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LaMusicaSenior
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Awesome! Iāll keep you in my prayers as you discern the religious vocation - thatās great news!!
Thatās too bad - it is so ironic that the guys post about not finding any solid Catholic girls and the girls post about not being able to find any solid Catholic guys
Youād think everyone would run into each other! 
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Ophelia23
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I think some of the best relationships happen when you arenāt actively dating or seeking them out. I know that for my personal experience, I was not dating. I honestly expected to have a single life, but I will admit that I wanted more. I wanted to be a wife, I wanted to be a mom, but I was resigned to the idea that it might not be in store for me. I wasnāt even looking. I met a great man totally by chance, and the rest is history.
I love being married. I love love love being a mom and being a wife. But sometimes, when its been a particularly long and trying day, I secretly miss having the bed to myself and sleeping on the diagonal.
Keep your heart and your mind open to the Spirit that moves us. Doing this is all that matters. The rest will fall into place as it should.
I love being married. I love love love being a mom and being a wife. But sometimes, when its been a particularly long and trying day, I secretly miss having the bed to myself and sleeping on the diagonal.
Keep your heart and your mind open to the Spirit that moves us. Doing this is all that matters. The rest will fall into place as it should.
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Mrs_Sally
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Too funny! I think we all feel that way at one point or another.I think some of the best relationships happen when you arenāt actively dating or seeking them out. I know that for my personal experience, I was not dating. I honestly expected to have a single life, but I will admit that I wanted more. I wanted to be a wife, I wanted to be a mom, but I was resigned to the idea that it might not be in store for me. I wasnāt even looking. I met a great man totally by chance, and the rest is history.
I love being married. I love love love being a mom and being a wife. But sometimes, when its been a particularly long and trying day, *I secretly miss having the bed to myself and sleeping on the diagonal. *
Keep your heart and your mind open to the Spirit that moves us. Doing this is all that matters. The rest will fall into place as it should.
Neither of my teens is dating and I am not rushing them to start. I think the advice about moving forward with your own life and not pining or dating whoever out of habit or desperation is spot on.
Most people talk about meeting their spouse in the course of their normal life - at school, at work, at church. Among my old married friends, I donāt know anyone who met their spouse at a bar, club, or blind date. Among the more recently marrieds I know, none has met their spouse through online dating sites (or bars or clubs).
And of course, being single is not a curse.
Even if you never take the step of being formally consecrated as a lay single, there is still grace available to the single person.
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Aggie414
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You can add me to the list
Iāve quit dating ā at least the on-line scene. I know there are success stories with online dating, but that just doesnāt seem to be the case with most people I know (it also could be that Iām not in a huge metropolitan area so the pool in my area is smaller ā read non-existent). Plus Iām through with long-distance relationships period. I get tired of meeting someone I think might have potential and then they drop off the face of the earth.
Godās going to have to bring him into my path the good old-fashioned way
Iāve quit dating ā at least the on-line scene. I know there are success stories with online dating, but that just doesnāt seem to be the case with most people I know (it also could be that Iām not in a huge metropolitan area so the pool in my area is smaller ā read non-existent). Plus Iām through with long-distance relationships period. I get tired of meeting someone I think might have potential and then they drop off the face of the earth.Godās going to have to bring him into my path the good old-fashioned way
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Luvz2travel
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Sometimes I feel the sameI want in my head to get married, but Iām beginning to wonder if I only want it because itās the proper thing, socially speaking. Iām very happy, though, despite going through the hardest time of my life this year with family/personal issues and LOADs of growing up.
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Luvz2travel
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Congrats
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GEddie
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The dating game is a recipe for male humiliation; I gave it up years ago.
ICXC NIKA
ICXC NIKA
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Marybeloved
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Is it evil that this post made me break out into a little chuckle?
I donāt know why it did. Yeah dating can be harder on the guys, I know thatās true.
