s table, and if not properly “prepared” let’s say…it can be quite the shock when they’re told…“no, honestly you’re really not” even though that’s not necessarily what the Catholic Church means.
Never said mine was right and theirs was wrong, I said it was not the same. If you look back on my post I actually never even used Biblical reasoning, I used common sense. You are in someone else’s house you follow their rules, period. It is you who stated you would not accept any explanation given. Therefore it isn’t the Catholic’s problem of not accepting the Evangelical, the problem lies with the Evangelical not accepting the explanation.
I don’t think that I said that I actually feel this way, more a perception that I get (more and more from here). And that’s really a perception an Evangelical can get when, like I said above, they believe that being denied communion is denying them at the Lord’s table…basically telling them they aren’t “Christian Enough”.
Well, I am sorry you are getting that perception. Not really sure how this can change. I know this excuse doesn’t make it right, but you are on a Catholic website, that was basically set up to defend the attacks against the Catholic Church. I would guess the majority of the Catholics are here because they were attacked by fellow Christians. I don’t think I would be here today if it wasn’t for the parents of my sons best friend. We prayed with them at the school for 12 years until they finally accomplished their goal of pulling my son out of the Catholic Church. The only explanation they gave was they believed all Catholics weren’t Christian and were going to Hell.

Sure would have been nice if they gave me a heads up 12 years earlier.

Anyway, yes sometimes it can get out of hand on here, and we do need to try to be more charitable. I will keep an eye of my posts, I am pretty sure I have never said someone isn’t “Christian Enough” I will do my best not to do that in the future.
Again, I’m not arguing for or against. I’m just trying to explain the thought process, feelings, interpretation from the other foot. I’m not saying Evangelicals are right for getting upset or thinking “they deserve” communion in the Catholic Church. I’m just trying to bring their perspective to the thread that I wish the OP would come back to.
Well as I said I appreciate the perspective, but a solution would be better. Personally I have never been in this type of situation. Every non Catholic family member that I have ever attended mass with never even asked, I think they already new. The only person to ever ask was while I was in college, he never questioned my response, and continued to go to mass with me.