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CallMeCatholic
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In antiquity, I should have given up dating before I started. However, God has graced us all with the ability to learn from our mistakes in life, and gain virtue from those experiences. After reading up a bit on JPIIās TOB as well as a few Christian/Catholic dating books, I decided to kick the habit.
I refrained from dating unintentionally the last semester of my junior year of high school, and my entire senior year of high school. The ārevelationā happened midway through my freshman year in college, and Iām currently a sophomore & have yet to go on a ādateā.
I find that the majority of people whoāve inquired about the decision have been shocked & bewildered by the idea of NOT dating in todays society. However, as many as there are that are confused by the idea, there are an equal amount of people who respect the decision & are in favor of it.
With that being said, vocationally speaking, now that I feel I have begun to understand Godās will for my life, I am currently pondering whether or not it is contemptuous to continue to abstain from dating. If we are made aware of our vocational calling in accordance to Godās will, is it self-centered of us not to pursue what God has called us to do?
I refrained from dating unintentionally the last semester of my junior year of high school, and my entire senior year of high school. The ārevelationā happened midway through my freshman year in college, and Iām currently a sophomore & have yet to go on a ādateā.
I find that the majority of people whoāve inquired about the decision have been shocked & bewildered by the idea of NOT dating in todays society. However, as many as there are that are confused by the idea, there are an equal amount of people who respect the decision & are in favor of it.
With that being said, vocationally speaking, now that I feel I have begun to understand Godās will for my life, I am currently pondering whether or not it is contemptuous to continue to abstain from dating. If we are made aware of our vocational calling in accordance to Godās will, is it self-centered of us not to pursue what God has called us to do?
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Lochias
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I tried online dating for a little while, and it just feltā¦wrong. I felt more like a commodity, or product, for the gals to just peruse over than anything else. Iām sure a bunch of gals have felt the same way.
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Oh_Charlotte
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I gave up dating after a really bad marraige. I figured I donāt know how to pick one, and anyway I was very determined to be happy being alone. That would be my whole aim. God would have knock me over and make it quite plain this was His will for me to marry again, if it even ever was. But I would assume not! Particularly now, with my child still in high school. After that, maybe convent life would be Godās call. And I did become quite content alone. And I felt quite well, too. Though last year, quite unexpectedly, God called me to a healing for spiritual wholeness.
It was immediately after that I think I must have taken a nap in the woods and that bumbling Puck must have come along and mistakenly put his potion in my eyes and when I awoke I saw this man and became completely and totally stuck forever. Yes, it worked something just like that! It must be what happened! It was instant and complete! And above all, not in my plans!
I tried not taking communion that first week, because I was ashamed of my obsessing, particularly when God had just done a great work in me, and I had not had made time to confess it. But at Mass, where I expected to feel the brunt of Godās dissatisfaction for my ungrateful ways, He instead filled me with His love, His peace, and His affirming comfort.
That was almost a year ago. Everything changed. We are both seeking annulments that should go through. And meanwhile we are both working towards doing practical things to merge our lives when that does happen. (One might argue I should not presume, however, its sort of like when you are expecting. Best to just expect a healthy baby, and deal with āelseā when that happens, if it does, with the grace of God).
I never knew it was possible to so much enjoy the company of another. We think every single thing each other says is extremely interesting! And really, its just regular stuff. To us, its like lifeblood. It really feels a match made in Heaven.
So I really recommend Not Dating.
It was immediately after that I think I must have taken a nap in the woods and that bumbling Puck must have come along and mistakenly put his potion in my eyes and when I awoke I saw this man and became completely and totally stuck forever. Yes, it worked something just like that! It must be what happened! It was instant and complete! And above all, not in my plans!
I tried not taking communion that first week, because I was ashamed of my obsessing, particularly when God had just done a great work in me, and I had not had made time to confess it. But at Mass, where I expected to feel the brunt of Godās dissatisfaction for my ungrateful ways, He instead filled me with His love, His peace, and His affirming comfort.
That was almost a year ago. Everything changed. We are both seeking annulments that should go through. And meanwhile we are both working towards doing practical things to merge our lives when that does happen. (One might argue I should not presume, however, its sort of like when you are expecting. Best to just expect a healthy baby, and deal with āelseā when that happens, if it does, with the grace of God).
I never knew it was possible to so much enjoy the company of another. We think every single thing each other says is extremely interesting! And really, its just regular stuff. To us, its like lifeblood. It really feels a match made in Heaven.
So I really recommend Not Dating.
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LaMusicaSenior
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I decided not to date when I realized that relationships with guys at this point in my life (senior in higschool) could really mess with my emotions and disconnect me from fully listening to God at this pivitol point in my life, vocation-wise.
Waiting on His timing - still not completly sure Heās calling me to marriage - though I do feel a tendency towards that particlur vocation. Keeping all of you guys and gals in my prayers - would you do the same for me?
Thanks so much and God bless you all,
Chloe M.
Waiting on His timing - still not completly sure Heās calling me to marriage - though I do feel a tendency towards that particlur vocation. Keeping all of you guys and gals in my prayers - would you do the same for me?
Thanks so much and God bless you all,
Chloe M.
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TheRealJuliane
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I wanted to say, I love the way you put that. With that much understanding of the responsibility of marriage, when you do find that special man, you two are going to have a wonderful union. All the best! (You are wise to stop looking as a senior in HS - in no way are you ready for that kind of search.)Marriage is a vocation, so it is going to be hard work (not that I know, right now I am in the season of seperation, trying to discern Godās will for my life as a senior in higschool). But nothing that comes easy is usually worth the effort. ** The beauty of marriage is that, from a girlās perspective, you take a manās flawed heart in your hands, and you let him see all the flaws in yours, and as a couple you work with God to guide each otherās souls to Heaven.
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Easy task? No. Worth it? Yes!
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sicutincensum
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I honestly feel Iāll give up dating for at least one year. Iāll focus on knowing people and making friends instead.
For years Iāve thought that marriage was my vocation. Now Iām beginning to doubt it.
For years Iāve thought that marriage was my vocation. Now Iām beginning to doubt it.
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Crescentinus
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I tend to limit my dating choices to real life ones, since Iāve failed many times in online dating.
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Luvz2travel
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Yes it goes both ways. It seems like a lot of people just want to dabble or window shop. Thatās fine but when someone just disappears without a goodbye or farewell that causes some hurt feelings. I never took it seriously but some really do.
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TrixieMcGee
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SIngleness can be a blessing whether for a period of time or for a life time if that is what you are called to do. I didnāt date until college and didnāt date a whole lot until I met my husband. I dated maybe a total of three years of my life. Well, I guess that isnāt entirely true since I still date my husband. By the by, I really donāt like how some in this thread are bashing marriage. It may not be right for you, but donāt mock what is other peopleās calling from God or say it isnāt worth the challenge that devalues my husband and Iās marriage which is very important to me and is a sacrament.
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austenbosten
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I want marriage but Iām not going to do it via online. Iāve had enough of that. The biggest problem with online dating, is that you spend so much time conversing online that you feel they are a really great match, then you meet them and you are back at square oneā¦but you already know stuff about each other so there really isnāt much to talk about.
Frankly I really donāt understand how these āsuccessful online marriagesā came into being.
I havenāt dated in awhile and thatās frankly because my schedule and cash flow makes it difficult to do so. I might date again, just cause I do enjoy having someone elseās company, and itās good to do stuff with other people.
Frankly I really donāt understand how these āsuccessful online marriagesā came into being.
I havenāt dated in awhile and thatās frankly because my schedule and cash flow makes it difficult to do so. I might date again, just cause I do enjoy having someone elseās company, and itās good to do stuff with other people.
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Crescentinus
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^Story of my life. :3
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